Does anybody relate to this??

[Hannah1234]

I have realised lately that i am not a huge fan of myself lol im sure people can relate but i find my own company very very boring and i am also starting to question whether or not i am the person i want to be. I have made several posts on this site during the time i fell out with all my friends/x bf and this is probably why i am starting to feel like this. I went out last night with my friend for our old college leavers and it reminded me why i left that college because very few people actually liked me. I am not rude, i am always honest but only when its appropriate and i never judge people until i know them. I am completely myself and that is why i wasn't liked, they said i didnt make enough effort in how i looked for school...all the girls wore short skirts n make up and i was generally in jeans or trackies...whats the point its school lol.

Anyway im posting this because i am not really sure of anything right now, i have the choice to go to spain and learn spanish and am training to be a holiday rep atm as well or i could go to beauty college....but there are so many choices and the few few friends i have left are either going to uni or attached to their bfs hips and i dont want to be around couples right now coz i feel so lonely and it aches for me to see people together. Its just strange i dont want my bf back infact i very much dislike him but i cant let go this feeling of hate towards my old friends and him and it is wearing me down. its been nearly 3 months and i am still thinking bout them and when i do i get so angry.

Does anyone know what i can do to help because councellors and waiting don't seem to be working. It sounds silly but i almost feel i need someone there for me to make me feel better but i refuse to have meaningless relationships as i would end up hurting whomever i was with. Please help!! I really need to start making some decisions!

[Wolfjk]

Originally Posted by Hannah1234

I have realised lately that i am not a huge fan of myself lol im sure people can relate but i find my own company very very boring and i am also starting to question whether or not i am the person i want to be. I have made several posts on this site during the time i fell out with all my friends/x bf and this is probably why i am starting to feel like this. I went out last night with my friend for our old college leavers and it reminded me why i left that college because very few people actually liked me. I am not rude, i am always honest but only when its appropriate and i never judge people until i know them. I am completely myself and that is why i wasn't liked, they said i didnt make enough effort in how i looked for school...all the girls wore short skirts n make up and i was generally in jeans or trackies...whats the point its school lol.

Anyway im posting this because i am not really sure of anything right now, i have the choice to go to spain and learn spanish and am training to be a holiday rep atm as well or i could go to beauty college....but there are so many choices and the few few friends i have left are either going to uni or attached to their bfs hips and i dont want to be around couples right now coz i feel so lonely and it aches for me to see people together. Its just strange i dont want my bf back infact i very much dislike him but i cant let go this feeling of hate towards my old friends and him and it is wearing me down. its been nearly 3 months and i am still thinking bout them and when i do i get so angry.

Does anyone know what i can do to help because councellors and waiting don't seem to be working. It sounds silly but i almost feel i need someone there for me to make me feel better but i refuse to have meaningless relationships as i would end up hurting whomever i was with. Please help!! I really need to start making some decisions!

Hi,
Relax! You're a natural loner! The best thing you can do is find out what you relally enjo doing. Take up a hobby or an interesting profession. I don't think you're cut out for a holiday rep - you're likely to bite people! A beautitian? I don't think so!! You have to deal with people. Do you dig archeology? You need something wher you can keep your own company. However team sports or team endevours are your cup of tea.
Cheers Wolfjk

[resin8love]

You need to wake up everyday and say hello "world I'm ready , I'm here to win!" You need to be around a positive atmosphere and clubs will not solve what your lookin for. Thats great your being yourself and wear what you want to wear and aren't being a trash queen alot of people are such fakes or users. Sounds like you need to come out of the world and get involved in ministry your erea. That way you will get direction, meaning and purpose for your life. It can motivate you to make better choises in your education, find new freinds there, and impact your life more than you know. God and you don't see eye to eye, your not lookin to him, for direction or anything else. I'm sorry for being blunt, I'm just tryin to help. Wolfs rite about this, you need hobbies something you like doin, I play music, read, play yugioh, go to the gym, study the bible and pray. There's really not enouph time in the day between work and all, so enjoy being young and go for it! LIke I said hello world, I'm here and I'm ready to win! GOD bless you.

[Drea Manon]

I actually have the same problem; I can't shake that lonely feeling that I have all the time. I'm actually surrounded by people too, it's kind of cliche, even though I have a bunch of friends I still feel alone. Also, I refuse to watch chick flicks/girly movies because I can't stand seeing anything having to do with romance...it hurts. I haven't even been in a relationship before...so I don't even know why it affects me so much.

Usually, I just try to distract myself. I watch entertaining stuff, or just meditate and listen to music. I find that writing down your feelings is pretty theraputic. When you really need to get something off of your mind and you don't have someone to confide in, sometimes a journal or computer is the best outlet.

[Luna]

Originally Posted by Hannah1234

I have realised lately that i am not a huge fan of myself lol im sure people can relate but i find my own company very very boring and i am also starting to question whether or not i am the person i want to be. I have made several posts on this site during the time i fell out with all my friends/x bf and this is probably why i am starting to feel like this. I went out last night with my friend for our old college leavers and it reminded me why i left that college because very few people actually liked me. I am not rude, i am always honest but only when its appropriate and i never judge people until i know them. I am completely myself and that is why i wasn't liked, they said i didnt make enough effort in how i looked for school...all the girls wore short skirts n make up and i was generally in jeans or trackies...whats the point its school lol.

Anyway im posting this because i am not really sure of anything right now, i have the choice to go to spain and learn spanish and am training to be a holiday rep atm as well or i could go to beauty college....but there are so many choices and the few few friends i have left are either going to uni or attached to their bfs hips and i dont want to be around couples right now coz i feel so lonely and it aches for me to see people together. Its just strange i dont want my bf back infact i very much dislike him but i cant let go this feeling of hate towards my old friends and him and it is wearing me down. its been nearly 3 months and i am still thinking bout them and when i do i get so angry.

Does anyone know what i can do to help because councellors and waiting don't seem to be working. It sounds silly but i almost feel i need someone there for me to make me feel better but i refuse to have meaningless relationships as i would end up hurting whomever i was with. Please help!! I really need to start making some decisions!

Hun...if u go to Spain...trust me...You'll be too busy learning new things about the culture and meeting new people..you won't even think about ur ex or ur old friends. life is too short..live life as though it was ur first day on the planet Earth and ur ready to explore and have a bunch of awsome adventures and also live it like it's the last day...every minute is precious ..You don't want to waste it thinking about people who don't think of you.

[Cherry Darling]

Originally Posted by Hannah1234

I have realised lately that i am not a huge fan of myself lol im sure people can relate but i find my own company very very boring and i am also starting to question whether or not i am the person i want to be. I have made several posts on this site during the time i fell out with all my friends/x bf and this is probably why i am starting to feel like this. I went out last night with my friend for our old college leavers and it reminded me why i left that college because very few people actually liked me. I am not rude, i am always honest but only when its appropriate and i never judge people until i know them. I am completely myself and that is why i wasn't liked, they said i didnt make enough effort in how i looked for school...all the girls wore short skirts n make up and i was generally in jeans or trackies...whats the point its school lol.

Anyway im posting this because i am not really sure of anything right now, i have the choice to go to spain and learn spanish and am training to be a holiday rep atm as well or i could go to beauty college....but there are so many choices and the few few friends i have left are either going to uni or attached to their bfs hips and i dont want to be around couples right now coz i feel so lonely and it aches for me to see people together. Its just strange i dont want my bf back infact i very much dislike him but i cant let go this feeling of hate towards my old friends and him and it is wearing me down. its been nearly 3 months and i am still thinking bout them and when i do i get so angry.

Does anyone know what i can do to help because councellors and waiting don't seem to be working. It sounds silly but i almost feel i need someone there for me to make me feel better but i refuse to have meaningless relationships as i would end up hurting whomever i was with. Please help!! I really need to start making some decisions!

Hi there......you sound like the poster person for my life....hehe....I am going through just about the same thing.....I pretty much have learned that being single really isn't all that bad.....sure, you don't get invited to baseball games and stuff like that (people don't want an odd number ).....but you do have ALOT of freedom...most of my friends have kids and boyfriends that are attached at the hip...and they envy my single lifestyle....you have some time to figure out what direction your life is goin....what you wanna do....travel while you have no kids. Keep your head up....by any chance, do you have a pet? I have a cat...and he is my world....hehe....I am not a crazy cat lady or anything...but research shows that people that have an animal are generally happier than those without...you will have something to give your love to...and it really helps. I never really fit in with anyone...I have moved around alot in my life...and have never really had a "click".... When it comes to your job...I think that you should go with what will make you happy....and I definitley think you should travel to Spain....the new atmosphere and people might be a breath of fresh air for you...I hope you feel better....get a hold of me if you ever wanna just talk. * Cherry Darling *

[banshee]

Ladies,

I am in my early forties and still have those feelings from time to time. I will tell you that you can most definitely look forward to growing out of most of your angst as you mature and begin to understand what makes you tick.

Life today is incredibly confusing and, the way our society is structured does nothing to further a healthy self-image. We grow up in nuclear families with no elders around to listen to us as our parents are nose to the grindstone making a living. We are trapped in a mass and multi-media culture and a permissive culture. As technology advances, so does man's inhumanity to man and apathy toward one another. We are being forced into separateness by the very culture we have allowed to evolve. Blogging is a prime example of this. In the not too distant past, we would be seeking out the company of people with whom to share. Now, we are just a click away from everyone and everything and we are more lonely than ever.

The angst that you feel is NORMAL. We humans must find a way to move beyond this separateness that is plaguing our culture. We are social creatures and although we might not enjoy a particular type of person (those mini skirt girls you reference), we require human contact and validation. In fact, studies prove that it is necessary to our physiological health.

I would recommend that you do some self-assessment and think about all of the things that you really enjoy - hobbies, what types of books you like to read, sports, art, music, whatever really turns you on. Then i would recommend that you get out there and meet people who share the same interests. You will find that you enjoy their company because you are kindred spirits and that is the driving force behind your lonliness - you need to be among kindred spirits. We all do. As my Mammaw used to quote (biblical) " do not cast your pearls amongst swine" - that means don't waste your time, your life and your efforts on people who are undeserving. Expect reciprocity in your relationships (platonic and otherwise), value your opinions, seek out what excites you and love yourself first.

Take little steps. Do one thing you like that involves meeting people that enjoy the same. Over time, you will build good and solid friendships and I bet you will meet your soulmate as well.

Feel free to write to me if you need someone to listen.

[sagatyba]

Hello.
I totally identified with your post. I'll be 27 next month, and I also live in my brain a lot, judging myself more often then getting things done and interacting with people.
I smoked a lot of marijuana in the past, I was sure it was the main reason for my paranoid and retrospective behaviour. But I moved to another city and lost contacts, stopped smoking and I'm still not up to my standards of a happy woman. I'm not entertaining myself with fun social activities, and I don't have a job. I know I need to improve my attitudes and go past mediocre, are you feeling mediocre too?
There, you are not alone feeling like youre not the very best company, that bubbly spontaneous personality people like to be around! I'm like that too.

Now some advice you must be looking for, maybe I can write something useful to you:

When I lived with my mom she paid for a psychologist to analyse me, and the shrink told me this: "Don't be so hard on yourself".
Don't judge anybody, you are different from everyone else.

And.... Oh I've seen some videos on youtube of this girl, YouTube - Canal de DesteniProductions I don't remember wich video she told this, but she said something about having a thought and acting on it. When a thought enters your mind, don't just watch it, either try to eliminate it or act on it.

Her videos are crazy, she is a medium, and she incorporates characters. One night I watched a video where she advised people to write about their thoughts ith pen and paper. And that night I had a dream where I had a pen in my hand, and a huge creature with horns was trying to take the pen out of my hand and I didnt want to released the pen and curled up like a baby grabbing my pen hehehe

Best of luck to you!

[weightroomdude]

Well you could become a trucker, it is a great loner job, the money is great you get to see a lot of cool place's, buy lotto ticket's from coast to coast,ya get to shop at wal-mart alot. plus you can still post here on the board,if ya have a laptop and an air card..like i am doing now..it really is a cool job, you can set your truck up any way you want. mine look's like a gym..LoL. And it will take your mind and body far,far away from your old friend's and life. I would rank it the 2nd coolest job in america, the 1st would be profesional lottery player finaceing your effort's through previous win's .LoL.for more info on how to be one ..Just ask.

[Hannah1234]

Originally Posted by Wolfjk

Hi,
Relax! You're a natural loner! The best thing you can do is find out what you relally enjo doing. Take up a hobby or an interesting profession. I don't think you're cut out for a holiday rep - you're likely to bite people! A beautitian? I don't think so!! You have to deal with people. Do you dig archeology? You need something wher you can keep your own company. However team sports or team endevours are your cup of tea.
Cheers Wolfjk

nah im not a loner, very much the opposite. im always out clubbing and really good at making friends and am very good with dealing with people. I just really cannot stand two faced people thats all, i find them very exhuasting because they are the people who put you down. Its not to do with me not being able to make friends but you can not really understand unless the main people closest to you through your entire childhood LITERALLY over night just tell you your not worth the life you lead. It doesnt make me a loner it just makes me doubt myself as a person.