Dreaming of future children

[aaronre31]

Here is my story. I am 31 and when I was a teenager in high school I had a very vivid dream that I even then had a feeling was a dream that I would see come true. 9 years ago it began to come true and about 6 years ago the full circle was made. I dreamt that I would have a baby girl. I did not know her name but I knew what she would look like. Her mom in my dream left us both...just up one day decided she didn't want her life anymore and left. My daughter and I were a pair from day one and took care of each other, alone...just the two of us. My dream wasn't very elaborate, so that was basically it. (In real life) I met my wife when I was 21. Even while I was standing in that Las Vegas wedding hall, I knew what my future held, I knew...I knew how it was gonna play out and even so, I was way shocked when 24 hours later a stolen pregnancy test displayed a + sign. My dream was acctually coming true!?! I however was not shocked when she cheated on me, with my daughter to be still in her tummy. Wounded and hurt, yes, but not shocked. I expected her infidelity, even waited for it. When I found out about it, I did what any person who didn't want the future they had seen to acctually happen...I fought it. We watched ultrasound after ultrasound with her family rooting for a boy. I didn't need an ultrasound to tell me that the baby was a girl. I spent the following years in a marriage that was broken and spiteful trying to turn it around. When my daughter was put into my arms, I shared with her my dream...I told her that her mommy was gonna be gone in a few years but that I was always gonna love her and always gonna be there for her. About the 3rd time my wife cheated, I gave up the fight and just waited for the day she would leave. Well the day she left never came and instead we were kicked out. For years my little girl and I lived with my parents. We are still a pair and my whole dream came true...well except for the very important part of my life that is now deviating from the dream. Next week she is about to have a brother. I got remarried and my wife is pregnant. What if I were to say that I don't feel like this child is my child. I have spent my entire young adult life knowing that my daughter was gonna be the only child I had. I don't know how else to explain it. I know that I am gonna love this kid. I've spent this entire pregnancy fighting with my wife cuz of how close her family is...its suffocating. Her mom has been to every Dr. appointment, and is gonna be in the delivery room and is gonna offer her unwanted advice, and I feel like I haven't gotten the emotional connection with this new baby cuz of the closeness my wife and her family share. I have been so worked up about her family, that I never stopped to consider that maybe...just maybe I've taken this dream a little to seriously. After all, in the dream we were alone together, and yet here I am married again. What do you think?

[pikka]

I think you will share this child with her family and if you want to be included, just get used to the family being around. Include the heck out of them.