help!!! can somebody please help me with this dream

[articangel]

please can someone help me i keep dreaming of a ex boyfriend that i had at school i broke up with him years ago never heard from him since and yet i dream of him twice a month at least. The dreams consist of me always trying to get away from him or breaking up with him in my dream i never want to be with him. In some dreams my current boyfriend is in them and im always leaving my ex to be with him. I have had boyfriends in the past but never dream of them its just this one person always. My dreams r just so frequent of him i want to try and find out y so if someone could help that would be great many thanks xx

[JON]

Despite what you've said about

always trying to get away from him or breaking up with him in my dream i never want to be with him

in your dreams, clearly he meant more to you than any previous boyfriend. This is not unusual if you've had several. I still dream about one or two exs of mine, even though I'm not in touch with them any more. Because I loved them more than others. Was there something about this guy that made him 'special' or stand out?

The dreams reveal a clear conflict. Okay, to clarify, I'll tell you about a situation I once had in real life. I met someone, and became very fond of them. One day my sister was on the phone to an old friend of hers, and got talking about the person I'd met. It turned out they were discussing the friend's ex. They'd broken up two months before, yet I didn't know this when I first met them! The break-up had been a messy one...

Gradually, the full picture emerged. While dating my sister's friend, this 'rat' had been seeing two other people as well! Net result, this *** ended up with none of the three. Served them right.

Then the friend met someone new, and became very close. But the 'rat' believed they were still 'in love' with the friend. And, even while I was dating them, constantly pestered the friend with phone calls. Needless to say, the 'rat' was history. Very fast!! Yet I still dream about this person, despite what they did to all of us....

It's crazy. But it's all part of 'being human'!!

Cheers, Jon

[Jennings]

I can only guess here and suggest that if he was your first (mature) love then this could account for the association and his repeated appearance in your dreams; in a way he probably represents those lovely initial feelings which he incited in you. At some stage in your dreams you just may find that you slay him when he won't thereafter appear. If he wasn't your first love then he sure must have excited you.

(Jon, love your current location; did you happen to bump into anything while at Loch Ness)?

[JON]

(Jon, love your current location; did you happen to bump into anything while at Loch Ness)?


Well... remember that Bond film with the crocodile mini-sub? Mine is Nessie!! Oh, yes. Elvis landed in a UFO on one of the humps, and said 'Hi'....

Cheers, Jon

[Jennings]

Sharp this morning Jon, but I did guess (when you mentioned Elvis) that my 'antenna' was not letting me down!

[blueberrysummer]

Hi articangel

Males in dreams usually represent a particular set of thought patterns or attitudes that we in some way share with the males we are dreaming of. The symbolism within dreams reflects a state of our OWN inner dynamics at play and our dreams act as the mental stage to play these dynamics out. Dreaming of ones boyfriend in a dream would in some way suggest current thoughts and attitudes that you share with your boyfriend and are most intimate with within yourself, The attitudes and behaviour of your boyfriend in the dream would also highlight how you are in 'relationship' to yourself as well.

Now taking your exboyfriend and looking at what his more mental traits are and how he acts or what his attitude is, do you see anywhere where you might also share some of these qualitys in yourself, they might also be traits that are for the most part unconscious and are traits that you dont like in yourself hence running away or being chased by him. Looking at how he treated you when you were with him might also give you a clue at how you fall back into this 'old relationship ' with 'yourself' in some way.

Just some ideas to ponder over best to you
Marce

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please can someone help me i keep dreaming of a ex boyfriend that i had at school i broke up with him years ago never heard from him since and yet i dream of him twice a month at least. The dreams consist of me always trying to get away from him or breaking up with him in my dream i never want to be with him. In some dreams my current boyfriend is in them and im always leaving my ex to be with him. I have had boyfriends in the past but never dream of them its just this one person always. My dreams r just so frequent of him i want to try and find out y so if someone could help that would be great many

[lildreamer13]

Clearly this boy liked you a lot. If you haven't heard from him in a while, then something might have happened to him and his spirit is trying to tell you that you are the only one that can keep him alive. I'm not trying to scare you or anything, but it's true, he might sincerely be in love with you, and could be so in love that all he thinks about is you, whcich is driving him crazy that he'd kill himself for you. This happened to my friend's brother, to where he attempted suicide because a girl dumped him. All you should do is call him, and maybe ask to be his friend, and nothing more, nothing less. There, he can have some, but not all of you.

[articangel]

Thanks for all your posts some points to really think about. These dreams r just so weired i havent this this person for 7 years at least and last time i heard he lived miles away from me i havent even got a contact number for him and i dont think i could get one either. Im really happy and in love with my current relationship which ive been in for 2 years and we have a baby boy of 7 months so i just cant seem to get my head around why these dreams keep happening its driving my crazy trying to find out hey maybe being at home with my baby i have to much time on my hands lol

thanks for all ur help and if anyone can shed some light please do

xx