Breaking up.!

[beLLa*]

First off i'd like to thank sarahsimagination, Wolfjk, IrisRavenstar, and karmicresponse for helping me correctly interperate my previous dream. Ok, so anyone that read my 'Meeting the Family' post knows that I have been having some dream anxieties about my boyfriend. But last night I had another dream about him... except this time I broke up with him. He was sitting on a couch and I sat with him. He was smiling at me and then I turned away and said 'We're over.' He thought I was joking and he laughed and said 'Whatever' so I said that we're over again but I was crying at this point and I wouldn't look at him. He was like 'You're serious?' he looked like he was going to cry.. then I woke up. The whole time this was going on it was like I was watching myself do this. When I said that we were over its like I didn't want to say that.... in a sick kind of way I wanted to see his reaction to our breaking up. Except it was hurting me just as much as it was hurting him. If you guys have any idea as to what this could mean please let me know.

[karmicresponse]

Dear Bella*: Welcome back it appears that in your dream you were testing your present relationship. Try as we will test for loyalties, rarely does that approach work. Only time and life experience can achieve those things. I kind of get subconscious vibrations early into a relationship or friendship as to the permanance of it all. According to psychological studies the one quality that cements most friendships is simply a "willingness to go along" on in both parties. Friendships and relationships have more to do with teaching each other than anything else. Most people think its about expensive jewelry, vacations to luxury resorts, roses in winter and a bunch of other baloney which lines the pockets of various business people but is totally unrelated to the adhesiveness of a friendship or relationship. These are just common sense things, that people, most unfortunately overlook.

[IrisRavenstar]

Hi Bella,

The fact that you were mostly watching yourself do this in the dream tells me that you were trying to see *objectively* (setting aside emotion) whether or not you want to continue with this relationship, and how your boyfriend might react if you broached the idea of breaking up. He got upset, and you realized you maybe made a mistake. I'd take that as saying that I don't really want to break up, and approaching it that way might not be wise. Maybe you need to talk to him about the need to make some changes about whatever it is that's making you unhappy though!