My guy broke up with me, I had a dream that he asked me to live with him get married

[dancingcolors]

Hi. I have been in a relationship for 11 months with a man, who is very commit phobic. He couldn't even say he was my boyfriend, even though he was living here half the time. He finally broke up with me over this issue. It has only been about 2 weeks at most. I had a dream the other night that we were walking down a country road, and he said " Will you live with me, will you marry me?". I was very surprised to hear this in the dream, and then I woke up.
Is this just wishful thinking on my part. At this point he is convinced he doesn't want to see. me. We got along great, except for this basic relationship dynamic.
I am totally in love with him, and he says he isn't in love with me. he says he has never been in love with anyone, even though he was married for 21 years. When he met me, he said he wanted a bond of love with someone. It felt like he was in love with me, to me, but he says he was a flat, two dimensional plane through the whole relationship, not feeling anything.
So is this dream just wishful thinking?

[sailrmc]

Hello dancingcolors,
I am so sorry to say, that yes, this is your minds way of showing you how you feel. Perhaps he will come to his senses and return to you but you will not know if your dream is precognitive until he does or does not (as the case may be).

I will throw in a couple of thoughts here... I sense that you are a thinking a feeling person who is capable of love and all that love encompasses. I also see, from what you have said about this guy, that he has great issues to deal with. In a love situation, it takes two...and the rewards of finding someone who is compassionate, loving, caring are incredible. On the other hand, the long term effects of falling in love with a person like the one you described as your former boyfriend, is pain and misery on your part (and as strange as it may sound to say, it would be pain and misery on his part as well).
You would be the giver in a huge way, only to be continually rejected. He must first be capable of finding happiness within himself, before ever being able to love someone else.
I know that this does not make you feel any better about "things" but the long term is so important...would you not agree?
In any case, I wish you the best.
There is somebody for you and when you least expect it he will come along.
Sailrmc