2+ Kinds of Soulmates?

[hazelflame]

Okay I never said I was unique Only that I have experienced the 2 kinds of soulmates.

"If you saw them in the street you would probably pass them but once met there is something about them that keeps your mind and your eyes occupied and you want to see them again, and again, and again, and again, and then you each find it difficult to be away from each others company. You care for them deeply and love pleasing them; paradoxically you do not want to possess them, you simply want them to be happy and you do whatever it takes to make them as happy as possible; you share in their joy and in return they bring joy into your life."

Besides-- From what you have described about the love soulmate is exactly how it happened to me....the problem was (like you said) we could never say No. And being young & inexperienced we surely could not handle something strong like that. Especially since we did not know who we were as individuals yet.
The timing was off--Simple as that.
But thank you for your input.

[starseed]

I didn't read careful every single post but I skimmed through...

figured I'de share my experience.
From what I know, there are three types of soulmates...
the SoulMate / partner in life
the karmic soulmate: someone you share unfinished business with, grow with
the twin flame: your other half, someone you can either hate or love deeply, very intense relationship

and also I think they can be any kind of relationship or gender....


and as for my experience:
I only know one of my soulmates and I don't know how to classify them...it was a feeling beyond anything I have ever and possibly will ever experience. I had a deep passion for this guy for 11 years, until I realized we weren't meant for each other and I would never go for that type of guy (yeah sounds confusing lol). And today I like someone new but the feeling isn't nearly as powerful, and sometimes I just break down and cry because I'm still mourning for all that passion I had for the other guy. I still think he is my soulmate but my perception of him changed, I have love for him but it isn't passionate.

It's actually very confusing because this new person looks alot like him and I keep wanting them to be the same person. But they are totally different personality wise, it's not like I was trying to find another guy just like him or anything like that! But I guess I still long for that first emotion, and this current situation is still very new to me. But I could see myself with this new guy very well and not with the old one I had all those feelings for.

Ok I'll stop scaring you all now.

[Lunawryn]

Oh geez, where to start, lol. I guess I'll try for chronological order o_o. Oh and - Yay we have an actual discussion! This is going to feel three times as long as it is because of the quotes, but it's the easiest way to keep track of what I'm replying to. Forgive me ><.

Originally Posted by hazelflame

How do you know all these things?

Personal belief based off of personal experiences. My set of beliefs are basically formed from me trying to rationalize life. Because of that, I know that a lot of people will not agree with me; everyone has different life experiences after all. I also really like listening to other people's opinions because it helps me to refine my own theories. Hence why I like all of you "challenging" me, lol.

Originally Posted by Jennings

Nice theories but hardly what could be described as realistic.

It doesn't feel realistic because one doesn't run into their soulmates often. There are far too many people in the world for everyone to realistically meet all of their soulmates. Hence why I stated that people don't always meet their soulmates within their lifetime. Also, if you assume that you can recognize your soulmates instantly, that practically destroys the theory. However, I don't think I ever mentioned it being easy to tell if a person is your soulmate; I merely said that they would have a strong attraction to each other - which is pretty much what you described in your second paragraph. I fully agree that a soulmate is not someone you can recognize "at the bat of an eyelid".

I don't see much difference between my views and yours honestly. You're better at explaining than I am and I've given stand-in names for my explanations. The main differences I see is that I feel there may be a stronger connection, you feel everyone has only one soulmate, and it sounds like you may feel that everyone will meet their soulmate. In truth I think your ideas are just a broader version of mine, though I could be wrong.

Originally Posted by Jennings

Similarity types I have met and found them agreeable but nothing else. Completion types one frequently meets and they can be frustrating. Love types, well this arises from inside of us.

This is one thing I'll have to disagree with you on. Perhaps I explained it badly. While a person may have more than one similarity type, it is highly unlikely for a person to meet many because of the sheer amount of people in the world -probability does play a role here. I do not believe that a person has a whole lot of similarity soulmates, though I won't disregard the possibility of there being a couple. A good way to think of similarity soulmates is twins on TV shows; two people who can finish sentences for each other and answer questions in the exact same way at the exact same time. However, the type of people I'm implying would not have had prior practice or discussion, would not necessarily be blood related, and would not have spent more than a few weeks in each other's company prior to being able to do this. Similarity types synchronize with each other naturally. While yes, it is possible for blood relations to do this, you have to question the connection because they've had their lifetime to synchronize themselves. It's actually very rare to find someone who actually thinks almost exactly like you do because no two people have the same life experiences. Hopefully this makes a bit more sense?

As for completion soulmates, a person only has one. If you think about it logically, it is impossible to have more than one. Completion soulmates are made when one soul splits in half. You can not have four other halves. If you think about it in the sense that a soul could be split into five, then no two can be combined to make a whole. You would need all five souls together in order to be complete. Not everyone has a completion soulmate either, which makes them even harder to notice when you meet them. I will agree that the experience can be frustrating when you run into them, but being a math person, I can not consent to meeting them frequently.

Having a love soulmate and loving someone unconditionally is not the same thing. As I mentioned previously, there is no guarantee that you will meet your love soulmate in your life time and not everyone marries their love soulmate, even if they've met them. People can be perfectly happy with someone other than a soulmate. Unfortunately, the divorce rate in the US is insane, which implies that people have a hard time finding real love regardless. Actually there was also a study about "perfect matches" that would kinda fit to mention here. Studies have found that every one person has eleven "perfect matches" out of every billion people I think it was. Their definition of "perfect match" was someone that you could easily live your whole life with.

Originally Posted by Jennings

Many people choose partners who facially look like themselves. The next occasion when watching tv where couples are involved try to take note of this feature as the incidence is high. Others who do not have matching facial features then there is usually another attractive trait like high intelligence or even just height (or its lack) alone. Mostly those are types who are in love with themselves.

Yup, I've seen that study actually. There's also a good base in the theory of "opposites attract" and it's very interesting looking at love between different cultures because most views tend to be on either extreme. The studies on beauty though have been particularly fun because of how people reacted to the results.

Originally Posted by Jennings

I feel certain that some Jungian psychoanalyst will tell me that it is the energy from some lurking archetypal image or from my libido is taking charge, and he/she may well be right but who cares? If the olfactory senses are stimulated then one is properly hook; no 'ifs' nor 'buts'!

Ahahaha! My hope when I die is that I get to punch Freud =X. Freud and Jung don't have *bad* theories per se, and some of them are very true, but... >____>. Freud based a lot of his theories on himself and women that he unintentionally hypnotized and implanted false memories into. He was a drug addict and had sex with most of his patients. I can't really say all of his theories were well founded. Jung isn't a whole lot better since Freud was his teacher, but at least he did branch off a bit at the end.

Originally Posted by hazelflame

I am hispanic, and for some reason have always been attracted to white guys

I see that happen quite a lot actually. It feels like it happens more often with Hispanics than any other ethnicity though. Also I see it primarily in the form of Hispanic females liking Caucasian males. Any ideas on how valid that is or why? Curiosity killed the Luna ><.

Originally Posted by starseed

From what I know, there are three types of soulmates...
the SoulMate / partner in life
the karmic soulmate: someone you share unfinished business with, grow with
the twin flame: your other half, someone you can either hate or love deeply, very intense relationship

Yay, another person joined in. I'm kinda surprised at how few people have posted in this thread. Anyway. Personally I would give a different name to your karmic soulmate, but I will agree that there is a definite connection between two people who have unfinished business with each other. That theory gets stronger if one believes in reincarnation as well. The other two are similar to two of the ones I mentioned. I like the name "Twin Flame", but I'm a pyro so >_>...

Originally Posted by starseed

and also I think they can be any kind of relationship or gender....

Fully agreed. I was planning on mentioning that, especially the bit about gender. Thank you for reminding me =X.

As to your experience, I can relate, so you haven't scared me yet. That was almost what I was trying to get at when I gave my bad ABC example, though you may have skimmed over it, lol. I met someone very similar to my love soulmate a few months after he killed himself. The new man looked almost the same as the previous one and he *felt* the same, though his personality was very different. I was drawn to the newer man and loved him very much. I hate to say it, but there was an imbalance in terms of my emotion between the two. Unfortunately, I'm not with either of them currently.

[hazelflame]

Lunawryn,
Can you explain to me again what the A-B-C Scenario was about?

"if person A and person B are love soulmates and person B has person C as a completion soulmate, I believe that person A and person C will also be love soulmates. In other words person A's love soulmate would be the soul that was split into person B and C's souls. Does that make sense?"

[Lunawryn]

Sure. Lessie, names would prolly make this a bit easier... Alex, Briar, and Cedar are decent unisex names so let's go with those. First we have two souls which are love soulmates. One of those souls belongs to Alex. The other soul was split in half, becoming Briar and Cedar. Briar and Cedar are now completion soulmates. By default Alex basically has two love soulmates - both Briar and Cedar. Almost like a love triangle =P.

In short, to use my previous wording: Alex and Briar are love soulmates. Brair and Cedar are completion soulmates. Thus Alex and Cedar are also love soulmates.

Hopefully that's a bit clearer *stares at explanation*

[ScarySherri]

I believe there are more than one kind of soul mates. I also believe that soul mates aren't necessarily 'life mates'. I believe that soul mates can come into our lives and then pass out of our lives. I think there are soul mates that need to teach us, ones that are lovers, ones that are mentors, etc. . .

Great topic!

[Leidee]

of all kinds, but I think the problem always stems from the fact that people want to romanticise what impact that can (or should) actually have in their life.

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[starseed]

I think whats fascinating is the feeling itself, I don't know about you guys but with my experience it was completely surreal and "out of this world", for lack of a less cheesy description LOL.

[hazelflame]

Interesting Lunawryn...but a little gross. I couldnt imagine my ex & husband together.

[starseed]

Originally Posted by hazelflame

Interesting Lunawryn...but a little gross. I couldnt imagine my ex & husband together.

yeah wouldn't wanna see that either.