Questions anyone?

[paisley]

Thank you Drm Doctor. That was definitely helpful and I think it is accurate. In fact, after posting here I thought more about my dream and the "tarantula experience" and I think the 2 were the same dream message but told in different images. I always have long, detailed dreams so I will cut out a lot and just explain the link I see between the 2 experiences. The dream that woke me I was dreaming about my family looking at a private school for my son and then the scene changed to me being a single woman. I had the perception I was a widow as I saw myself calling an old male friend I`ve known for about 20 years. I`ve never been attracked to him in any way but I asked him out for some reason. I think it was just to take a step out into life again and he told me he really wasn`t ready for a relationship (he has a lot of health problems) but he`d go out anyway. So we agreed to meet at a big, open, popular park. It wasn`t going to be anything romantic obviously. Then he was driving in front of me, but I felt an urgent need to email him using my radio dial. I found his work email but wanted to send the mail to his private account. Somehow this email was very important but I don`t know what I wrote in it. Finally I found his old email address, but I knew if I used it he would feel suspicious. Now I felt rushed and said "I`ve got to hurry and find his current address". I could feel the pressure growing. Then he signals for me to pull over on the side of the road. Just as he gets out of his car, I find the address but now my feelings are frantic like I must get this sent before he gets to the car so I can tell him I sent him an email. Then as he walks in front of my car, I get a creepy feeling. There is something stiff and angry on his face. It wasn`t the face of someone happy to see an old, dear friend, but I try to remain casual and just crack my car door to give the message "quickly tell me what you want so we can hurry and get to the park". However, he wedges the door open with his body and the scene changes from a wide open, sunny street to an empty parking lot in front of a dense, dark, forest. He then came down to me, lightly grabbing my neck and he tried to kiss me, but I pushed him away and said "I`m not ready yet. We need to take things more slowly". I knew he understood my meaning and feelings as a widow, yet he maintained the same cold, angry face and didn`t let go of my neck but dug his finger in my neck in a threatening way as he glared at me. My real physical body could actually feel that dig in my neck, and I knew I was in trouble. I knew he was about to take me out of the car into the forest and no one was going to be able to help me. This dream was not like most dreams this one was very realistic. When I realized my danger there was a scare within me that woke me up and when I opened my eyes that`s when I saw the tarantula. The odd thing is now every time I walk in my bedroom, I can`t help but look at where I saw that "tarantula" vanish. I know it was a figment of my dream state but it was so realistic it left that impression on me. Anyway, I find spiders to be creepy so I think this creepy man and creepy spider carry the same dream meaning. I also found it interesting that I snapped out of each "dream" state just before the inevitable terror hit. I`m sure if I`d seen that spider come down the wall or jump down, I would have screamed!!! I`m also impressed that my mind would not let go of this message it was apparently wanting to work out or send me because it carried over into my wake state. I think the message is important but I`m not sure I know what "danger" there is. I can reasonably guess though. My husband`s company closed in February and he hasn`t been able to get another job and I`m a housewife as well as a foreigner living in Japan so no job I get can pay all our bills. I would guess any danger I felt would be associated with that.
Nevertheless, I have tried to consider what brought such a dream state on me because the day before I had a nice day with no problems, and I try not to let unemployment stress me or hinder my family. I try to keep my family encouraged and believe that both my husband and myself can find jobs to take care of our family. However, you are right that I am a rather intutive person.
Anyway, I will look up hypnogogia since this was a new experience for me. Thank you again for your insights.

[DrmDoc]

Hello again,

With the spider in your bedroom that suggest an unnerving intrusion on your intimacy and the intimate structure of your life. With the spider not attacking this does not suggest a concern about was has happened in your life but rather what may happen. Your dream, prior to the spider imagery, suggests a deeply felt drive to reach some social distination without consideration of your current social commitments (single dating imagery). It may be that your husband's lack of employ has influenced your social designs. In my opinion, your dream experience suggests the outcome of pursuing some social rendezvous without fully considering your current social commitments. I hope this helps as well.

[paisley]

Thank you Drm Doctor again for your reply. I`m not sure if I accurately understand what you mean by, "your dream experience suggests the outcome of pursuing some social rendezvous without fully considering your current social commitments". I can say that I am a loyal, committed person so I tend to take my commitments and relationships very seriously to the extent that I would place my loyalty above myself. Therefore, I don`t see myself not fully considering any social commitments I have. I`m also a "thinking" person so I tend to think things out very well before I act including how my decisions will affect those around me. I`m not impulsive or shallow so I don`t think I would pursue anything without deeply thinking about it first.
I did read more about hypnogogia and was amazed to read that this is actually a very common experience, but like you said most people are "paralyzed" during the occurance. I had no problem at all moving and talking. I wonder if I had no problem due to when I woke up. I read that most people have this experience when they first fall asleep or when they are waking up in the morning during REM sleep, but in my experience, as soon as the tarantula vanished, I got up to write about the experience and check the time. It was 3:25AM so I was in the middle of my sleep cycle rather than the beginning or end. I don`t know enough about sleep to know if that could have contributed to me not feeling paralyzed but it is possible. The other possibility would be as you suggested my personality to overcome. I don`t feel in and of myself I`m capable of overcoming. In fact, I see myself as a rather weak person, but I do have a strong belief that I have an ultimate victory in all things through God so perhaps that belief was somewhere in my unconscious mind/dream state.
I also read that some people that experience hypnogogia are some of the people that claim to have seen aliens. I can understand this because the tarantula I saw was so realistic and I saw it when I was wide awake, but somehow my mind understood when the taratula vanished that it was not real. Intellectually when I saw it, I knew Japan has no tarantulas but I believed it was there. It took it to supernaturally vanish before I could believe it was a dream like illusion. I think if someone is an emotionally inclined person (I`m emotional but also very practical) then it would be easy to conclude the hallucination was real. I can really understand that now.

[DrmDoc]

Originally Posted by paisley

I`m not sure if I accurately understand what you mean by, "your dream experience suggests the outcome of pursuing some social rendezvous without fully considering your current social commitments". I can say that I am a loyal, committed person so I tend to take my commitments and relationships very seriously to the extent that I would place my loyalty above myself.

My comments refrenced the prospect of pursing some social objective as a single person, and the perils you fear, should you decide to do so. This is not about betrayl but rather about the prospect of having to pursue some social design as a individual without the security a partner brings. As you formulate your personal efforts to achieve your social goals, perhaps your dream experience suggests that you also consider what you may need to secure yourself against those who may prey on your percieved vulnerability or fears. I hope this adds some clarity to my prior comments.

[paisley]

Thank you again. Yes, that does clarify things for me and I can make sense out of that.

[paisley]

I have one more question if you don`t mind. What does it mean in a dream when someone is distinctly left out of the dream. For example, I was dreaming of traveling with my family but everyone in my family was in the dream except my son. Of course, in the dream he just doesn`t exist, but when I wake up, I think "why was my son not in the dream?" I distinctly notice his absence as a prominent part of the dream.

[DrmDoc]

Originally Posted by paisley

What does it mean in a dream when someone is distinctly left out of the dream. For example, I was dreaming of traveling with my family but everyone in my family was in the dream except my son.

Traveling very often reference our desire to reach some social or mental state, destiny, or conclusion. The absence of those who should companion you on your journey suggest how such social or, perhaps, mental objectives may not involve the consideration of others essential to what you might be seeking to achieve. Also, very often, children represent the social bonds we share with others and how we have been changed by the bond. This adds a separate dimension to what the absence of children suggests.

[paisley]

Thank you again. That explanation makes a lot of sense to me. I think I can figure out my whole lengthy, drawn out dream just based on what you wrote. It was the missing piece to the puzzle for me!

[Lantern]

I had a weird dream early this morning; I dreamed I had a boyfriend half human and the bottom half a dolphin; we were swimming together and saying things I don't remember to each other. I was happy being with him and was thinking that he was the right man for me!

What could that mean?

I hope I'll get an answer here. I'm no longer getting any reply for any of my dreams and I don't know the reason????

[DrmDoc]

Originally Posted by Lantern

I'm no longer getting any reply for any of my dreams and I don't know the reason????

It is important to those who comment on the dreams others post that the posters reply to those who have taken time to translate a dream. feedback is essential to those who seek to hone their ability.

Regarding your dream, from a conscious perspective, the qualities you may desire in the perfect companion may be unnatural to what a typical male is capable of being (half dolphin male imagery). Perhaps this dream suggest your unrealistic or unrealizable expectations. I hope this helps.