Recurring nightmare (warning, mild sexual content)

[chibichan1701]

This dream has happened twice that I can remember.
I am not trying to be offensive to any readers who are offended by material of a sexual nature. I cannot understand the meaning of this dream (nightmare?). I am merely writing the description of the dream as it happened. If you are offended by it, fine. Please don't chide, scold, or "flame" against me for seeking help with what could be perceived as an inappropriate topic for a public forum. Please Keep an open mind.


(some brief background.) I am very happily living with a beautiful woman who shall remain nameless for the sake of this discussion. She and I love each other more than we can easily measure. We have been in this state for two years now. She and I have an active and mutually satisfying sex life.
Less than 2 months before she met me, she ended what had been a nearly 5 year bout of manic depression. This was brought on by the death (suicide) of a man she had been in love with. During those five years, she engaged in several unsatisfactory relationships with other men. She ended all of the relationships on her own terms, and recognizes (now that she has returned to normal, un-masochistic, thought) that each and every man she dated was horrible to her, and was chosen as an extension of her feeling that she didn't deserve anything better. She had finally come to terms with the death of her first love and had moved on. Then we met, and we have both been extremely happy ever since. We now have our own apartment, and have lunch together every day at work (sperate companies, right across the street from one another)

So, on to the actual problem. (for the sake of Anonymity I will refer to my girlfriend only as "she")

Last month I dreamt that she and I were living at my parents farmhouse. I suppose the setup was that we were now living there. Perhaps my parents had moved away. All the furniture I had grown up with was there. It was nighttime. There is a futon in the family room/den that doubles as a sofa. In this instance, it was folded out as a bed. The room is actually only connected to the rest of the house by a small section with a door. Essentially, there are windows on three sides of the room. All were dark. It felt like night in the dream. She and I were standing near the bed (futon). Another figure walked into the room. I could not see who it was, he was shrouded by darkness. That is to say, his face was in shadows. He stood next to her, facing her, not speaking.
He wore nothing. body was dark. He was not black, or perhaps he was. His whole body was in shadow, so all I could see of him was his figure, which was that of a physically fit man about my height (6'2"). She looked at me, said something like "it's okay, I want this" or something similar. In any case, she assured me that she was willing to go through with whatever was about to happen. Had it been a lucid dream, I would have removed this stranger with great force. As it was, my mind was my own, but my actions were not.
I sat down at the corner of the foot of the bed, on the floor. Perhaps I was on my knees. The man embraced her, and she him. He laid her down on the bed and kissed her. She leaned into his embrace and kiss the way she does when I show similar affections to her. He drew off her clothing. She allowed him to do it, raising the parts of her body neccesary to facilitate disrobing without hesitation. Her bare skin was exposed to this man, and he ran his hands over her, caressing her. She uttered sounds of encouragement to him. All the while I sat and watched. I couldn't look away. I wanted to throw this man off of her and ask her why she would do this, but every time I thought about it she would (as if she could read my thoughts) look over at me and tell me "it's okay". My heart hurt. (you know that feeling you get after you stretch and your heartbeat suddenly feels so strong you can feel it in your chest? I felt that) Tears ran down my cheeks as she offered words of encouragement to this man. He put his hands on her (exact location omitted, but you get the idea) and the perspective of the dream took on a third person perspective. My view was a closeup of this man's hands on her. Then the view switched to her face. She had her head pressing back into the bed, her face euphoric. The man positioned himself to enter her. I was overcome by despair. As he made the thrusting motion, I woke up. I wasn't panting, I wasn't in a cold sweat, but the feeling of despair and the heavy heartbeat remained. I looked over, and she was sleeping peacefully next to me. I turned to face her, pressed up against her and put my arm around her. She didn't wake. I soon fell asleep again. There were other dreams that night, but they were the usual whimsical nonsense I dream about.


Then again, last week I had the dream again, only slightly different. Instead of taking place at my parents old farmhouse, this one took place in our own bedroom. The man appeared, cloaked in shadow. I submitted to her assurance that this was what she wanted, and watched as hands caressed her and gave her pleasure. Hands that did the same things I do to her, hands that were...not...mine. And I sat, broken. At the moment of penetration, when she made a sound of ecstacy, I awoke. Just like before, I felt empty. I felt like I suppose I would if she left me. Just as before though, I looked over and she was still there. I wrapped my arms around her. She awoke this time, and embraced me as well, and we fell asleep that way.
I told her about the dream the next day, and she didn't know what to tell me. She and I are both clueless as to the message these dreams are trying to convey.

Enough rambling on my part. Does anyone have any insight? Anything at all? This dream had me in a very bad state for a day or two. Even now, just typing the description, my hands were shaking.

[Varzandeh]

Hi,
Don't worry at all, dream language is sometimes disgusting.Now a few dream symbols based on mythology.
If a man dreamt an unknown man or a few men had sex with his wife this is a symbol that the family of the woman will get richer for example a few of them will buy houses.
If a man dreamt his wife went for corruption to other people if known means the husband will receive benefits from the man.
As if a man had sex with a known woman means he will do her a favor this is the same for ladies.having sex means to do a favor.
We have many such a sex dreams in our 26000 dreams archive in the old forum and you can search in it.
Also it is usuall for two men or two ladies to dream to have sex and it is another disgusting dream symbol that means one will do the other a favor.
Once two politicians came to my office and locked the door , they were disgusted and both had dreams of having sex with each other I said one will do the other a big favor and after two months one called me that the other has given him a flat with a low price.

[Varzandeh]

Dream language interpretation is an ancient science of allusions and pointing of the surrounded environment, as Mr. Einstein has said the events are like train stations which exist and we are moving towards them, these are prewritten destiny with some authority ( in decision making seconds) in very full details. This dream language should be translated, and interesting to know it is international and common for all human beings. But ignorance causes some misunderstanings.People were not aware of this language and always thought in a bad way , for example Mr. Freud said about sexual dreams it is because you have suppressed your sexual desires so misled everybody and some women dreamt about having sex with co-workers or another and thought they should do that, while it only meant he will do something for her, or some others dreamt had sex with the same sex and invented homosexual, while it meant the same ,Also some men dreamt his wife had sex with a man and didn't understand or a woman dreamt her partner had sex with a woman and didn't' understand ...etc.Do you see what catastrophes are caused by misunderstanding a language. About the approximate interpretation time table: Dreams at noon or exactly at midnight( In the summer time 13 at noon and 1 midnight else at 12)in the same day if past a few minutes, a few days later. Dreams at 10-11 in the morning in 15-30 days later. Also dreams at 3-4 in the evening in 1-2 months .Dreams in the sunset mostly are not truthful and are messed, they have no interpretations, Dreams at 4-5 in the morning in a few days to 2 months some dreams in the holy books( Josef dream of kneeling the sun and the moon and 11 stars)was interpreted after 20 years and other dreams of the Pharaoh's prisoners interpreted in the same day and after 7 years. Dream of Pharaoh about the 7 thin cows and 7 fat cows interpreted from the next year to 14 years. Also dreams in 6th of the month will interpret after 1-2 days, in 9th at the same day, in 10th after 20 days, in 13th after 9 days in 14th after 26 days and in 15th after 3 days, in 16th after 2 days and in 28th ,29th ,30th in the same day, but these are solar (Persian months and you should refer to a calendar or convert them) . Of course there are different kinds of dreams , like messy dreams which have no interpretations or deja vu dreams, or psychological dreams or dreams which are caused by bad food or drinks.

[Tish]

I would say this dream shows an unconscious anxiety about your partner's previous lover who died. It is saying, "Would she prefer to have him back instead of me?" The man is in shadow/unseen because you didn't know him, so he is an unknown rival, and that makes it hard for you to feel you can compete; it may also be because you are wondering whether he is "hidden" in her mind. Two years into your relationship is probably a time when you are feeling a little unsure about whether it will go on being as good as it has been, or whether the bubble is about to burst. The placing in your parents' house refers to your mind, it's where you grew up. Don't worry about it any more. You say you know she loves you, that's all that matters.