HELP i need interpretation

[teddy_dc]

hello i need help i have been thinking of leaving my husband because i am mentally tired of fighting 24/7. but at the same time i do not think i should because GOD does not believe in divorce so i am so torn. i mean i am kind of scared to say anything but at times i do not want to seperate

ok last night i had a dream of getting ready with my sister for her wedding and we were at a church i think but before the wedding we were at the church like any sunday and a preacher was talking about a couple and how they are not happy and i knew he was talking about us and the preacher made it to where we are not together anymore so after that i went up to my husband and asked if he heard the preacher and he said yes and i told him it was about us and said we need a few months apart and he did not get mad which was weird

i am worried what this dream means someone please help me

[b_randy]

Originally Posted by teddy_dc

hello i need help i have been thinking of leaving my husband because i am mentally tired of fighting 24/7. but at the same time i do not think i should because GOD does not believe in divorce so i am so torn. i mean i am kind of scared to say anything but at times i do not want to seperate

ok last night i had a dream of getting ready with my sister for her wedding and we were at a church i think but before the wedding we were at the church like any sunday and a preacher was talking about a couple and how they are not happy and i knew he was talking about us and the preacher made it to where we are not together anymore so after that i went up to my husband and asked if he heard the preacher and he said yes and i told him it was about us and said we need a few months apart and he did not get mad which was weird

i am worried what this dream means someone please help me

It sounds like this is a real struggle for you. It's hard to know what to do in that kind of a situation when you're just fed up but you're religion says something different. I know, I've been there. Maybe this dream is just a result of this weighing on your mind so much and your struggle with what would make you happy and what your religion says about divorce. You know you're not happy in your current situation but you're afraid of the reaction you'll get from your husband and your church. I also am one that believes that dreams give you signs sometimes (not everyone shares my belief). But they can help you better understand what's going on in your life and help you to deal. Maybe this is your own way of telling yourself that no matter what, you'll be ok....and you will. Like I said before, I've been there so if you ever need to talk...please feel free to look me up. I wish you well.

[diesromantic]

My name is Nicci and I just finished reading your post and I felt compelled to message you. Not out of my years of married wisdom, I am newly married as of 12/28/07. And not out of years of living so to speak, bc I'm 26. But I ask you to put that aside. I am a firm believer in God, I've alwas wanted to be married and be a good wife so I've invested myself in perparing for that by reading what scripture says, christian authors and leaders, watching couples around me. I've taken it all in and developed a more Godly vision of what marriage should be and not the worlds take. You, on your wedding day made a covenant with God and your husband. God doesn't take this pledge ligtly and I highly encourage you to read "The Covenant" by Dr James Garlow for a clear understand of what it is. Unless your husband cheats of you or asks you for a divorce you are bond to him. But this isn't a curse you have to struggle through. God intended marriage to be a blessing, we were literally created FOR each other, we can't live fully without the other. I've always felt that marriage should be better than the examples I'd seen around me and I think I've found the key. Selfishness! I never really considered myself a selfish person, but I had a worldly view. We are taught marriage is a 50/50 but that is just a LIE!!! It's not at all! Mainly bc who determines where the 50/50 line meets, who is to say where half way is, that is the problem, we all feel half way at a different place. Marriage is a 100/100, giving ALL of yourself, ALL of the time. Teddy, your marriage won't get any better until YOU decide to make it better. My husband and I have committed to each other that we will pray together EVERY day. Our marriage is founded on God and our faith in Him. I encourage you to do the same, you and he will be richly blessed. We also take time everyday to just BE together, cuddle, kiss and just talk or not talk, just time to reconnect. I'd like to take a moment to share with you, our life isn't perfect, in fact FAR from it. I the 3months since we've been married we have both lost our jobs, struggling desperately to pay bills and honestly at this moment in time I have NO idea how we'll pay rent, but we trust God. Yes, I get frustrated wit God and don't understand His plan, but I know He loves us and will provide. This is my last piece of advice, you are not your partners enemy. Life too often pits us against our spouse. Your husband is on YOUR team, don't view him as the enemy! Dennis and Barbara Rainey have an AMAZING book "Starting Your Marriage Right" PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE read this book, hopfully WITH your husband, but I promise it will change you if you go at it with an open mind and heart to fix your marriage. I really wish you the best, don't give up, the struggles now will be well worth it. When you are both old and grey, sitting on your pourch watching your grandchildren, all the sturrgles now will seem trivial. God Bless you and your husband, Nicci

[Varzandeh]

Hi,
Christianity doesn't mean not to have trials.
Here in this world there are trials that the only solution is to be patient.
Even if you seperate there will be worse trials and the situation will deteriorate.Everywhere you go the sky is the same color.
If you believe to god and after life , you should remember that here , this world is like a school and full of examination to see who has the best manner.This trials doesn't get old and will be always the same.
At last you used to say in sorrows and happiness till the death seperates us.
This is the solutions and not everybody will bear the problems.
Good luck.