Why am I always a bridesmaid in a wedding?

[lilolehs]

I keep dreaming there's a wedding and I'm a bridesmaid. Last night, it was my sister's (married in real life) wedding and we were late in getting started and still trying to decide what the bridesmaids were going to wear.

I was going through lots of clothes I'd found that I didn't know I owned and was wondering why the bride hadn't decided what we should all wear ahead of time. It seemed we should all be wearing the same thing, but that wasn't going to happen.

As the dream went on I kept discovering new clothes. I started out with lots of old junk, but by the end, I was looking at some really nice things I didn't know I had (including lingerie), but I also wanted to find something that was along the same theme for the other two bridesmaids. I had to be sure there was at least one similar set for my niece, who was also with me.

Then I started asking the bride if she wasn't worried that we were starting so late. It was already 4:00 and the wedding should have started a half hour ago, but we weren't even dressed! She didn't seem worried at all.

[unclesirbobbyrobson]

Well dreams deal with concepts and feelings. If you are a bridesmaid at a wedding it may signiofy a similar situation in terms of the emotions. If you are a bridesmaid then it may signify two things

1. there is a situiation where you feel left out. Chjeering and supporting someone elses great day and good fortune.

2. A situation where you realise that you should not take center stage. That you should not take the attention from someone else. was there some situatiobn where you have been trying to avoid taking center stage the day before? But perhaps not sure how that should be done

Thats a few ideas anyway

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Dreams are fascinating but maybe its best not to delve too deeply into their meanings and seek advice. Try not to rely on them as dreams are notoriously difficult to interpret. Yet they do tend to concentrate on recent events and new feelings. You should be able to spot the formation of your own conceptual emotions(with some practice).Deeply hidden inside a dream is some conception perhaps to the previous day. Some slight change in your own thoughts (so concentrate on those changes and see if they maybe featured in the dream).

The main fascination of dreams is how they link to the storage and formation of conceptual feelings. Conceptual feelings must be stored in the brain and perhaps the dreams that we have show how we store such ideas. Instead of using the word STRUGGLE the dream mind instead uses a situation involving a struggle. Instead of using the phrase "closer and closer" the dream mind instead uses the symbol of golf where the object is to get closer and closer to some eventual aim (to pot the ball).

Instead of trying to interpret your dreams just go to your own conceptual feelings and then see what recent thoughts could feature in your reams. Say some argument or situation from the day before. Maybe your dream could link to some task or issue about to be faced on the actual day of the dream?


These pages are especially helpful in showing you how to interpret dreams

Dream symbolism and dream dictionary interpretation - How to interpret dreams Interpreting dreams
Dream symbolism - How to use dream symbols Triggers for dreams
A dream dictionary that explores the variety of meanings in a dream symbol Dream dictionary

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[lilolehs]

I don't know how you do it, but you always manage to touch on some issue.

The wedding was my sister's. My sister has always taken center stage all my life. I've always taken the support role and still tend to do so with all the people in my life (even now that I've distanced myself from her). That is where I'm most comfortable and have a really difficult time even with developing my gifted areas because I'm uncomfortable being center stage. I suspect getting out of my comfort zone holds me back now that I'm in a place where, if I'm to succeed in business or anything else, I need to get over that. In some sense, I almost see it as wrong to be anything else, though (not consciously, but in some other way, if that makes sense).

Maybe I'm overanalyzing...

[unclesirbobbyrobson]

That seems like a strong connection. If someone is in the dream and that person has not rreally featured in your thoughts recently then they may appear as a symbol. Here the dream is not about your sister but a type of relationship or behavior that exists. How then has the theme or type of relationship been featuring. You seem to have found that connection.

Here though you are still the bridesmaid. Perhaps the dream is about you trying to persist with the need to be suppoprting rather than in control and center stage.

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Dreams can use one set of emotions from the past to show how we are feeling something very similar right now. That’s where many dreams can be misinterpreted. Many psychologists point to deep and traumatic events that we are bringing up within our dreams. Yet they are mistaken. The dream is not about that incident. The dream is comparing that traumatic incident to some current situation with something that has just happened. Yet because the dream seems to be about the event in the past we assume that’s what the dream is about. But in reality dreams will be often simply saying "yesterday was as bad as what happened last year". Many times we seem very upset and things seem chaotic but after a good nights sleep the previous day’s events will be put in perspective. It may have seemed a nightmare when we couldn't get the printer to work or when everything seemed to go wrong for you on a particular day. Dreams depict events in our head. Our mind often exaggerates situations and feelings. So many times these crises within our mind get quickly forgotten. But dreams will deal with these here to day and gone tomorrow emotions.

These pages are especially helpful in showing you how to interpret dreams

Dream symbolism and dream dictionary interpretation - How to interpret dreams Interpreting dreams
Dream symbolism - How to use dream symbols Triggers for dreams
A dream dictionary that explores the variety of meanings in a dream symbol Dream dictionary

[lilolehs]

You know, it's very weird. I got up to check my email and read this message and realized I had ANOTHER dream about being a bridesmaid for my sister's wedding last night. Again, I was one of three bridesmaids, only this time, all of us bridesmaids were wearing white, as well as the bride. I wondered how people could tell who was who.

We were about to go down the isle when I realized I was wearing a long white dress and people might mistake me for the bride, and that just didn't seem right, so I discovered I had some magical powers and adjusted the length of my dress so people could tell I wasn't the bride and I added a few ruffles, as well. Then I started adding some frills to her dress but I had to start walking down the isle as I'd run out of time.

My mother was not "following the rules" and was mindlessly walking next to me as we were walking down the isle. I tried to explain someone was supposed to seat her, but she was standing up front with us. Things were getting messed up. I didn't remember where to stand (and realized I was in the maid of honor position), and then I'm not sure what happened, but it was a bit chaotic.

Now that I think a moment, (in real life) I realize I spent some time with an older female friend who'd just experienced her daughter's wedding. It was a bit traumatic for her as she had to cope with being single while her ex had brought his girlfriend and one of her sons confronted her while drunk. I was trying to be supportive.

Maybe that was all it was about this time. I was in a very good mood when I went to sleep last night, so not sure why the dream ended up so chaotic.

[lilolehs]

Actually... I was looking at your links (Bobby) and I do have to honestly admit that I still have "that relationship" on my mind and have been constantly thinking about committment issues for myself, and whether romantic relationships are worth the trouble for me. I know weddings represent committment issues, and I'm seriously having conflicts in my own heart about whether any kind of commitment is smart for me, even though the thought having someone in my life has a strong pull for me. In my heart, I really doubt my capability of having a healthy relationship (that doesn't make it difficult for me to function for my family), but I do long for one.

I have to be honest and say this has been on my mind, but having stayed away from this man for several weeks, I'm actually quite happy. I'd like to be his friend, but it's obvious I can't without huge emotional struggle. The only reason I bring this up is that your dictionary refers to sisters as representing "new ways of thinking" and facing issues, and weddings representing commitment. I can't seem to put it together, though.

Last night, as I was falling asleep I was quite happy being single (having spent the day supporting a friend and then later enjoying the movies with my little twins), even though I did think of how nice it would be to have gone to a movie with a fun man and all the stuff that goes with that. I remember thinking that my life is very good, with only this one thing missing, and to just enjoy what I do have without focusing on what's missing. That it's better to be thankful.

Do you see a connection? I ask, because I know those were my conscious thoughts upon falling asleep last night.

[unclesirbobbyrobson]

Its interesting what you say. Its about finding the key. A sister can symbolise a sister but can also symbolise anything else. Its so difficult to pick out what are actually the symbols. A dream may feature a sister and maybe about your sister. It maybe also about the type of way that your sister behaves and that has some theme in real life. It may also have an entirely symbolic meaning.

My best guess is that it does link to this friend whose daughter got married. Try to relate the dream to IMMEDIATE activities and immediate thought proeccess. Its really about issues HOT off the press.

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It is actually possible to understand what dreams mean. Simply look at the effects on people who have gone without sleep for a long time period. If you are deprived of sleep for several days then you will slip into madness. The reason for this is that sleep and dreams are linked to vital brain functions.

During the day we store up new thoughts and experiences within short term memory blocks. So if we are deprived sleep these become overloaded. The mind has no more space to store new feelings so these are merely forgotten.

During sleep vital brain waves emerge. Beta waves and theta waves are only ever detected within the brain at night. These help us process through those new feelings and experiences stored in short term memory. We integrate these new feelings into long term memory blocks. So if you do not sleep then you will not be updating your thoughts. You will not be building a bigger picture.

A dream dictionary that explores the variety of meanings in a dream symbol DREAM DICTIONARY
Dream symbolism and dream dictionary interpretation - How to interpret dreams Some tips
Dream symbolism - How to use dream symbols How to use dreams symbols

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[lilolehs]

Thank you... your links are quite informative!