Any analysis?

[Carrie_137]

I had one of the most vivid/awkward/realistic feeling dreams I've ever had last night. Emotions, nerves, actual physical feelings.

I randomly started out driving a car down the city, and there was very little traffic. No street lights were on either. While I was driving, if a car was in the opposite lane for oncoming traffic, their lights would shut off and then they would swerve into my lane. No one was driving their car. I would lay on my horn and get out of the way without hitting them... This happened maybe a good 5 or 6 times in my dream, all with different cars.

Eventually I found out there was a guy who was actually the cause of all of this happening (Dustin; who is actually a real friend of mine). He was standing by a tree with the ONLY street light on and no cars and only one apartment complex near by, as if he was waiting for me.

Then I kind of awoke from my dream faintly, coming to realize it was actually a dream - Fell back asleep and picked up exactly where I left off.

I told Dustin that I had outsmarted him by knowing it was only a dream now. Then we proceeded to actually.. "Do it", outside may I mind you. I said to him, "If it's a dream then it shouldn't matter."

This all sounds ridiculous, but I couldn't find a dream dictionary that actually explained any of it out in detail.

Anyone have anything for me?

[quaerome98]

The beginning of the dream seems to suggest that you recently have felt lost, confused, and threatened or anxious in a situation that is usually familiar and comfortable. Unexpected darkness represents disorientation where you would normally expect to be able to find your way. The oncoming cars represent crises that you narrowly avoided, possibly only by chance (no driver = no discernible reason for the strange behavior, might suggest inevitability/fate). Dustin appears to be the only safe, discernible thing in the dream, which suggests that in your life you have come to see Dustin (or something Dustin stands for- I'll get to that in a sec) as the only comprehensible, reasonable, stable thing.
The second part of the dream is a little more complicated, as once the conscious self has become in some way involved, the subconscious might no longer have full control of the dream - if you're interested in that, you might want to look up more info on lucid dreams. You seem to be saying that you had intercourse with dustin in the second half of the dream mostly because you were aware that it was in fact a dream, and you were therefore able to let go of your inhibitions. If it was very physical sex, then in my opinion it means that you are sexually attracted to Dustin, but that for some reason you are holding back from letting those feelings become realized. If you had very close, intimate, emotionally connective sex it could mean that you have a serious attraction to him that exceeds the physical, or that you just are looking for deep connection on any level but again you are holding back. This brings me to the character of Dustin. If the Dustin in your dream felt like Dustin in real life - i.e. he looked and acted the same, and you seemed to be treating him (at least initially) in the way that you usually treat him - then Dustin in the dream most likely represented the real-life Dustin. If something about him seemed notably different or if you felt that you treated him differently, Dustin probably represents something or somebody else that you occassionally associate the real-life dustin with - perhaps he just stands in as a general male friend figure, maybe as another particular person that Dustin might remind you of, or maybe he reminds you of a particular aspect of yourself.
You mentioned really strong feelings at the beginning of your entry, but didn't really specify what they were - pay attention to those. They indicate that this dream is probably important, and they will be your most helpful guide in figuring out what each symbol and action represents in real life. For example, were you more apprehensive or relieved every time you avoided an accident? Were you angry at Dustin, happy to see him? Were you satisfied by having intercourse with him, did it merely feel like an obligation? Anyways, I'm no expert - I can only tell you a few possibilites and you have to decide what, if anything, fits what you actually feel about your dream, adding in your own associations. Hope I helped a bit!

[Carrie_137]

Wow. That does help greatly. Thank you!

When I was speak speaking of the feelings I had towards the beginning of the post, I meant for example... When the car scenarios happened, I had the adrenaline rush every single time as if it were an actual event happening and then afterwards, would feel the relief that I made it through. I occasionally have lucid dreams, where the emotion really comes to life. Once, I fell in love with a stranger in my dream, then I woke up... Still to think I was in love with someone until I realized, I was only in love with a dream.

Dustin, in real life, is merely JUST a friend of mine. There really isn't any sexual tension or attraction there. But, I have recently been coming to the realization that I've been single for over a year and everyone around me seems to be just able to jump RIGHT into relationships .. Everyone, except for me. Something always goes wrong when it comes the that category of my life (i.e. the "feeling lost" you were mentioning in the beginning). So also, the urge to have sex has been quite strong in my conscious life. Could this possibly be the catalyst for the scenario in my dream?

After the fact of having intercourse with Dustin, it felt as if it was out of spite. Not for him, but for other people in my life. As if I was trying to prove something I suppose. I'm not exactly sure, because that part of the dream was kind of foggy afterwards.

If you could elaborate just a bit more on the information I just gave, I would greatly appreciate it! You've been a great help so far!

- C

[quaerome98]

Hmm, given that info, the second half of the dream would seem to be saying that you know you shouldn't just jump into a relationship for the sake of proving (to yourself and to others) that you can get into one, because you know it isn't a wise decision - you can do that only in your dream because there it "doesn't matter," you won't have to suffer any consequences like you would in real life. But then I'm not sure about the first half of the dream - you mentioned that "something always goes wrong" in regards to relationships, maybe those bad circumstances were the car accidents you barely escaped. It sounds to me like Dustin is here just fulfilling the role of a male that you can be emotionally close to, and the fact that he seems to be the cause of all the near misses and whatnot seems to back up the thing about the car accidents - that all the fear and anxiety was for the purpose of a ttaining this goal.

It sounds like this dream is just expressing your worries about your love life, but there are also some hopeful notes - your subconscious projected a friend, not an ex-lover or a crush, into the most important role, which shows that you know that's the sort of thing you want deep down, and you seem to understand why you're holding back and why that holding back is most likely a good thing. Your dream is telling you to keep going the way you know is right and eventually you'll get to the right guy under that one street light. Good luck!