Does anybody relate to this??

[Hannah1234]

Originally Posted by Drea Manon

I actually have the same problem; I can't shake that lonely feeling that I have all the time. I'm actually surrounded by people too, it's kind of cliche, even though I have a bunch of friends I still feel alone. Also, I refuse to watch chick flicks/girly movies because I can't stand seeing anything having to do with romance...it hurts. I haven't even been in a relationship before...so I don't even know why it affects me so much.

Usually, I just try to distract myself. I watch entertaining stuff, or just meditate and listen to music. I find that writing down your feelings is pretty theraputic. When you really need to get something off of your mind and you don't have someone to confide in, sometimes a journal or computer is the best outlet.

i have the same issue with chick flicks, but it annoys me that i have that feeling in the first place. I agree i used to write a journal but i stopped when everything kicked off because i just didnt want to talk about it even with myself!! maybe i need to start writing in it again. start a fresh new one. thank you

[slims]

u kno wat? I think a good percentage of people hav experienced wat ur goin thru.

I think its just part of life...
While our parents try to keep us for as long as possible as 'children' innocently enjoyin life.. When we come of age u wil c that LIFE IS HARD, and its scary, times change people change..

Havin an interest or hobbie is good, team workin or group activities wud be better, cos if u spend too mtch time with ur self by urself it can turn u mad.

Plus i learnt long time ago that if u just ease off the frownin (wich i was doin without realising) and bust a lil smile- u wil be a whole heap more approachable ,.men and women.

Also u hav 2 clock onto how much people are agreeing with u, do u find ur rarly wrong. If so look deeper, its about knowin ur self. 4instance i was really out of order 2 sum1 and i asked a friends opinion and they were 'u were right they we wrong' i kno that THEY WAS WRONG - BUT sum people are maybe scared of u? Are u domineerin?

I dnt kno, has any of this help?

[Hannah1234]

Originally Posted by slims

u kno wat? I think a good percentage of people hav experienced wat ur goin thru.

I think its just part of life...
While our parents try to keep us for as long as possible as 'children' innocently enjoyin life.. When we come of age u wil c that LIFE IS HARD, and its scary, times change people change..

Havin an interest or hobbie is good, team workin or group activities wud be better, cos if u spend too mtch time with ur self by urself it can turn u mad.

Plus i learnt long time ago that if u just ease off the frownin (wich i was doin without realising) and bust a lil smile- u wil be a whole heap more approachable ,.men and women.

Also u hav 2 clock onto how much people are agreeing with u, do u find ur rarly wrong. If so look deeper, its about knowin ur self. 4instance i was really out of order 2 sum1 and i asked a friends opinion and they were 'u were right they we wrong' i kno that THEY WAS WRONG - BUT sum people are maybe scared of u? Are u domineerin?

I dnt kno, has any of this help?

Yeh i agree i think it is just part of life but i am very rarely on my own to be hoenst i always try n keep freinds around me, its just my closest frends i grew up with that i lost. Ppl always say they are intimidated by me coz i believe what i believe and no one can change that but i never ever enfringe wot i believe on someone else or say they are wrong because they dont believe the same thing, i think every is entitled to their opinion and you should always respect it. But alot of ppl find that hard to accept. I need to just let go of past things but im not really sure how and tbh councellors and hypnotherapy n drugs really dont work, ive tried them many times for years and years and ive tried but i cant seem toshake the feeling.

[samson57]

Originally Posted by Hannah1234

I have realised lately that i am not a huge fan of myself lol im sure people can relate but i find my own company very very boring and i am also starting to question whether or not i am the person i want to be. I have made several posts on this site during the time i fell out with all my friends/x bf and this is probably why i am starting to feel like this. I went out last night with my friend for our old college leavers and it reminded me why i left that college because very few people actually liked me. I am not rude, i am always honest but only when its appropriate and i never judge people until i know them. I am completely myself and that is why i wasn't liked, they said i didnt make enough effort in how i looked for school...all the girls wore short skirts n make up and i was generally in jeans or trackies...whats the point its school lol.

Anyway im posting this because i am not really sure of anything right now, i have the choice to go to spain and learn spanish and am training to be a holiday rep atm as well or i could go to beauty college....but there are so many choices and the few few friends i have left are either going to uni or attached to their bfs hips and i dont want to be around couples right now coz i feel so lonely and it aches for me to see people together. Its just strange i dont want my bf back infact i very much dislike him but i cant let go this feeling of hate towards my old friends and him and it is wearing me down. its been nearly 3 months and i am still thinking bout them and when i do i get so angry.

Does anyone know what i can do to help because councellors and waiting don't seem to be working. It sounds silly but i almost feel i need someone there for me to make me feel better but i refuse to have meaningless relationships as i would end up hurting whomever i was with. Please help!! I really need to start making some decisions!

i can relate having strong feelings for my friends girlfriend and being very close friends with her but her not knowing how i feel! I can relate because i hate being around couples too its very depressing! Honestly I understand if you cannot b/c of work or whatever but smoke some weed if you already dont! i know what its like to have something or someone on your mind from the moment you wake up til the time you go to sleep. you just have to relax find something to take your mind off it even if only for a little while!

[mr. Zim]

dude, I totally know how that feels. Except that happened to me in 6th grade and I'm over it now... sort of. I mean I still have the feeling of wanting to be someone a bit different, but I can't change myself right now, I have to wait for the right opportunities so that I can change my life the way I want it to be. My suggestion is go out and do the stuff you always wanted to do but never got around to (if you ever did want to do something but restrained yourself).It builds experience, gives you something to talk about and helps you meet new people you wouldn't normally meet.
Alot of my friends back in 5th grade just sort of ditched me (a couple were a bit two faced...) and it took me about a year before I made a new friend that I could actually talk to and relate. I think I could have found more too if I had just been more involved and did more things I wanted to do.

hope this helps

[Unknown1]

Originally Posted by Hannah1234

nah im not a loner, very much the opposite. im always out clubbing and really good at making friends and am very good with dealing with people. I just really cannot stand two faced people thats all, i find them very exhuasting because they are the people who put you down. Its not to do with me not being able to make friends but you can not really understand unless the main people closest to you through your entire childhood LITERALLY over night just tell you your not worth the life you lead. It doesnt make me a loner it just makes me doubt myself as a person.

I hear you. Ive had that in my past as well, use to get bullied alot, and cos i have a slight hearing loss in both ears, and i use to have to wear hearing aids, didnt really help my confidence either. The important thing is, you got friends that dont judge you right =] You seem like a nice person, and iam sorry about whats going on atm. I wish i could help, I hope you figure it out.

Unknown1
(Becky)

[Zuludawn]

Of course I can relate, there is nothing wrong with you as I feel that way a lot of the times too.