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    Default "cheating" in dreams for the past year, but not really

    I've searched for similar dreams online, as well as doppleganger dreams having to do with your significant other, and I still cannot find anything that mirrors the story I have going long term in my dream world, so I thought I'd stop driving myself crazy on the internets and throw this to the experts.

    I am not having the same dream, but I have the same two key players that are both my boyfriend of three years in a recurring series of dreams with distinctly different narratives. They have basically the same personality, and we do the same types of things things regardless of which version of the boyfriend it is, yet I know distinctly which is which. One is my actual boyfriend, and the other is not, yet we have a very real relationship until my "real" boyfriend shows up, who does not know I have a serious relationship with the "other" one.

    They change outfits and what not in each dream like you would if you were living day to day, yet neither of them have a distinct symbol or article that differentiates them from the other in any way, so I cannot even pinpoint a symbol or theme in that way to garner anymore insight on my own via dictionaries and what not.

    The thing is, I feel like I have a whole and solid relationship with the one, and in my dreams, it is only after he leaves or the one I recognize as my "real" boyfriend shows up that I feel tremendous guilt and realize I "cheated" on him, yet I don't want to give up the other version of him in my dreams, so I continue to see them both and just feel deceitful yet fulfilled in my dreams. Yet I wake up feeling so guilty, and there my "real" boyfriend is, until I really wake up, then I am fine. That happens a lot with these specific dreams as well, waking up in the dream and having a hard time when you really wake up figuring out if you really did dream that or it happened. Sometimes its sex, guilt, "waking up" then sex again (hence the cheaters guilt if I "wake up" and realize I dreamed within a dream about the other one,) and sometimes just watching tv on the couch. Then I "wake up," watch tv with my "real" boyfriend, then really wake up. It's too weird and I hate the way I feel afterwords.

    The only kind of thing I can throw in, is in my dreams my "real" boyfriend will do things he'd never actually do, like leave in the middle of the night because he's mad, or say mean things. My "fake" boyfriend will just be unavailable or at a party when he wants to disappear. But my actual real boyfriend wouldn't do either of those things.

    I really need to figure out what this means mostly because the last year I've been having these dreams, if my in-life boyfriend has something he needs to do and I won't see him for a night or two, which there is always a pretty good reason, and I feel, not by any logical reason whatsoever because he is great, so abandoned when I find out he's not coming to see me or wants me to see him, I can't help but get overwhelmingly sad and just cry for no real reason. This happened in conjunction with the dreams, and I don't want to give up my "fake" boyfriend who is my boyfriend. I think if I can figure this out, there is the key to whatever issue is causing the whole over reactionary emotional thing since it gets worse after these dreams. Thank you for any insight your experience may bring!

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    Default Re: "cheating" in dreams for the past year, but not really

    Dear lisaadrk: Welcome to Dreamcentral. It would appear to me the problem is not with your boyfriend or your boyfriends alter ego (other). The problem is you are looking at your boyfriend for a sense of self worth and self validation. An appreciation of ones own self worth and self validation can only come as a result of your own achievements in life. Most generally all people would get drained in a hurry from another person needing constant attention from them. I think maybe you should take a good look at the interpersonal mechanics at play in this case. Best regards, Bob

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    Hi,
    If he had sex with a known woman means he will do her a favor or a help nothing else..If he had sex with an unknown woman means he will achieve a wish at work nothing else.
    Here are all of the scenarios about sex:

    Sex

    To have sex with a known person means you will do her a favor a help, nothing more.
    If one dreamt had anal sex with his wife or another woman means he is innovator in religion and will do something that is not good for him and he doesn't follow the prophet's way.
    If dreamt had sex with his mother or sister or some immoral relatives means his relations with the family will cut and means a sorrow also he won't see that relative any more.
    If dreamt had sex generally means achieving a wish.
    If dreamt two woman or two men had sex means one will do the other a big favor.
    If dreamt someone had sex with his wife means her family will get rich or will buy houses.
    If dreamt had sex with his wife and the woman was over him means he will marry another woman.
    If dreamt had sex with a virgin girl means he will marry in the same year.
    If dreamt had sex with the governor's wife means he will overcome the enemy.
    If dreamt had sex with a wild animal means he will overcome the enemy.
    Some interpreters say will have fears by the governor.
    If dreamt had sex with a bird will overcome someone who is interpreted as that bird.
    If dreamt had sex with a jew or Zoroastrian means his material situation will arrange.
    If an old woman or old man whose passion is gone dreamt had passion like when he was young means he/she will like very much to do religious duties and prayers.
    If dreamt had sex with a prostitute means he will like the material world and will receive immoral money.
    If one dreamt had sex with a camel means he will rescue from a sorrow and a hard situation also will overcome the rival and will be somewhat famous.
    If dreamt had sex with a president or a governor means will be near to the governor.
    If dreamt had sex with the queen or the governor's wife means he will receive benefits from the governor.
    If dreamt had sex with a woman who was in her cycle means his situation will be worse.
    If dreamt had sex with a woman who is passed away means his situation will be worse till he marry one of her relatives.
    If dreamt had sex with a known woman means he will be far from her relatives.
    If dreamt had sex with a known man means will receive a benefit from him.
    If dreamt had sex with an unknown man means will his wish by the governor.
    If dreamt had sex with a dead man means will pray for the dead or will do a charity for his sake.
    If a woman dreamt had sex with another woman means she will do her a favor.
    Some interpreters say if had sex with a woman in her cycle means his affairs in material world will be easy.
    If dreamt had sex with a passed away woman means a sorrow.
    If dreamt had sex with an unknown dead woman means he will succeed in a job that was disappointed.
    If dreamt had sex with a known young man that they are in fight means their enmity will turn to love.
    If dreamt had sex with an old woman means will receive a benefit and goodness.
    Dreams are scenes of daily day happenings in real life when interpreted will come and pass.This may happen in the near future in a few days to a month or two.
    People are asleep, when die they will wake up.
    42. God takes the souls at the time of their death, and those that die not during their sleep; then He withholds those on whom He has passed the decree of death and sends the others back till an appointed term; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.

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