sairmc,varzandeh....

[mydreams]

I was married and my sister had a kid just like in real.In my dreams there were lot of women like my own relatives.my husband died in my dream,afer 3 and half years of marriage.I was thinking that evryone is happy my sister got married and she was happy,my grandma who died had a married life for about more than 60 yrs,she spent only 10 yrs after my grandfather died.i was thinking that everyone is lucky that they had a chance to live with their husabdns.He died in my dream after 3 and half years.i wore blackdress and black necklace and was in full sarrow ,everyone taking take care of me but I feel thats a bad luck.my sister got married again in my dream,i dint go because I was not allowed.I just crossed 3 and half years of my married life in real life.please help...thanks

[sailrmc]

First of all I will assume by the context of your dream that you are not married. If you are married, the three and half year period before the the death of your husband would have the purpose in your dream of allowing your mind to ever assess such a possibility of life without a current husband.

Marriage and having someone to count on, to love and share your life with seems to be somewhat of a recurring theme in your dreams. If I am right in my assessment then your subconcsious mind (through dreams) is expressing the yearning that you carry deep within, to be in a marriage. This is real and it is something that comes strait to you rather than in symbolism. In this way you can in a way stand back and look at those who are close to you and the pro's and the con's of being married.
Carl Jung studies this process of the mind in depth and calls this process of the mind "individuation". This is the ability of the mind to use what is called a what if column....then it converts the situation into a why situation. I will explain: When we as free thinking individuals see situations around us we analyze what it happening. For instance you see the relationship between various men and women and how that relationship has played into their lives. All the while you are sizing up this situation looking for pro's and con's and how they would affect your life (if you were in such a situation...specifically looking at marriage in this dream). My Dream thinks hey I see this marriage and that marriage and there are good things to be had in such a relationship. At the same time you might figure in the negative things that could affect you as well. It appears that you are getting to the point of thinking, why not me. Why can't I be in such a long relationship with a husband. I am not sure what significance the 3 and a half years time period have to do with your minds thought process along the lines of marriage unless it (either a real case situation...that you have infact been married and have lost your husband, OR it might be an area of safety allowing you to get to a safe place if in fact you were not happy with the thought of marriage in your dream. In some way the three year marriage limitation is significant.

If in reality you do not have a husband and never have then the dream is called by some, a "what if column". Another words the mind is seeing others around you and placing you in a situation almost as a learning situation, so that you can see options and select that option that is best for you. With the power and magic of dreams you can see if marriage is something that you would be happy with someday?
My question is marriage compared with what? Is there something else that you are considering in real life, that may place a maritial relationship on the back burner? This would be another reason to have such a dream, to weigh whatever happiness and security that marriage could possibly bring versus going to school and furthering your self reliance and education?

Either way, your mind is mulling through opportunities and looking for what will make you happiest.
Possible tradition vs. a new way might be the underlying cause of your dream?
Peace,
sailrmc

[mydreams]

your interest in dream interpretion is great.Its is really really interesting when you write about my dreams,whihc I can only understand.I appreciate your time.