help me interpret my sex dreams

[njc07res]

Hi everybody... I'd like to hear what others think about the dreams I have from time to time... aka, recurring.. but not frequently.

I'm a single 33yo male and every time I have a sex dream, usually with women whom I already have some sort of attraction to sexually, they progress in a natural way; ie: kissing, petting... yadda yadda..

But they never continue to any kind of *ahem* 'completion'... at the time of the actual act of sex, something will occur that causes the whole thing to end. Kind of like the gazelle that got away from the cheetah, to use an analogy. Now the cheetah is done till the next opportunity arises... or in my case, the next sex dream.

I've never thought of asking anybody about these dreams, that is until the dream I had last night. This time I actually did make it to having sex in my dream (it was with a buddy's ex gf who I always had a crush on, I haven't seen her since they broke up). But in the middle of sex, she just ends it... gets up and leaves. In my dreams, the female usually ends things. And it happens for a variety of reasons... ie: 'somebody might walk in', 'I can't do this', sometimes for no other reason than to play hard to get. In fact my non sex dreams usually involve somekind of struggle.. logistics, environment, trying to get from point A the point B with people making it difficult, etc.

Of course, these dreams of sex and struggle probably say a lot about my psyche, so basically.. I'm asking you to lay it on me. If it's bad stuff... at least be diplomatic! thanks.

[Jennings]

Okay, you've got a problem that seems to be connected to your self-confidence or image. It could indicate that making relationships is not easy for you; almost as if you are afraid of intimacy for fear that doing so will leave you vulnerable to ridicule. While this would be an irrational fear it would obviously be difficult, if afflicted, to surmount it if it cannot be understood. It may stem from early life experiences if, in some manner, you were made to feel unimportant in some way by parents or adult figues who had a influence in your life. Superficially, you may well display the signs of sociablilty but there is this underlying doubt in your nature. It is not such a big issue but can be a nuisance. Incidentally, many successful people display it; it seems to be the drive that motivates them to prove themselves in whatever they do. I hope this description was not too tactless.

[njc07res]

Jennings, thanks for the reply.

It's difficult to dispute anything you said... I was surprised to see the childhood pulled into it. But it's true. I was an only child to a single mother and it was very lonely. I'm sure it's affected me on some level, to the point that I have very little in relations any of my parents. I had a suspicion that the female rejection was really my own issues, the image side of it blows my mind however. It's all true. Not tactless at all though... I have a few things to think about now... thanks.

[Jennings]

Thank you kindly for the feedback.