Please Help

[Sarah-Lou]

Hi all,

I guess i should start by saying i lost a friend( a really good friend) two years ago, he was diabetic and couldnt have to much sugar but one night he was out with us drinking alcopops and decided to drive home, another friend hid his keys and eventually barry found them took them and drove home. On his way he had a diabetic seizure and blacked out and killed a cyclist and then crashed into a taxi. Mark who had orignally hid his keys, arrived ten minutes after the crash and barry was still alive on the road ( he had come through the windscreen) and he told mark something, which mark has never repeated but to this day mark lives with guilt that he didnt hide the keys well enough.

Anyway i have never dreamt of barry but think about him all the time.

Last night i dreamt of him. In my dream i was in bed and was woken with noises downstairs, i turned on some music to try block out the fear, but heard another noise. I then rang my friend and ran down the stairs saying someone was in the house....as i was running out of the house i heard the man calling me "sarah wait its me" as i turned around it was barry, i hung up on my friend and stood there in shock and said "but your......Its you!!" i hugged him but he seemed reluctant to be affectionate and i said but your dead barry you cant be here, he then told me they burried the wrong body and by the time he came out of the coma we had all grieved and moved on and that he was now living half an hour away from us.

I asked him to come back and talk to mark! And how could he let mark go through guilt every day of his life, he said he just couldnt come back.

My parents were away for two weeks in the dream so i told him to come stay with me, he said he couldnt ever come back it would be to risky. We kissed. And then i said i would need all the stuff back he robbed which was pens and bread it was so strange, there was nothing of value.

I asked him what he was working as and he said he was a new priest in a monastry, and i said but you kissed me and he said that i wouldnt understand. That he had to go and that was it i woke up.

Please help me. I need to know what this all means as i know it sounds crazy but it was to real to be ignored. Obviously he is not still alive as it was his body int he coffin i saw it. but it was like he really was talking to me.

[Varzandeh]

Hi,
A deceased person was alive means something forgotten and impossible for you will revive.

You hugged a deceased person means an illness of you will cure or a sorrow will vanish.
You kissed a dead means you will do some charity for his sake.

If he had given you pens and bread would means your blessings and earning would increase and pen means achievbing a wish or a scientific success.
But he didn't give you so this is weak.

This may take a few days to two months to happen.

[Sarah-Lou]

I did get the pens and bread back while we were back in the house.

Do you think this is him talking to me, giving me closure as i often get upset and still am grieving despite the length of time it had been.

The music in the dream was really loud and does the friend that i called to help me have any significance in the dream. And Barry's new job as a priest?

Appreciate the help.

[unclesirbobbyrobson]

Well this is a serious enough incident for it too weigh on your shoulders. It is possible for you to dream about this so long after the event. I would often say that most things that happened two years ago will be long gone. But this is an issue over guilt. It could be possible that he is talking to you. I could not prove that either way though so maybe I could offer a possible interpretation based uponit been an entirely internal dream. One that links to how you have changed and how you now see the world compared to then.

Possibly the issue links to you now being more older and wiser. That you recognize the responsibility you had then. Maybe it also links to how you see yourself right now. Maybe the dream links to some new incident. Every day we have to decide what to do? We make choices . You and others made choices back then. They were wrong choices - things that mark especially has judged himself badly over. Was there some recent incident linked to similar choices. A need to show responsibility and good sense

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One way of telling how vital dreams are is to study people who are deprived of sleep and dreams.Sleep deprivation is very dangerous if it continues for extended periods. If you are deprived of sleep for several days then you will slip into madness. The reason for this is that sleep and dreams are linked to vital brain functions.

During the day we store up new thoughts and experiences within short term memory blocks. So if we are deprived sleep these become overloaded. The mind has no more space to store new feelings so these are merely forgotten.

During sleep vital brain waves emerge. Beta waves and theta waves are only ever detected within the brain at night. These help us process through those new feelings and experiences stored in short term memory. We integrate these new feelings into long term memory blocks. So if you do not sleep then you will not be updating your thoughts. You will not be building a bigger picture.

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