Someone trying to get me

[paulamarie68]

My husband deployed early this month overseas and since he's been gone, I've been having dreams where someone is trying to get me. In one dream a man shrouded in shadows is trying to get in my house-I'm frantically locking windows, doors and call the police who find noone but I have a bad feeling knowing he's out there.
Another dream: A man is holding me up and about to throw me over a balcony-I'm begging and pleading for my life. He throws me but I manage to hang on to the balcony.
I never usually have bad dreams. In the past if I've had a dream that I don't like I've been able to tell myself it's only a dream or actually change what's going on but these dreams seem to happen so quickly-then I wake up. My husband thinks it's because he's not around to protect me but I don't feel that I'm not safe. I'm worried about the place he's gone to, concerned for his safety-could it be I'm displacing the person I'm worried over? It does't make sense to me that I'm dreaming something is going to happen to me when I am concerned that something is going to happen to him.
If anyone has any idea what it could be, I would appreciate any help!!

[idgy]

Hello Paulamarie,
I sometimes have the exact same dream as you. I’m frantically running around the house trying to close the doors and windows, as I think something evil is trying to get in. I never, ever see this thing and it never gets in. I dream this, even though my husband is with me and I am not in the same situation as you are. I think such dreams are purely emotional.

I think it is just your feeling of anxiousness about your husband coming out in a dream. You want to stop something you fear from happening. I’m afraid that I can’t offer you any way to clear this dream, as I have never quite worked out how to clear my own version of the same dream. Previously, when I have had dreams of running away, I have turned around to face the pursuer, only for it to become something quite nice. With these dreams it is all about what the dreams makes you feel and in this case, you have a great fear.

You say that you have been able to control and change dreams in the past, so you have been lucid. Maybe this could be of some help to you. The next time I have this dream, maybe I will try to remember to just open the door and look outside to face the fear and see what happens. I will let you know if I ever do this.

I think it is only natural for you to feel anxious about your husband, and as long as you are feeling this way, your dreams will reflect this. The only thing that I think may help you would be to try to watch your thoughts and prevent yourself from dwelling on his safety too much, and don’t cook up scenarios and ‘what ifs’ in your mind. Maybe try to learn some relaxation techniques or meditation to still your mind a bit.
Good luck.

[paulamarie68]

It's hard to not worry about his safety, but you are right. I'll try to not dwell on it but just hate it. The relaxation advice is a good idea-hopefully that will work. Thanks for responding. I will try to face the stranger the next time, it just seems to happen so fast! It never occured to me to face it-I guess i've just been to scared to.