horrible dream-rape

[mulafraga]

Hi, im 21 , and i must say this nightmare, or dream, made me feel really bad. more than id ever thought possible.

I normally think about girls a lot, and i dont have a girlfriend for more than a year. and the one i had was the only one i had(for 5 months).

yesterday, i was chatting with a girl i talked on the phone sometimes and chat on msn(changed photos etc). we're somewhat good friends. i usually tell her "i love her". she normally says im joking with her, and i told her its not serious, but she cant be sure if its true or not.

yesterday i said the same before i went to sleep and she repplied "dont say things that you know that arent true" . that really hurt me hard. i told her it isnt quite a lie. she then told me that she was sorry, but that she didnt want to hurt my feelings or anything(because she didnt feel the same way)

Then i dreamt about her. about her telling me she didnt like me. Then took her with me to bed, and Raped her. Not sexual intercourse, but fingering(i know she's a virgin-while i'm not). she didnt resist(but she was quite sad).
i was getting really devastaded on the end of the dream after what ive done. then i woke up crying...1 hour after this, i still am.

i hope im not getting insane. im really heartbroke with this dream. im really sad that i did what i did to her in the dream, and probably the whole raping thing.

[Leidee]

Firstly, remember a dream is just that - a dream. For the vast majority of people dreams don't indicate a particularly strong intent to act in the way the dream plays out.

Your dream to me is very symbolic.

You and this girl spend time typing on MSN; a process of communication relying upon your fingers touching the keyboard.

You had been reprimanded (gently) by this girl that she doesn't like it when you tell her (type to her) that you love her as she does not feel she can replicate the feelings; so, possibly, at some level you felt that you had imposed on her in some way.

You then dreamt of raping her with your fingers. This "imposition" (a too gentle term to be generally associated with a rape) on her in your dream could be some reflection (albeit somewhat amplified by you) of your feeling of imposing on her emotionally.

What do you think?

Best regards
Leidee

[unclesirbobbyrobson]

Hi

Well do not worry too much. Drteams are often about your own deepest frustrations. Rape often shows deeply negative feelings... a wish toi fight back.... wanting to hurt them for the way that youy feel hurt. Rape is linked to humiliation and powerlessness. Its only a dream.

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[mulafraga]

thanks for trying to help me. i was really nervous/sad when i left home early(i got late because i couldnt go out in that state). but i had such a busy day at school that i didnt have time to think about this dream.

the fingers really were an important part of the dream... the imposing too.

what about the fact that i took her virginity with them? has that got any special meaning''?

[Leidee]

In connection with my earlier post, your dream really indicates that you feel you have invaded your friend's space. The fact that, in your dream, your friend is a virgin is probably more indicative of your mind set about this situation.

What you have experiend with your friend in waking life is a very [b]standard[b] situation of you expressing a feeling for a friend who then expresses she doesn't return those feelings. Your dream is an amplification of your bad feelings about this situation.

The fact that in your dream you "take" your friend's virginity is another indication of how much you have blown the waking life situation out of proper proportion.