Over 20 years now....

[1111]

Wow, this is kind of scary, but thought I would get some other thoughts or insights on this from the experts. I am married with three wonderful kids. I have been married almost 19 years. Before I was married I dated a girl for over 2 years, who in my mind and heart, was perfect. Perfect to the extent that when we were dating I could just sit and thank God how lucky of a guy I am to have such a perfect girl. Then walks in my insecurities and immaturity. We were engaged, she gave me the ring back and haven't heard or seen her since 1986. Here is the scoop, I still dream about her, maybe every other month or so. It isn't sexual, or promiscuous, she is just present. I don't even remember what we talk about. Is there anyone out there with this experience, am I alone? Thamks for taking the time to read.

[stargazer24]

Ok, it sounds like there are some kind of insecurites in your relationship now. For some reason you have your ex on your mind and she keeps coming back to you. Are you having any problems with your marriage right now? Something triggering these dreams? I must say, these have to do with YOUR insecurites. i used to have multiple dreams about my boyfriend (also the father of my 2 children) whom I was with for 7 years. I would dream that he was cheating on me with his ex-girlfriend. These dreams stemmed from my insecurities. I knew that they were together for years and engaged to be married. I always felt that even though he loved me for who i was, i would always be compared to her because that was all he knew before he met me. See, HE never compared me to her, I was the one doing that - finally I just started praying on it, asking God to help me with my insecuries - convincing myself that there was a reason he was with me & not HER. It took a while but the dreams DID stop. Hope this helps.

[sailrmc]

Throughout our lives we encounter people and events that forever change our life. Without explaining much further we are not the same after experiencing what life has to offer. Jung calls this impact from the subconscious mind's perspective "individuation" (these would be the dreams that you have). Special people actually become a part of the person that we become as a result of meeting them in real life. The mind often reminds us of those who are big influences in our life and certainly this wonderful girl is one of those people. She will always be a part of you.
Some would say that 1111 indicates a time that you will again cross paths with her, but I am a bit more conservative then that. To know if a dream is precognitive or not one must simply wait to see if "it" happens in real life.
sailrmc

[Wolfjk]

Originally Posted by 1111

Wow, this is kind of scary, but thought I would get some other thoughts or insights on this from the experts. I am married with three wonderful kids. I have been married almost 19 years. Before I was married I dated a girl for over 2 years, who in my mind and heart, was perfect. Perfect to the extent that when we were dating I could just sit and thank God how lucky of a guy I am to have such a perfect girl. Then walks in my insecurities and immaturity. We were engaged, she gave me the ring back and haven't heard or seen her since 1986. Here is the scoop, I still dream about her, maybe every other month or so. It isn't sexual, or promiscuous, she is just present. I don't even remember what we talk about. Is there anyone out there with this experience, am I alone? Thamks for taking the time to read.

Hi,
You may find my post strange but I think your dreams about your ex serve you well.
It was big shock to your system when your perfect girl gave you the push! Your subconscious uses this "shock in your dreams as a source of energy to wake you in the mornings and at other times to raise your level of consciousness in sleep. You should look on your dreams about your ex as an asset that your subconscious can use any time it needs a waking device.
Having said all this, I'm sure your dreams about her will stop now. The surprise element has gone!
Cheers Wolfjk