very confused - disturbing dreams

[prettyhate]

Hi there i joined today because i really think dreams are vital for helping me with my own personal growth/healing - i am going through a bad time
(was broken up with after my ex cheated on me and then wanted it to work and then out of the blue broke up with me its been 2months...)

last night i had (what i can remember) a dream of seeing my ex with his eye sockets out and like hung over his head and i couldnt tell if he was dead or not but then realised he was it was weird
and then i had a dream about being in bed and doing things with a guy i didnt know and i half felt resentment and half enjoyed it the general tone was of dominance or abuse - like a guilty sense came over me when i woke from it

i am really disturbed though by those 2 dreams this morning

i have read a lot about death but what about seeing others die or watching someone u know that is dead....?
looking forward to working things out

[Varzandeh]

Hi,
His eyes mean his rligion and morals or his dear property if went out means he will lose his morals or a dear roperty.
He was hang up means he will have a management position in a few months.
You had sex with an unknown person means you will achieve a wish at work or life.
If you dreamt someone you know died meanshe will have a problem solved,
A dead person means he is ignorant or unaware ofsomething like a dead.
Good luck.

[prettyhate]

hope so he is dead to me now i feel like i dont know him
i have a few books i try to use but its tricky
and like dream alchemy and other things
thanks very much

[sailrmc]

Your dream in general means that you view your relationship with your husband as being over. As well it is pointed out that that a part of you has been affected negatively. Now it all depends on weather you were the abuser or the abused in your second dream phase...if you were being abused and somewhat enjoying it then is shows your tendency to choose to be in a relationship where you are hurt (either physically or emotionally) AND if you were the abuser is shows that you harbor anger as a result of your husband treating you badly.
The innuendo is that perhaps there is a cycle that is being set up and you need to break this cycle through resolution (working out your anger as a result of being manipulated).
The bottom line is that you need to be aware, so that you do not let this kind of person back into your life or the cycle will be perpetuated (causing lifelong pain to you).
sailrmc

[unclesirbobbyrobson]

Hi pretty Hate

Sorry to hear about your relationship. Many dreams link to how we are dealing with relationships. You can even match what is going through your mind with whats in the dream.


For instance , the dream about his eye sockets hanging out. Maybe that links to some thoughts abuot him. A wish perhaps that he is doing badly. That can be a double edged thing. You may want him to do badly in order to exress your own resentment and bad feelings. It may easily show that these are in fact your own feelings- bad feelings. It could also represent a wish to see him doing badly - in order so you can reestablish the
relationship


The dream about abuse and dominance shows how you are dealing with the relationship ending. When we end a relationship we go through a period of resentment. If we started a new relationship immediately it would probably fail because you would still be dealing with bad feelings. There is a resentment building up towards men in general. Thats where the abuse comes in.


It just shows you need a bit of time in order to get these bad feelings out of your system.
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What exactly is a dream? A dream often captures some new thought or feeling or fantasy. Often deeply embedded in it is some idea or thought. Try to bear that in mind when understanding a dream. A dream will symbolise some conceptual thought such as "I think my grandmother is still angry with me after what I said" . Many dreams revolve us making such judgements based upon our intuitions.

How exactly do you go about understanding the meaning of a dream symbol? Well first you start to make associations with that symbol. Take for instance if you had a dream about Tony Blair the Prime Minister of the UK. You can associate many things with him. First of all he is a decision maker. The dream then could capture you wanting to take some serious decision within your own life. But equally Tony Blair is a man who began his political life a hero who was universally popular. Now he is disliked by almost everyone in the country. Maybe the dream captures some similar situation for yourself eg "When I first started my job everyone liked me. I could do nothing wrong. But recently I have become universally unpopular". But we could also see Tony Blair in another sense. He is the ally of President Bush and is often accused of doing everything he says and because of this has been accused of being a poodle. So maybe the dream captures some theme with a similar "yes man" theme. But Tony Blair could also have different meanings. He has virtually said that he will resign in the spring and there was much speculation about this and about how he should go about resigning. Maybe the dream captures a similar theme in your own life eg "I am thinking of leaving my job. But if I tell my boss it may cause trouble for me. I might just leave it as long as possible".

Therefor its possible to list many different symbolic meanings. Any one of these could be correct. The first association that comes to mind is not always the correct one. Its a matter of trying out different theories and then seeing if they fit the situation or feelings within your life. If one seems to work then try working in the other dream symbols.

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