Two dreams - are they related?

[Scorpio1]

The first dream was on Saturday and in the dream my husband's child by another woman needed a kidney transplant and expected one of our children to donate their kidney. I refused to have any of my children involved in that and took them to a counselor who could explain the risks involved. My husband tried to take me to court to force one of our children to donate their kidney in order to save his other child. The public soon found out and he was heckled every where he went for trying to sacrifice one child for another. The dream ended with the kids and I not talking to my husband anymore.

The second dream was last night. I walked by my computer and saw that my husband had put a screensaver up of a picture of the other woman, her older son and their child. When I asked him why he put the picture on my computer, he told me that he had the picture and figured that we would want to see it. From the picture, I could clearly see that the child was his. I told my husband that I had nothing to do with the child and didn't care about it at all. The dream ended there.

What do you make of this?

[Jennings]

While the plot in each dream is different the theme is the same. It does appear that you harbour either jealousy or envy of your husband's previous wife (or partner). This situation may be unwittingly inflamed by him making some reference or there could be some reminder to his past relationship. Without knowing more about your situation anything else said would be conjecture. You do not appear to be happy within your present circumstance.

If I can add a personal anecdote in the hope that it may help; I am into my second marriage, my first wife having passed-on, and my wife of today is in her 3rd marriage the other two having been disasters. Frequently, we make references to those past relationships of ours but never make comparisons. We speak freely of past affairs more often with humour or just simply from interest and we expect each other to have had experiences (obviously) but neither of us is envious or jealous, and we care about each other's children as if they were our own. When men flirt with my wife it flatters her and she loves it but jealousy on my part is absent. If she is happy then I share her happiness. If she ever had an extra-marital affair I would hope that she would enjoy the occasion and my only concern would be that she knew her way back home; that's important and this is what matters. When she goes out on her own I do not question where she has been; I am more than happy to see her return home bright-eyed and bushy-tailed. To my knowledge she has not crossed the line but then I am not particularly interested; I simply love the woman and my love is reciprocated. Jealousy can too easily interfere in a relationship and be hurtful to one's self. I hope this perspective of mine helps in reconsidering your values. We enter partnerships not confinements; feel liberated and honoured that you have someone to love and care about! Don't push him away.

[Scorpio1]

Thanks for your reply. Some background information: the child was born from an affair my husband had. I gave birth a four months before her to our third child. During her whole pregnancy, she was trying to convince my husband that I was wishing harm on her child. Come to find out after I gave birth that she had herpes. She told me right after I gave birth. She claims that she told my husband and that he knew she was infected. He claims that he did not know. So I am dealing with the fact that she or he was willing to see my unborn child possibly get infected. My children and I don't want anything to do with the situation and I am no longer with my husband.

I applaud the type of relationship that you have with your wife, unfortunately, my husband is not a person that you can trust. The other woman and their child moved to another state. My kids and I will be moving out of state also, leaving my husband behind.

[Varzandeh]

Hi,
In dream language symbols , dreams of immatured children is about their parents and boys to their father and girls to their mother.
Kidney is a symbol for some money but hidden.
So thereis a speech of replacing some hidden money.
Let's see what is on the way.

[Scorpio1]

Thank you. I will update. What's interesting is that I spoke to my godfather the other day and he told me that some money would be coming my way.

[Jennings]

That is indeed sad to hear of your circumstance. I know that young men who have high libidos have a need to spread their wild-oats and it is a hard discipline for them to restrain themselves and especially when opportunity arises. Some are not always clear about the differences between extra-marital affairs and loyalty so many become risk takers; I guess it is similar for both sexes although women tend to be nesting creatures which helps to stabilise some. In the circumstance you describe I can understand your difficulties. My wife's first husband was a drunk, womaniser, and wife beater, and when occasionally she feels able to relate some of the things that occurred to her it makes one shudder and angry. One of my daughters had to suffer in a similar manner which ended with having a severely cerebral palsy child when her husband took flight. It does appear that you may be managing your circumstances reasonably well and you do have my best wishes in this regard.

[Varzandeh]

Thank you scorpio1,
For your kind confirmation.
Good luck.

[Scorpio1]

Jennings, it is sad to see what a person will do when they are broken inside. It's really a shame that some people have problems and instead of seeking help, they become destructive. I like to think that I am a strong person, but even this situation had me down on my knees sometimes, crying to God. But once I stopped crying, I started talking to him and share my life with him. My husband refused to be truthful about the affair and just kept on hurting everyone involved, including our children. It hurt to see him like that, knowing that he was hurting inside and needed help. But that wasn't for me. I had to help myself, and in realizing that, I had to learn to love myself more than I loved him. I'm glad to see that your wife got away from her abusive husband and has found love again with you.