Feeling Miserable

[Spunky]

Ok. In order for you to fully understand the seriousness of this dreaming and to hopefully understand why it is occuring, I think I need to explain some background info so please bear with me on this...

This actually has to with my best friend Sarah, not me. But she is at a state of mind where I am trying to do everything I can to help her. This is the second forum I am posting in about this trying to find out anything I can and you'll see why soon.

Just please please bear with the background. It is a little long, but it is very important.

My best friend use to have a different best friend before me. She met her maybe a year before me. I met Sarah through her best friend, Alyssa, infact. Sarah use to be a suicidal person and really messed up and depressed. And to not go into details on that but still give you an idea of the seriousness of it, another of her best friends before Alyssa checked her into a mental hospital. They never talked since then. But anyways. Alyssa is the type of person who is friends with everyone and loves to help people in need. When I first met her and got to know her I saw that and didn't like it because what am I to her compared to her other "friends"? I even said such thoughts to Sarah and she agreed to a certain point. Problem with Sarah was she became attached to Alyssa. They were really close friends. So close it was sickening. But Alyssa helped her work through her problems and even stopped Sarah from killing herself and hurting herself. Not long after I came into the picture Alyssa would talk to me about how she was tired of Sarah always depressed and unable to completely make that go away. She wished she didnt have to deal with Sarah anymore and altogether really didnt like her as a friend. Alyssa even stopped hanging out with Sarah as much and altogether ignored her. Sarah noticed that something was up and due to her great ability to sense people are talking about her behind her back she confronted me and asked me about it. Me, I couldnt resist but tell her everything Alyssa was telling me because I liked Sarah more and felt sorry for her and wanted to help her any way I can. Well, eventually Alyssa appologized because she found out Sarah knew everything she was saying and then things were ok for a while but then same thing happened. Apparently Alyssa not wanting to be Sarah's friend happened before I even came into the picture. Alyssa just couldnt stop being friends with Sarah because she was afraid Sarah would kill herself because that is how much she needed her. So she was stuck. But luckily eventually Sarah realized her friendship with Alyssa was a lie and now hates her guts. She despises her and wishes her dead. Her anger towards her is unbeleivable.

This is wear the dreaming comes in. Sarah hardly remember's her dreams but in the morning she feels miserable and wanting to cry. She knows she dreams about being Alyssa's friend again but she also knows that is not what she wants. She would never take Alyssa back. And yet she keeps having the feelings in her dreams and it pisses her off that it's haunting her in her dreams. It is like they is teasing her showing her what she use to have and what was a lie. Sarah is becoming suicidal again and I am afraid for her life. Her dreams leave her feeling so miserable that she doesnt want to bear it anymore. And it just pisses her off even more that she feels so miserable for something she doesnt want. She hates that someone who is long gone now out of her life still comes back in her dreams and it is tearing her apart and I dont know what to do for her!

I've been awake as she dreams and can tell when she is having one of these horrible dreams. She twitches and moans and has a horribly sad look on her face. It's horrible to watch and hear and feel. Her mind is being tortured and theres nothing she can do about it...

Please any sort of input would be great. These dreams need to stop but she doesnt know how to make them...

[rubyblue]

Hello there,
It seems like Sarah is actually not happy with the fact that her friendship is broken up. Maybe it will help her to try and forgive? She need not necessarily be best friends again, but I am sure forgiving her will release her and will stop her from getting these nightmares. It would also benefit her if she can see a good psychiatrist so that she can talk about things that is bugging her. She need not go to a mental hospital or anything, just see a psychiatrist to help her deal with her emotions and especially her suiacidal thoughts. There is also many drugs that can help with depression, she is not crazy or anything, just need some help (like many of us). Encourage her to see a psychiatrist :-) Best of luck, hope the dreaming will stop soon!!