Redheaded woman, baby. Angry wife.

[weirddreamer]

Well, last night I had a dream that I think is possible to come true.

First I'd like to say I'm married. We have good times and really bad times like most people. I don't have any children yet, I'm 21.

We went to some person's house. It was a person I don't know in real life right now, but apparently knew in a dream. A beautiful redhead who had a beautiful baby in her arms. My wife didn't look as if she was amused, the whole time everything was going on.

My wife, I and the woman were talking for awhile while I was looking after the baby. I felt uneasy. Something was wrong with the relationship between me and my wife. Eventually my wife called me over, I sat on the arm of the couch and hung my head in what seemed to be shame, she was standing on the floor in front of me, the red head was sitting on the couch a seat away from me with the baby on her lap. . . The baby was significant. I felt a very strong connection and familiarity with both the baby and the woman. I don't know what was said before what comes next, but the next part struck me . . . hard.

The woman looked at me teary eyed and said, "I miss you. . . ". A tear rolled from her eye down her cheek and I started crying uncontrollably. I knew I loved her. I was sobbing and trying to think of a way to tell my wife . . .

That's all I remember. When I woke up, I realized that the baby was supposed to be mine. . . I then attempted to goto sleep again thinking of them to see if there was anything else, but I couldn't get to sleep with my mind racing.

Do you think it could be prophetic? I've had prophetic dreams often. Dreaming of a situation then maybe up to a month later it comes true in exactly the same way. In fact sometimes in my dreams I am talking about deja vu. Sometimes it seems like I've experienced an event an innumerable amount of times in the exact same way. Mostly it just causes deja vu in real life, but if this came true . . . This is quite serious. If it could be averted, some people won't be hurt. However, if it were averted, that wonderous child wouldn't be born. Maybe it was just a dream.

[Athanor]

It’s probably more likely that your dream is dealing with an interior problem instead of predicting a future meeting with another woman because it’s been estimated that about 85% of dreams deal with inner aspects of the dreamer rather than with outer persons.

Probably an important clue to your dream could be found in what was happening a day or two before it appeared. Or has there been a situation or problem that you’ve been thinking about for awhile?

Of course there’s no sure way of deciding which approach fits better here, an inner or an outer one, but in general terms, when viewing the red headed woman as an inner figure, she could represent overall your feeling personality, your sensitivity and your awareness of inner things.

If this part of you is less well developed as it is in most men, then dealing with the normal difficulties encountered in the personal aspects of marriage could result in your tending to want to escape from reality into a less well defined fantasy state where certain illusions may feel very comforting (beautiful loving redhead).

The image of a wife in dreams usually relates to the practical side of life, so your wife’s reaction in the dream seems to support the idea that you may sometimes want to flee the demands of everyday compromise etc. in a search for a perfect quiet state of affairs. Your hanging your head in shame might be the dream’s way of saying “This is how you should feel about this state of affairs”.

However, it’s not really possible to provide an accurate interpretation of your dream without knowing a lot about you and the spontaneous memories and thoughts that come to your mind about each image in the dream.

If you’re interested in gaining more insight into the nature of this inner woman who affects your relationships so much, you might like a book by analyst Robert Johnson called “She”. Your wife might like to read his book called “He”, and then you could both read the one called “We”. A good marriage relationship needs a lot of work to help make it succeed, and knowing something about what’s going on inside of each partner goes a long way in helping to smooth out any conflicts. So good luck in working things out and having no “really bad times” happening again.