Please help.

[mysteriousdreammer2005]

Last week, one of my friends, that's been like a mother figure to me, & I got into an arguement & right now we aren't really on talking terms. (Mainly on my behalf because I don't want to say something that will ruin our friendship) Well, since this has happened, I keep having these dreams where we get into the arguement & end up never talking again.

Here's the dream: My friend & I get into the arguement that we really have. We don't talk for a while & then she calls me or something & we end up meeting each other. My friend says something that really hurt me (like a knife cutting my heart out). My friend says, "I don't know why the hell you went behind my back & did what you did, but you're a B***H! I never want to see you again." (she said some other things but I can't remember what they were). I get really hurt & as she walks away, I can't help but cry because of what she said. Then like a year later, I find out that she was in an accident on the way home from work. (Someone that had it out for her & wanted her dead for arresting them 10 years earlier). One of my other friends told me that she was in an accident so I rush over to the hospital. Her husband sees me & says "Thanks for coming. She's really bad. THe docs said that she might not make it." & he starts crying. " Darrel,she's going to pull through. She's a fighter. You know that & I know that. Besides, she wouldn't want to leave you so soon, not with out a proper goodbye. She loves you too much." Well, I go to the hospital everyday to see her since the hospital she is in is down the street from me. My friend pulls through. She sees me & said, "I thought that I told you that I never wanted to see you again?!" "I heard what happened. I couldn't let something that you said to me from last year keep me from coming to see you pull through. Besides, I was wherey of coming but your husband wanted me to come." I said. "I don't want you here. Leave", she said. "NO! Not untill I tell you something.-", I said. "I don't want to hear it" she said. "Deal with it. Not until I tell you something. You hurt me when you told me what you said. Especially since you have been like a mother to me since I lost my mother. I trusted you. I guess I trusted you a little too much. Then when you hurt me like a knife in the heart with the words that you said to me, I never wanted to talk to you again. I kept thinking that everything was my fault. Then I realized that if I don't patch things up with you or try to, then something bad will happen to one of us & the other person will regret what they said to the other person. I'm not one to sit back & let someone trash me like you did but since you're an officer I let you do that. I let you walk all over me. I was afraid of you at that time & right now, I'm bitting my toung on alot of what I wanted to tell you. I care about you & don't want anything bad to happen to you regardless of our friendship. Just know that we need to talk more about what's going on when you're out of the hospital. But for now that's all I have to say. I'll leave you alone. Darral, please have her call me when she's out. Get better soon. I want you back out on the streets to get that bas*tard that nearly killed you. Later." And I walked out. About 2 weeks go by when I recieve a call from my friend. We get together & talk.

That's all I can remember at this time. Can someone please help me. It's really bothering me. I don't want something to happen. I still care for her even though we aren't talking. PLEASE HELP.

[mysteriousdreammer2005]

Can someone please help me? I don't know if this is just a nightmare or a prophit dream. I just was to know if my mind is playing tricks on me because I am mad at a friend or if this is something else.

[Jennings]

I would suggest that your dream was neither a nighmare nor is it prophetic. It seems as if you have been emotionally wounded by someone meaningful to you (and especially if you felt demeaned by her actions) then your mind would be re-enacting the event in an attempt to heal this wound and it will keep doing so until other more immediate events to you life begin to block-out the experience or the rift is healed or repaired. The dream indicates that you would like to express or prove your sincerity and friendship, and to repair the relationship, but you also harbour fears that she will continue to reject you. It proves that she is of value to you as a person. I doubt if harm will come to either of you except through pure coincidence.

[mysteriousdreammer2005]

But why do I keep dreaming thins when I am not thinking of it?

[Jennings]

It does seem that she is in some way meaningful to you and as such deep down inside you there are some unresolved issues which surface during sleep; this is normal and natural. You do appear to have been emotionally hurt and need time to heal the wound which is fairly normal.

[goth_boy_Nick]

Could it be just a fear of her permanently turning away from you?

[mysteriousdreammer2005]

I don't know. All I do know is that regardless of the dream, I don't want anyting to happen to her. For some reason, I want to believe that something will happen. I don't know what to do.

[Jennings]

It is only the feeling of revenge through having been hurt; it is a reactionary feeling and very normal. You do not have to do anything except wait for the next episode.

[mysteriousdreammer2005]

What episode? The "series" finaley was last night. I saw her last night and she compleatly ignored me. She doesn't want anything to do with me any more and I am starting to think that it may be a good thing.

[Jennings]

Surely you cannot be certain; you must allow time for rifts to heal. She too is obviously upset which means that the two of you have hurt each other; who then will have the magnanimity to break this impasse? Firstly, do allow a little time to intervene, but not too long, then tell her that you felt hurt by your differences and you would like to restore your friendship with her; its worth trying.