Is there room in this modern world for true love?

[MizzLSD]

Does true love exist or is it merely a fairy tale being driven further and further away?

[smitty1962a]

I feel that if a person looks for true love that they will find it. Sometimes though it may be like misplacing something. A person looks all over the place and can't find it, but they find it in the place where they least expect it to be or it may have been with them all the time and they have never noticed it.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, there are those who are cynical and feel that they will never find true love so they never look. To me its how a person feel about it. Modern life has little or nothing to do with it.

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by smitty1962a

To me its how a person feel about it.

I completely agree here, everyones definition of love is different from the next persons.

Just now i know of a person who says he loves this girl more than he has ever loved someone before. This pair spend all their time together as great friends, maybe he is mistaken a great friendship for love, i know you can love friends, but thats a different kind of love from relationship love surely..

[MizzLSD]

Love is very complicated.

What is the difference between friendship love and relationship love. Obviously attraction and lust plays a part.

Does lust always come before love?

[Mandy]

I love my friends, as they mean a lot to mean and im close to them, but if i had a boyfriend and i felt i loved him i think it would be a different feeling than what i felt about my friends.

Im not sure about whether lust comes first, im no real expert on this, im bloody hopeless when it comes to things like this..

[Wolfjk]

Originally Posted by MizzLSD

Does true love exist or is it merely a fairy tale being driven further and further away?

Hi,
You should look to the poets if you want to find the nature of love. Shakespeare is the expert!Young love, old love, lust, jellousy, flirting, the love of power and the love of comedy! All there if you can spare 10 years of your life to read and understang his writing.
My take on sexual love is more practical. Neither man or woman is created to be monogamous. Women seek out the most likely male, however if someone better comes along and the opportunity is there they are likely to take it. While most men take every opportunity they can. In societies where the choice of females is restriced, the quality of the populatin declines. Time and tide leaves them behind. If you don't believe me look at the most successful nations on earth; they are the ones with the most divers races!
Platonic love can last a lifetime, but even ther has to be give and take. In todays tecno world, sexual love is losing the importance it had years ago. There are too many distractions.
Cheers Wolfjk

[MizzLSD]

You are right about Shakespeare. Unfortunately I have only studied a few of his plays, my favourite being "A Midsummer Night Dream" which teaches us of the complications of love and false love, infactuation. Although it is a bit sad that (I think Lysander) is still in a false love.

I suppose Poems are a secret that can only be unlocked by people in love. The words will have a real meaning once you actually feel them

All you need is Love

[Feonixis]

my take on love is a little cynical, i guess, but it just comes from being a teenager, and watching other teenagers. it drives me crazy to see girls, especially, they're always "in love" and having their hearts broken. one minute they're contemplating marriage, the next, they"re "so over him". it's annoying. i think especially youth in america seems to set out looking for love, expecting everyone around the corner to be their one true love, and then being devastated when they don't live up to their expectations.
it doesn't mean i don't believe in true love, but i do believe that if true love exists, it's a rare and beautiful thing that should be treated as such, without people sullying it, by saying every five seconds "he's the one". i think sexual love is an entirely differnt thing, and should be expressed more freely, and that we shouldn't be afraid to express our affection for each other. but i don't think people should take for granted that they'll find their "true love".

[Glorybound]

It's unfortunate that we ask this question. I want to believe in true love, but I fear you're right in thinking that it is a drifting concept.

In my experiences I've had many, many crushes and lusts. I tend to think when I feel a very strong desire to be with someone that it is better that I not. This happens if I think someone is too perfect and that I would corrupt them or in some way bring them pain. True love I think is letting go.

[MizzLSD]

Lust = stockings and thong
Love = Baggy trousers and slippers and Granny Pants. If your boyfriend or girlfriend thinks your just as sexy in these than in stockings, then you know it's love :P