2+ Kinds of Soulmates?

[Lunawryn]

Originally Posted by hazelflame

Interesting Lunawryn...but a little gross. I couldnt imagine my ex & husband together.

Completion soulmates have the least amount of attraction compared to the other types and as I said before, "attraction" does not necessarily mean romantic or physical. I also mentioned that completion soulmates are often not very compatible and can really frustrate each other. It is possible for completion soulmates to live together happily and have a relationship, but it really requires the right personalities and open minds.

[hazelflame]

okay...if not romantic or physical, than what kind of attraction is their?

[Lunawryn]

The reason I used the word attraction is because it was pretty neutral and it can be mutual, sort of like magnetism. To attract is to gain someone's interest or to draw attention. This can be in the form of people, animals, places, objects, pretty much anything. A couple questions to consider would be: Why do you talk to people? Why do you make friends? Why do you buy one item and not another? Why do you play games or read books? Why do you have a pet? You have an attraction to all sorts of things in life and generally most of those things aren't given romantic or physical attention. Most people don't make friends purely based on romantic attraction for example.

[violeteyes]

Originally Posted by Lunawryn

Sorry, the last few lines were me unable to clearly put my thoughts together =X. I've been a bit tired lately, so I fully understand if I sound confusing, lol. There is no guarantee that your soulmate will come back, nor is there a guarantee that you will meet him or her in your life time. It's pretty obvious in todays world that not everyone marries their soulmate. The "life" part means that your feelings will stay the same regardless. I met my love soulmate 6 years ago and he killed himself not long after I met him. I didn't really have the time to get to know him or start a relationship because of that. However, I still love him with all of my heart and I still think of him constantly. When asked who my most important person is, he is the first person that comes to mind.

As to the impacts... I would say the order would go love, similarity, completion. Mostly because when you're strongly attracted to someone you tend to automatically want a relationship. Similarity and completion soulmates don't always make the best lovers, especially if you love or hate yourself. If you have a difficult personality with a lot of faults that you can't see, meeting your similarity soulmate may be a bit painful. Completion soulmates often have a lot of friction between them if the people involved are very closed minded and don't understand anything different from themselves. This is what I mean when I say that the attraction may not always be understood. To hate and love someone at the same time is very confusing. Misunderstanding the attraction can lead to some bad memories and cause people to drift apart. With a love soulmate, it's less likely to misunderstand the attraction and the compatibility between the people is much greater. Similarity and completion soulmates are not always compatible with each other, so they're harder to recognize when you meet them.

What do you mean "similarity can be painful?"

[nickylowe40]

I now what you mean. Me and my partner have been together for 16 years, we where teenage sweethearts lol, but i couldn't imagine life with out him.

We have been through some very bad spot, and i have swore black was blue, that i wouldn't forgive him, but can't help myself. (He has always been faithful to me, don't think i could take that) We have 3 kids together and couldn't imagine being with another man.

Whilst a his counsin wedding, i was told that they could all tell how much we loved each other, by the way we looked and acted together. His sister and mom said they envy us as we are so close. Even after 16 years i still love being around him, even if he does drive me up the wall somedays

All i can say is, i'm looking forward to oldish age lol, so we can be on our own a bit more, and do some of the things we did years ago before the children. Don't get me wrong i love my kids and wouldn't change them for the world, but they do put a strain on a relationship, and can't wait for grandkids!!!!
(I could be here all day, talking about us, but won't boor you anymore lol)

[Feonixis]

i totally haven't read all the posts here, and thus feel bad for giving my imput, but here goes...
personally i've never thought of there being more than one "kind" of soulmate, but i believe in the concept of kindred spirits.
soulmates, i think, are a difficult thing, because even if your souls were perfect for each other, i believe our lives have just as much, if not more, impact on who we are and become. i think, really, that even if you meet your soulmate, there's a strong chance that in todays society, you might not be compatible. it seems to me that so many people are looking for someone "perfect" for them and discarding those right in front of them because of differences. i'm not saying that i don't believe even the most tragic of soulmates might reconcile, just that i don't believe it is as easy as everyone says. well, what a lot of people my age seem to say anyway.
maybe you never meet your soulmate, maybe you do, but you're just too different, maybe your pasts are tramatic. if everyone has a soulmate, what about that mass murder, or that woman who can't bear to have others touch her? what about the crazy lady who never knows what's going on around her. what if your soulmate is fifty years younger than you, across the world?

on another note, a lot of religions say that family members, or people of import in our lives, are sort of bound together, and are reborn close, as family, or friends, or lovers. that would be closer to kindred spirit than soulmate. "kin" after all...

i guess i've always thought of true soulmates as the other half of your soul, fitting together like puzzle pieces sort of things, and while i believe it's possible to love many people, and have kindred spirits, spiritual connections to more than one person, i don't believe in more than one soulmate. i don't think it means you love others any less, or that your less "meant to be", but "soulmates", i think , should really only apply to one. i don't even think soul mates have to be romantically linked, as i think souls have as little to do with the physical as... well, i can't really think of a good metaphor... touch and smell?
i think that while soulmates may become physical, that it's not really a given.

and i like luna's theory of splitting souls, though i didn't read all through it. would twins be split souls then? i don't really think so... although some might. your splitting, er, completion soulmate thing is well thought out. props. but mine's better. "wink"

[char k]

i have not yet met any of my soul mates. therefore i live a lonely life. a life with husband and kids and work and friends and family but non the less lonely. lonely restless and unsure. a life where i have no meaning except to them... i surely believe some where we all have that special SOULMATE and how lucky are the ones that find them. a person that makes one whole, makes one immortal, makes one happy.
much love
char k

[hazelflame]

Char k,
If you followed the conversation you would know that even with a "soulmate" you can still get lonely. I am married to my completion soulmate...and he has made my life so much better than I could have ever done by myself.

But, sometimes I feel like he dosent get me or I dont get him. We think at "Opposite" ends most of the time & can both be bull headed until we get our point across.
This can make anyone feel Lonely!!

But you have to remember why your in the relationship together....sometimes having a family can make that reason easier.
But where all human, & life will always be hard even with your Chosen mate.
and I know 100% that he is my soul-mate or "Other-Half"

Just keep working on the positives.