dreamt of a close dead friend, what does it mean, i'm desprate for answers

[skalster]

My friend past away may 4th and i've had a hard time coping with it, i never remember my dreams. (and no i have no personality disorders I have lack of protein) besides that fact, we went to school years ago together, when we were fourteen before i got sent off, its like we were in the same school and i was doing something in the dream in class like smoking pot or something and the teacher was letting us do so, and the door opened so i got underneathe my table and i looked up and saw it was my girl dusty, and i was like "shhh" n she nodded ok, and i knew in my dream i could trust her.. and she handed me a note, i dont know what the note was about, it wasn't from her yet it was a message to me from someone else... but i had met her in the hallway after class was over in my dream, to see what it was about but i was more concerned bout why she was upset...i think i was in trouble for something?? i dont know and she seemed discontent... and she was always so happy..never once have i seen her unhappy in life. i asked her to come to my dreams 2 days ago.. the day i got arrested .. i barely slept at in jail, but when i got to rest here.. she came to my dreams.. help

ever since shes died.. i feel her so close to me, and i've asked for happiness and to not return to kansas, i came down to arkansas to visit with friends, and this girl i met 3 years ago while we were workin in the nursing home together, i had a girlfriend i was SOOO unhappy with in kansas, and i asked dusty for help, and somehow i managed to get a dwi, and by law i have to stay in arkansas n live with my father, so i left the girl i was unhappy with... and me and brittney are impossible to seporate we're so into eachother.. i'm thinking dusty made me get the dwi, but i'm scared that she's upset for whats going to happen to me in court?? is she giving me a note and her expression shes upset to let me know whats bout to happen in court isn't goin to be good?? is she stuck in the middle?? what is she trying to tell me..
i believe shes my guardian angel now, and i just want to know.. what is my dusty trying to tell me??????? HELP PLEASE

[.Nia mor]

I wish someone can help you, I´ve lost my bestfriend too, but I don´t feel her close to me. Be patience, you shouldn´t get desperate.

[pikka]

Hey snap out of it Bud. You need to start thinking more clearly and go through your thinking, thought by thought until things start to make more sense to you.

For instance, the only way one gets a DWI or DUI, is to get effed up and get in a car and attempt to drive while acting as if you are normal at the moment; which you are not to anyone who is observing from viewpoint of someone clean and sober.... The decision point is not when you are ready to leave the party, the decision point is when one is THINKING, JUST THINKING ABOUT GOING TO THE PARTY. A] you'd like to go. B] You know you usually get carried away at parties with substances , if you have any kind of self awareness, right?
C] Usually by the time one gets said DWI, etc, one's life already has some
difficulties going on. Things are already not great. D] the way you decide to go to the party is to ask yourself how you will get safely home. E]your buds are not an option, since they are as immature as you, and do the same kind of get in trouble stuff F] that likely leaves only Dad or Mom or Grandma...
G]humiliating as it is, one has to ask, if I go to so and so's party, or house
will you promise to come and get me at any hour, if I promise not to drive.
H]chances are you will get a yes HALF the time. G} and here comes the
hard part........are you man enough or woman enough to keep yourself at home if you can't get a ride. H] probably not, and here the real problem becomes apparent.....I] immaturity and or/some degree of chemical dependency whether alcohol or drugs...to the degree that you cannot bring yourself to say no, and the damage the stuff is doing to you J] KEEPS YOU FROM MATURING AND GETTING WHAT YOU NEED TO GET TO STAY OUT OF TROUBLE. IT IS NOT YOUR DEAD FRIENDS FAULT/CONCERN THOUGH THEY MAY COME TO YOU AND WARN YOU. K] incidentally how did said friend die?
They may be warning you about similar behavior..

Sorry for your troubles, I sense you are quite young, and the truth is the young in no way have inner skills to handle the responsibility of growing up
in addition to chemicals /alcohol...etc...

[IrisRavenstar]

I think your friend is trying to tell you to STOP DRINKING, skalster! My three sons all had to try out drinking and drugs as teens, and fortunately, two of them wised up and quit, and have made decent lives for themselves. The other one, sadly, spends his time going in and out of his personal revolving door to a jail cell, after getting drunk or high and beating the hell out of someone, often police officers. He still insists he can handle drinking "like an adult", but there is no handling it like an adult for an addict! I also have a brother who killed himself with a cocaine overdose, and there were many other substance abusers in my family and my ex-husband's family, including my ex. It is no fun at all for the people who live with and love these guys, either!

Drugs and alcohol are bad news, and will ruin your life is you don't get a handle on it and stop while you can, before the stuff is controlling your life and won't allow you to turn back. Deal with it now. Go to AA, get treatment, whatever helps you. But deal with it.

My one thing I'm grateful for with my son, who is 37 now, is that he does NOT have a car. If he had one, he'd be a lethal weapon for sure. He spends his days riding buses in an area where the bus system is very limited. He's in jail again now, for clobbering someone with a tree limb while intoxicated. When he comes out, he'll live in shelters and parks until he gets into a "dry house", where he'll play games and pretend to be sober for as long as he can... and it's never very long. He goes through this vicious cycle over and over. Are you going to? Because it's a ruined life for you, and possibly for people around you, if you do.