Ex boyfriend reoccurring dream

[angel0306]

Hello!

I keep having a dream about my ex boyfriend. It's usually we end up somewhere (like his mom's or something) and at first he ignores me (but he'll look at me and smile, but doesn't speak). Then either I say something about him ignoring me or he comes up to me. We usually end up "together" but not because in the dream I'm still married (which I currently am) and I make a point to tell him I can't be with him because I'm married (we always end up leaving somewhere, like in a car or something after the initial meeting. Once we start talking to each other again). It's basically him wanting me back (never saying so or apologizing) and part of me wanting him back but not wanting to end my marriage.

In real life we had a weird break up and to this day (this was almost 8 years ago) I don't know the true reason for it (and he also strung me along for a long time telling me we'd eventually be together again) and I don't feel there was closure on my end (we stopped talking because I found out he had stolen my credit card and used it and I moved back home).

I really hate this because I feel bad dreaming about my ex, my husband would be very hurt if he knew this but I can't help it.

Thanks for helping!

[bright_dreamer]

Hi ANgel,
I think that many of us already know the answers to our dream from within, but are not sure how to trust our inner voices.
You said that your breakup with your ex had no closure, and he kept stringing you along. I feel that you already know the answer to why you are having this dream.
Now the issue is, "How do I stop having this dream?"
How can you create closure to this relationship for yourself? You will need to try to find a way to do this yourself, because, obviously, your ex doesn't care to.
Maybe you can write a "break up" letter to your ex and get it ALL off your chest. Don't hold back any of your feelings. Then instead of mailing it to him, bury it or burn it, to symbolize the end of that chapter of your life.
Then, go celebrate, do something loving for yourself. Have a massage, facial, have a nice lunch, shop...just for you. Then, go back and enjoy your husband!
I wish you luck!
PEace to you,