Bad dream, I wish it was only monsters...

[Eboyd]

I have never done this before but IÂ’m getting desperate.
I have been dreaming this “theme” for about 1 year and each time it gets more painful.

The dream starts out average, just living day to day. Then my significant other of 15 years starts treating me with indifference. When I confront him, he says “nothing is wrong” for maybe 2 or 3 times then says he no longer loves me. He is totally indifferent to my existence. He does not leave or walk out, just sits there emotionless. One major image that sticks with me the entire next day is me crumpling into a ball crying. The pain of the dream is so intense I usually wake up within minutes sobbing.

In waking life, we have a great relationship, very committed and affectionate. Great sex life and are very much in love still after 15 years.

These dreams make no sense and the over whelming emotion is just killing me.

If you have any suggestions or ideas PLEASE send them along. If you need mre detail, let me know.

EB
San Diego, CA

[Jennings]

Your dream is saying that you are afraid of rejection but little more. You tell us that you are in a stable relationship. From this point onward we move into conjecture based on those two pieces of information. The dream suggests that either there has been a change, possibly a minor one, in your relationship that is causing you to worry but in a dramatic way. This exaggerated form of worrying could stem from some form of early-life deprivation or rejection which you had to manage as an infant and today, the slightest indication of rejection brings back this spectre to your life and you begin to worry in the manner you did in your infancy and cry in the manner similar to what you did when a child.

There is an alternative explanation based on the same theory to your early life trauma, together with your current close and harmonious relationship, which would suggest that you are at a very happy and contented moment of life to the point of it being almost joyful, and what happens when this stage is reached, you become afraid that it may not last; you may be thinking that it is too good to be permanent and you are beginning to dread its conclusion.

My own guess is that the first suggestion is the one that is more valid as it does appear that you are suffering from an emotional throwback that's continuing to affect your life as an adult. My apologies for the guessing game!

[Wolfjk]

Hi Eboyd,
Perhaps if you looked at dreams from the angle: what do dreams do? instead of what do they mean?

One major image that sticks with me the entire next day is me crumpling into a ball crying. The pain of the dream is so intense I usually wake up within minutes sobbing.

Although you say you are happy, there is perhaps not enough variety in your life.
I belive we all need a dream to wake us in the morning. Your dreams are waking dreams, however your subconscious mind got into a rut, and your subconscious has limited choice in creating a suitable dream to wake you.
Emotions are often used in dreams to wake the sleeper but they leave an after- glow that sets the mood of the day. Spice up your life! Get some variety!
Cheers Wolfjk

[Eboyd]

I think you all very much for your comments. I will think on them.
In all reality it’s probably a merry combination of everything. Though I lean towards the “fear of loosing what I have” which could be very true as this is probably one of the happiest points of my adult life.

Again, think you for your comments and insight.


Eboyd