Two dreams/ same theme

[beauteous]

I've have two dreams in the last few weeks that are different from each other but seem to have the same theme.

Dream #1
My husband and I are in a play. He is the leading man but someone else is the leading lady. I am a secondary character but not an extra. My character dies midway through the play. It is important I am not seen after the play so I leave the theater after my part is over and wait in my car in the parking lot. After the play ends and the audience leaves, I return to the theater looking for my husband to see how the rest of the play turned out. There is an after party going and a big crowd. I see my husband across the room with the leading lady. They are talking and having a good time. I wave to him. He waves back then goes back to his conversation and I can't find him again.

Dream #2
My husband has been invited to go to laser tag by some friends and wants me to go. I don't really want to go but want to spend time with him so I go. We get to the place a little late and spend time at the front counter discussing whether to pay for one game at time or a multi-game package. I argue that I'm not sure I want to do it once let alone several so I don't see the point of paying for several games. He is impatient to get inside and see his friends. We eventually pay and get wristbands to wear. He puts his on and tosses mine to me. I don't catch it but he doesn't notice and goes inside. I can't find the writstband and can't get in without it. I do get in eventually and find my husband sitting at a snack bar with a group of women just chatting and laughing. He seems surprised that I am upset when I see him.

My husband and I have a history of marital problems including infidelity, so I thought at first these dreams related to that, but it doesn't seem to fit with what I feel. We live apart M-F due to work situations, so it may relate in some way to that, but I am starting to feel it has less to to with him and more to do with me.

I feel left out and and in second place in these dreams. Am I neglecting myself? Am I putting myself in second place? Do I feel leftout of life?

These things seem to resonate better with me than infidelity or marital discord.

[sailrmc]

I think that you have nailed the meaning of your dream, when you stated your feelings (having to do with feelings associated with the fact that you come in second place).
I believe that this dream shows that you are "feeling" left out when it comes to your relationship. You are in the picture but you are not getting his attention (in general).
It looks as if a little attention (genuine attention) would be just what the doctor ordered (so to speak).
sailrmc