Problems letting go...I guess???

[e333]

First of all, this is pretty long so bear with me and dont quit reading because I really need some help thanks...Well, me and my ex have been broken up for 8 months today and I dont know what to do about us...she says that she still loves me and I know that I still love her but right about know it doesnt seem as if she loves me or even likes me...well, let me start from the begining...after she broke up with me, we were still really good friends, best friends...things between us didnt seem as if they changed at all...we just didnt have the title of boyfriend girlfriend anymore...I would still walk her to class and we would still kiss, but it only lasted for about 3 to 4 weeks...(o and the reason for us breaking up was that I got way too jealous) after school let out, and summer came...we rarely talked...she wanted her space so I gave it to her...I only contacted her about 3 times during the summer(and get this...every time I contacted her, she would say, thats funny I was just thinking about you) anyways the first time I talked to her was on myspace...I wrote her a message and we started talking for a while...she told me she had something that we needed to talk about but not over the computer, she wanted to do it in person but ended up telling me never mind so we never met up and stoped talking...the second time I called her because my female cousin wanted to say hi...my cousin wanted to see her so I took her over to see her...when we got to her house she was flirting with me a lot...after me and my cousin got home I called her and we started talking, she told me that she still loved me very much...again, she told me that she wanted to talkin in person...and you probably guessed it but it didnt happen(again)...ok so the third time I called her, I had a weird feeling so thats why I called her, we started talking and got deep into the conversation then she started crying...she told me that she missed me and loved me a lot...she said that she couldnt talk to me anymore because she was crying so hard but I let her go...ok so when school starts back up, we see each other every now and then...theres this one week were I feel like shes really into me so I decide to write her and tell her exactly how I feel about us and her...she writes me back and I read nothing but good news...we get back on talking status now and one day when we were talking she asked me if I wanted her back...I was like ofcourse...and she told me that for christmas that will more than likely be my present...so I was extremely happy untill one day she told me that she was talking to a couple of friends and they fed her some BS and she decided that she wanted to hold off on me and her...I was hurt so I told her that she always does this...gets my hopes up just to knock them right back down she said she was sorry but it didnt mean that things had to change...she said that we would still stay on talking status and that I could still walk her to class but something told me that things were going to go back to us rarely talking and like I thought, thats how they are now so if anyone has any kind of advice for me PLEASE HELP!!! Im just extremely confused right now

[Jennings]

You sound as if you are a teenager and it sounds like young love but, you do come across as a tad self-centred (fairly common among the young). If you are self-centred then you are thinking of your own feelings rather than hers; if you do love her (rather than yourself) then you will keep in mind how she might feel at any given time and pander to those feelings. Make her feel that not only do you love and admire her but try to make her feel that she is special, very special. Others females may attract you sexually but keep your focus on the one you love and who needs you. Keep courting her at all times. There should never be any question in her mind about your fidelity. Many women will deny this but the 'Me Trazan, you Jane' philosophy still prevails in all partnerships, Men adore feminine women and women adore masculinity so never be afraid to be the part but at all times show your allegiance to her. When you next meet, touch her very gently and confess your feelings (if they are genuine) for her and how you would like to be closer to her. Never be mushy but neither be afraid of sentimentality. If you can afford it as a student, send her flowers! At all times surprise her, even if it is only in small ways. You both could have a long life together so be ceratin to enjoy it and the company of you both; in the end you will reflect back and will not be disappointed.

[L.J.]

well with what you are saying its seems to me that she is keeping you on the back burner just in case. giving you alittle encouragement then pulling back.
it seems that what shes doing is hurting you more than loving you. maybe you should let go step back and give her some space, maybe shell come back to you and maybe she wont but at least she wont keep playing with your heart. you seem pretty young and im going to tell you what i tell my daughter , this is just a small part of the picture you have so much ahead of you and you will probably meet alot of other girls in your life. goodluck let me know how things go. L.J.

[*Tessa]

Firstly, your the kind of guy Any girl would want. That girl truely does not know what she is missing out. I feel that she is really just using you, and when she Really needs you she knows you'll always be there. And she shouldn't do that. I know you really love her and it's probably extremely hard to read this but you can do so much better. Write back? Hopefully I can help more.