My death, was a ghost, talked by writing, wife didn't handle it well.

[Jetjock]

This was such a realistic dream, that I was actually crying after I woke up... and I don't cry. I had no idea that it was a dream (ie, not a lucid dream). Here it goes:

I was a soldier of some sort. Then, I had to be made into an example by the enemy because I had been captured. I was handcuffed and drug through the streets, although I don't recall anybody watching. The leader felt bad, so he doped me up with some short of iv drug. I was conscious during the dragging and felt my self die.
I floated around in existence and watched a few things happen. I don't recall all of what I was observing, but it was mostly family. I do remember trying to see my wife, but I couldn't. And and I remember that people felt bad for my wife because she wasn't handling my death well at all. I think a lot of time had passed (ie, a couple of years).
I became lonely because I could not talk to my wife. I learned how manipulate things as a ghost to try to communicate. I happened to be flying around and noticed my sister with a few of her friends that I didn't recognize. They were all flying around in flying bicycles. One of her friend's wheels fell off and I swooped down to get it. I figured since they couldn't see me, I could grab the wheel so they would see it. I used it to have them chase me to where we landed, a populated beach area. They all stared at the wheel as I used it to write "Hi" in the air... skywriting it backwards so they could read it. My sister didn't get it at first, but one of her friends did. Then I handed it to my sister so that she knew I was talking to her. we went off to a area where we could "talk" alone. The wheel was no longer a part of the dream. She could talk to me and I could hear her. I couldn't talk, so I wrote in the sand. I don't remember exactly what we said to each other, but do remember that i felt terrible. I wanted to give her a big hug, but couldn't. She couldn't feel how hard I tried to hug her. Then she and I talked about my wife and how bad she was doing. I felt awful about that too... even worse. I had glimpses of her doing terribly, but couldn't actually observe her.
Then I woke up. I was crying and couldn't stop. I woke my wife up because I wanted to give her a big hug (and I did) and she wondered what was wrong. I told her my dream.
I didn't get back to sleep very well. I still felt awful. When I did, I had another dream about growing a ton of flowering cacti in the desert.

Any ideas? I would love to hear your thoughts on this...

[Wolfjk]

Hi,
It is an interesting dream. You will be surprised by what I have to say! The dream was about how you felt in the sleep. My guess is that you felt very much under the weather the day before this dream, and probably taken some medicine.

The leader felt bad, so he doped me up with some short of iv drug. I was conscious during the dragging and felt my self die.

The above quote indicates that you were feeling ill in the sleep and even if you had not taken any medicine you felt drugged. In this state all sorts of negative thoughts enter your mind. However your subconscious is trying to keep you asleep by weaving your thoughts of death and thoughts of losing your nearest and dearest into a dream story to keep you entertained! In that sense your dream is like a weepy movie. At the end you weep but youre alive!
Dreaming is a very powerful psychological medicine. It looks after you when you're down.
Cheers Wolfjk

[sailrmc]

Your next dream would complete the meaning of the first dream that you posted. Sequence dreaming further explores that which was explored in the prior dream.

Let me explain a bit about how the type of dream that you had and how it works and perhaps why you had it.
This type of dream is like all dreams, in that it is scripted, cast and directed by the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind collects data during the waking hours and files certain aspects of that data for comment (this comment happens in dreams or during hypnotism if you should participate).

The subconscious collected the data as I said and it presented it's assessment. We as humans constantly feel as if we need to know how others genuinely feel about us. Because the subconscious mind is such a good collector of this information, information that the waking mind (known as the conscious mind), often misses, it can put it together in a dream.
The dream tells all. It says that you love your wife and that she loves you. There is innuendo however that notes that perhaps you and your wife do become somewhat complacent in your relationship. Through the magic of dreams, the dreaming mind allows you to experience, first hand, intense pain and deep emotion associated with the desolation that a forced split of any kind would leave you with, thus allowing you a deep appreciation for your wife. The subconscious mind does not lie. It sees your wife as someone who cares for you very much and so in real life she is this kind of person.

You can be assured that her love and caring for you is true even though at times it may not be evident. The result is evident...and you experienced it. This dream leaves you with a sense of great loss and therefore upon waking, you feel a need to express you love and if you are smart you will follow this through and use this as impetus to rekindle the wonderment of your relationship with her.

As for the sister etc. It seems as if you have been somewhat manipulative in some way with her. If I am off here there is a reason that you feel sorry and you see that there is a need to put things straight...at least you can see what washes up, or what happens if you make the effort to make things right... ( hence the symbolism the beach scene...communicate clearly and from the heart and see what happens). Your dream makes no promises that this will do the trick in patching what ever anxiety exists between you both but it shows that you need to make a good faith effort, and be genuine in your approach to resolve some issue with her.

In summary, you are removed from you life and access to these people in your dream for a reason. What is the reason?? I am glad that you asked...My friend, it is for the purpose of giving you an objective perspective, to allow you to get it right! The dream is possibly incubated, because you have simply removed yourself emotinally from these people...perhaps you have been less of a person than you are capable of being. The subconscious mind being yoru friend and mentor, is all but letting you know how desolate things could be (and maybe how you feel they are at this time). It is saying Hey, drop all egos and make things right! It will be up to those people in real life to respond, but be patient and show them that you care. Usually this type of dream follows a period where one becomes self centered or somewhat selfish and it simply allows you to see what you have and allows you to make changes in time ...
Remember the movie " The Christmas Carol"? You have just experienced your own version but with emotion that cannot accompany a Hollywood movie.
You felt it! And from your response upon waking, you get it!
NOW if I am off...If you and your wife have a magnificent relatioship with no distance or drama, then perhaps your mind was just letting you know how lonely life could be without her. I do have to say, that of all the years I have been evaluating dreams there is usually a factor that incubates such a dream.
Your thoughts?
sailrmc