Old bones, husband cheating, nightmare

[summers]

I somehow discover my husband is cheating on me. ( This isn't a waking life fear )It's nighttime, I'm on the floor going through his wallet, shouting questions, grilling him. Every answer, and everywhere in the wallet, is more and more-TONS- of damning evidence. He could really care less. A sexual manual, pictures of this lady, he says he's had sex with her, has been seeing her for months, saw her today, brought her to our house, etc etc. I mean, as bad as it can get. I tell his mother (doesn't care ) threaten him ( doesn't care) etc etc. Nothing I do has any effect on his emotions.
Somehow I guess I hurt him, because the next thing I know, I am on the street oustide. There are hundreds of old, small, dusty bones in piles. I think some insides too. I see teeth, a spine, you name it. I start to freak out, ( not thinking lucidly, it's clear wondering how to get the bones and insides back in the body. I feel him and he has teeth a spine, etc, I think he's grown them back. Momentarily, my husband morphs in to my old dog who died of cancer and I pick her up tenderly from the street and bring her inside to the couch, shoving my new dogs out of the way. Later I'm in the basement and Suzie ( a woman from church) comes over. I watch her light pull up, her feet. I am glad she is there, we go upstairs and my husband is sitting on the chair, sweating bullets. We check on his progress.

This dream is much longer. But this part is what shook me up and my husband is telling me he can't be in the doghouse because of a dream. It would help if I could understand it!!! Such strong emotion must signify, right?? And I didn't eat anything hours before falling asleep. It may be significant that the end of the dream as I remember it is deciding to have an affair to get back at him, where I walk up and give an aquaintance a overly long hug. Wierd.

[dreamalittledream]

I dreamed once that my boyfriend was cheating on me, but my reaction was blase. I mentioned it in real life and he denied it. There was no basis in fact to my dream, so sometimes we feel jealous of a significant other and won't approach this in real life, so our subconscious allows us to deal with it in our dreams.
In the dream, I guess you grilled him so much about the alleged affair that you felt you had wounded him and then wanted to put him back together. I think that you sense that your suspicions of him being adulterous are hurting him. I think you should trust that he's being honest and faithful.

[summers]

Thanks, but I have no jealousy or suspect him of even thinking about that. We're together all the time! Any other theories?

[Wolfjk]

Originally Posted by summers

I somehow discover my husband is cheating on me. ( This isn't a waking life fear )It's nighttime, I'm on the floor going through his wallet, shouting questions, grilling him. Every answer, and everywhere in the wallet, is more and more-TONS- of damning evidence. He could really care less. A sexual manual, pictures of this lady, he says he's had sex with her, has been seeing her for months, saw her today, brought her to our house, etc etc. I mean, as bad as it can get. I tell his mother (doesn't care ) threaten him ( doesn't care) etc etc. Nothing I do has any effect on his emotions.
Somehow I guess I hurt him, because the next thing I know, I am on the street oustide. There are hundreds of old, small, dusty bones in piles. I think some insides too. I see teeth, a spine, you name it. I start to freak out, ( not thinking lucidly, it's clear wondering how to get the bones and insides back in the body. I feel him and he has teeth a spine, etc, I think he's grown them back. Momentarily, my husband morphs in to my old dog who died of cancer and I pick her up tenderly from the street and bring her inside to the couch, shoving my new dogs out of the way. Later I'm in the basement and Suzie ( a woman from church) comes over. I watch her light pull up, her feet. I am glad she is there, we go upstairs and my husband is sitting on the chair, sweating bullets. We check on his progress.

This dream is much longer. But this part is what shook me up and my husband is telling me he can't be in the doghouse because of a dream. It would help if I could understand it!!! Such strong emotion must signify, right?? And I didn't eat anything hours before falling asleep. It may be significant that the end of the dream as I remember it is deciding to have an affair to get back at him, where I walk up and give an aquaintance a overly long hug. Wierd.

Hi,
In your other dream, your subconscious was cryingout loud to tell you that your dream was caused by something you eaten before sleep.
My experience is that dreams do not mean or symbolise this or that however they give away som of your character.
This dream is probably caused by a psycological problem. My guess is that there is something simmering between you and your husband, however your nature is to ignore it.
Perhaps the dream suggests that you think more of your dogs than your husband?
Cheers Wolfjk.

[Varzandeh]

Hi,


Dreaming about a young woman for men means a happiness and achieving a wish at work is on the way , this is the same for women about dreaming a man.
The happiness will be as much as the woman ( or man ) will be beautiful and thick.
An old woman means the material world. The best is that the woman or man ( for women) was not known and was of a nice figure, that will mean an opening in the life.
An ugly, thin woman means a short of money and famine , a happy woman ( or a man for ladies) with make up means achieving a wish and an ugly dirty old woman means a bad situation and not achieving a wish.
If a woman dreamt had a male organ means she will have a child or will be pregnant.
If a woman dreamt had a male organ and had sex means she will have some infamy.
If a young woman dreamt she was old means her religion and material affairs are good.
If a man dreamt his wife had penis and was having anal sex with him means he will lose his dignity .
If a woman dreamt she was man and put mean's wear on , for honest women means she will receive a goodness but for dishonest women means she will receive an evil and corruption.
If a man dreamt had sex with a prostitute for material people means their money will increase and for pious people means their knowledge will increase.
An stranger woman is better than a known woman.
If a man dreamt someone or a few men had sex with his wife means the woman's family will get rich for example they will buy houses.
If dreamt his wife went for corruption and sex to the stranger people means they will have benefits from that man.
If dreamt someone gave his wife some medicine means they will have a baby girl.
If dreamt someone gave his wife a sword or a lance means they will have a baby boy.
A woman may also mean : 1- a happiness 2- material world 3- occupation 4- plenty of blessing 5- famine and poverty 6- wealth.


If one dreamt had a piece of bone and there was some meat with it means he will receive some money as much as the meat.
If dreamt a bone without meat means a small benefit.
If dreamt gave someone a bone means he will do the other a small favor.
If dreamt someone's bone was broken and he was setting it means he will learn many skills and will do many goodness.
Some interpreters say he will do a poor a favor.
Bone also may mean : 1- a wish 2- family 3- child 4- home tutor 5- money 6- brothers 7- a friend.

Dust also means some money
A dog means someone who doesn't act on what he knows.

[summers]

Originally Posted by Wolfjk

Hi,
In your other dream, your subconscious was cryingout loud to tell you that your dream was caused by something you eaten before sleep.
My experience is that dreams do not mean or symbolise this or that however they give away som of your character.
This dream is probably caused by a psycological problem. My guess is that there is something simmering between you and your husband, however your nature is to ignore it.
Perhaps the dream suggests that you think more of your dogs than your husband?
Cheers Wolfjk.

Wolfjk... where exactly to you find the information to assume this dream is caused by a psychological problem? And to definitively tell me what my other dream meant? I find it interesting that you pull the psychology card but dismiss subconscience personal symbolism in dreams almost completely.
I respectfully and completely disagree that my other dream was caused by food alone, and that this dream is telling me I think more about my dogs than my husband! It seems overly simplistic and completely unscientific to attribute every dream to something you ate or watched on tv, etc. It's about as blank and unusable as using symbolism from a book. We are all partial to our own opinions, but we should make allowance for the fact that no one answer can tell us what dreams are. I believe about one third of dreams are just digestion-of the daily experience, something you ate before sleeping or experienced during deep sleep or in a dream... but anyone who is at all tuned into themselves can distinguish between these dreams and other types. When strong emotions that are completely unrelated in any way from the waking life come into the equation, why not pay attention....
I would think twice before confidently declaring what someone's dream is telling them. What if I told you I was a vegetatian?
When the waking mind is so powerful, and for most people, untrained or unbridled, when your uncontrolled thoughts create patterns that can wreak chaos in your life, I would assume that same mind in the dreaming state is not less complicated but more so, and that dreams are remembered for a reason, whatever it may be; if they had no use for us people would have been ignoring them for ages. I suggest you read Breakthrough Dreaming, which was an old college textbook of mine, it has a scientific point of view, and see if that broadens your mind.

[Wolfjk]

Originally Posted by summers

Wolfjk... where exactly to you find the information to assume this dream is caused by a psychological problem? And to definitively tell me what my other dream meant? I find it interesting that you pull the psychology card but dismiss subconscience personal symbolism in dreams almost completely.
I respectfully and completely disagree that my other dream was caused by food alone, and that this dream is telling me I think more about my dogs than my husband! It seems overly simplistic and completely unscientific to attribute every dream to something you ate or watched on tv, etc. It's about as blank and unusable as using symbolism from a book. We are all partial to our own opinions, but we should make allowance for the fact that no one answer can tell us what dreams are. I believe about one third of dreams are just digestion-of the daily experience, something you ate before sleeping or experienced during deep sleep or in a dream... but anyone who is at all tuned into themselves can distinguish between these dreams and other types. When strong emotions that are completely unrelated in any way from the waking life come into the equation, why not pay attention....
I would think twice before confidently declaring what someone's dream is telling them. What if I told you I was a vegetatian?
When the waking mind is so powerful, and for most people, untrained or unbridled, when your uncontrolled thoughts create patterns that can wreak chaos in your life, I would assume that same mind in the dreaming state is not less complicated but more so, and that dreams are remembered for a reason, whatever it may be; if they had no use for us people would have been ignoring them for ages. I suggest you read Breakthrough Dreaming, which was an old college textbook of mine, it has a scientific point of view, and see if that broadens your mind.

Hi,
Thanks for your post.

where exactly to you find the information to assume this dream is caused by a psychological problem?

I find some dreams - even my own - almost unfathomable! However I have a long experience of studying dreams and find that the subconscious often tries to get over what is causing the dream.

I suggest you read Breakthrough Dreaming, which was an old college textbook of mine, it has a scientific point of view, and see if that broadens your mind

I Explained my scientific view points on this forum about 5 years ago. The trouble with the modern day scientific studies is that they look at dreams as a trivial pursuit!

dreams are remembered for a reason, whatever it may be

My experience is that dreams are remembered for reasons that happen in the sleep! In waking life if you drive on the same road every day and nothing happens, you dont distinguish from one journey from another, however if you see a crash or have a mishap, you remember it more. Dreams deal with what happens in the sleep. they control sleep and waking. They control the level of consciousness in waking. They supply energy to the subconscious body in sleep. In short dreams keep us alive while we sleep.
I would not likely to go into the scientific mire of quantas, the laws of thermo dynamics and computer language which the subconscious uses to create the dreams that keep you alive, but I can tell you it is beyond the unders tanding of most present day scientists.
So you can see where BREAKTHROUGH DREAMING fit in! In the thrash bin!
My interpretations are based on more than 60 years of experience with dreams, plus studying most of the old and modern writiongs about dreams! Including Jung, Freud, Solms, Hobson and the rest.
Cheers Wolfjk