My Opinion on Dreams

[Gyzty87]

Hi there,

This is basically just my opinion or a question perhaps on what people actually think about this subject.
I dream practically every night, without fail. If i were to interpret these dreams every time, then i'm guessing that it would make me kind of crazy right? you can't possibly live your life on what your unconscious tells you? You need to make a decision but have to wait an hour or so, so that you can have a snooze and let your unconscious tell you what to do?
I suppose i'm kind of a sceptic really but i still dream every night?
Sometimes, if i've watched a vampire movie, i will dream about vampires.
Yet more often than not i end up dreaming about something that i know is true in my life or things that are happening at that time. So how do you know which ones to interpret and which ones are just the events of the cool vampire film being replayed in your sleep???

Last night i had the most disturbing dream I've had for a long time, which was so real that i woke up in tears and has bugges me all day and made me crave affection and love from my boyfriend.
I dreamt that he was killed.
When i met him a year ago, he had split up with his ex, who he has a child to, now this relationship (as all are) was very complicated they had been together for 4 years.
I had also just split up with my ex who i had been with for 4 years, we were both very vulnerable, but we liked each other (him more than me first off - he told me he loved me in the first week) we moved in together after about 3 months him into my house and then after 6 bought a house. Accepting another womans child into your life and personal space is a very difficult and emotional turmoil to go through but i did it and everything was great and we all go used to each other.
Anyway, it turned out that he'd been sleeping with her behind my back a couple of times. So we broke up, and then after a week or so we tried to work it out. I did love him and still do but obviously there are issues with trust and confidence from my side. He still sees his daughter once a week for a full day, which i cope with, but sometimes i have thoughts about him that can be quite cruel, it is obvious that i have some resentment issues to deal with.
Basically, the story is much much longer than that, but in this dream, i couldn't cope with not trusting him and being unhappy because his ex is constantly trying to cause bother even though she now has a new boyfriend. I told him that i was leaving him and he broke into my car and drove away, crashing the car and dying. I woke up in tears after being told by a little girl in my dream when i walked up to the door of my house that he was in there and he would always stay by my side and never stop loving me.

Now this site's interpretation of death is this:-

For years in our family it has meant that someone in the family would soon be wed and the wedding would be beautiful. In some circles it means a birth, the opposite of death.

Now, we are engaged to be married so i'm sure there will be a wedding at some point, providing i can cope with this relationship, and i know i'm not pregnant, but we are thinking about planning for a family??

Now is that a coincidence, as i didnt look at the dictionary before i went to sleep last night, yet how can the dictionary ring true for every person that looks at it?

This is seriously weird stuff, but all i know is that i am still upset and disturbed by this dream, as everytime i think about the painof never seeing him again i felt in the dream it hurts. It makes me want to try harder at this relationship because i couldn't bear to not have him in my life.

Now, i think i've interpreted my own dream as most times i do, yet if anybody has any thoughts or opinions on this, i would be seriously interested in hearing them.

Thanks for listening. All replies welcome.

Gyzzy xxxx

'Everything happens for a reason, it's finding out the reason that is the hard part'

[Jennings]

Who then is the mixed-up kid; the dream or you? There would probably not be a thought in your conscious mind unless it arose from some other source or stimulus. You say that you are an active dreamer and also vulnerable; both lend support to the other; they are, in effect, synergistic. The dream dictionary, in addition to being helpful also possesses its downside in that it can be misleading and limiting. Try to understand what dreams are saying rather than what the dictionary is suggesting is happening. The dictionary is more like a rule-of-thumb rather than a precise measurement.

Death does not mean birth; it never has in my readings. Death is as described, 'the end' but, it is not usually connected to the end of a life but more to that of relationships and especially to those closely connected to you emotionally. Vampires in dreams frequently indicate a part of the dreamer's personality that has not been fully integrated, a part that is either hidden or rejected and yet sometimes fostered or encouraged by the dreamer.

Dreams are tales or stories and like all stories they possess a theme; it is this theme that determines the nature of the dream and how its contents should be interpreted; remembering that most dreams are allegorical; like the parables of the bible or the tales such as Aesop's or those of folklore.

Being able to interpret dreams, especially one's own, does not lend to craziness but quite the opposite; it assists in unravelling what is either occurring to one's life or what is important to one so it becomes a useful tool for self-development; lucid dreaming is particularly helpful in this direction and is a worthy feature to possess. Other aspects to living, like watching a film, can be reguritated in one's dreams which would frequently indicated that nothing more exciting or alarming is happening to one's life at that moment.

You are not skeptical but you do sound young and inexperienced (this statement sure makes me feel really old).

Having provided this direction, does it help to understand more of your dream?