Been having dreams of an ex-girlfriend, and I have no clue why...

[TheRanter]

I've been randomly having dreams of an ex-girlfriend of mine, and I have no clue as to why...

I hadn't thought about her in years, and then suddenly one night I was dreaming and suddenly she was there, and I knew I was in her apartment, though when we dated she still lived at her parents house, and I have never been to her apartment. It was odd because she didn't even acknowledge my presence, it's like I was there, and not there simultaneously. It was a very vivid dream, I could walk around, I could see her stuff and I could pick stuff up, and yet I couldn't interact with her in any way. Eventually I woke up and thought "Odd, why did I have a dream about her?" and so I shrugged it off.

A while went by, and I had no new dreams about her. Then she returned one night, almost the same dream, but now I could interact with her. She seemed glad to see me, and sort of not glad at the same time, I would say she seemed apprehensive about my being there. But never the less, we hung out and talked (about what escaped me) until I woke up. This time I was quite confused, and thought to myself "Why did I have another dream about her?" but again, I shrugged it off as just a dream.

Again, I didn't have any more dreams about her for a while, until that is she popped up in another dream. And this is where the dreams really started to get to me.

This time we were at her parents house, and she was totally happy to see me, in fact it appeared as if we were still dating. She would kiss me on the lips, and her parents treated me like I was family, like they used to back when I was dating her. We hung out, we actually ate dinner and such. Eventually I awoke and was like "Why the hell does she keep appearing in my dreams!?" and this one I couldn't quite shrug off...

Then I had another dream, very similar to the last, so much so that I'd might as well not describe it.

And then there was the dream last night... And this one I just don't get...

I was in some mansion, when suddenly she was there, only this time she was very happy to see me, almost like was when we first started dating. She told me to come with her, and we went down a stairway, and through a door to a room, probably 60ft x 30ft. with 2 doors. This room contained a giant pool of water, wall to wall, minus 2 small platforms at each door, and it appeared to be deep water, being as it was black. "It's a hot spring" she said as she jumped into the water in her clothes (which is something she wouldn't hesitate to do in real life) and she began to swim across, so I jumped in and followed. We climb out of the water at the other end of the room and proceed through the door, and suddenly we were in her parents basement. She turns to me and wraps her arms around me and says "I've missed you sooo much" and proceeds to start kissing me. We end up on the floor, making out like we were teenagers, when she says "**** me like you used to" and well, we started having sex. The oddest part was that I could feel everything as if I was 100% concious, and so after what seemed to be about 30 seconds, I realized exactly what was going on, and why it couldn't be happening, and thus I woke up.

These dreams bother me because I was very much in love with her when we were dating, and it took me a good amount of time to get over her. And when I finally did, I never thought about her. And then eventually these dreams started, I don't know why, but now I just want to try and understand them so that maybe they'll go away. They keep progressing more and more toward a "lover" scenario and it's bothering me... Anyone have any ideas as to why I'm having these dreams? And how to make them go away?

[dreamcurious18]

To dream that you are having sex with an ex or someone who is not your current mate, denotes your reservations about embarking in a new relationship or situation. You may feel nervous about exposing yourself or currently feel a resurgence of those old emotions and feelings that you felt back when you and your ex were together.

To dream about your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend or ex-husband/wife or that you and your ex got back together again, suggests that something or someone in your current life that is bringing out similar feelings you felt during the relationship with your ex. The dream may be a way of alerting you to the same or similar behavior in a current relationship. What you learn from that previous relationship may need to be applied to the present one so that you do no repeat the same mistake. Alternatively, past lovers often highlight the positive experiences you had with that person.


To see water in your dream, symbolizes your unconscious and your emotional state of mind. Water is the living essence of the psyche and the flow of life energy. It is also symbolic of spirituality, knowledge, healing and refreshment. To dream that water is boiling, suggests that you are expressing some emotional turmoil. It also may mean that feelings from your unconscious are surfacing and ready to be acknowledged.

To see calm, clear water in your dream, signifies that you are in tune with your spirituality. It denotes serenity, peace of mind, and rejuvenation.

To see a house in your dream, represents your own soul and self. Specific rooms in the house indicate a specific aspect of your psyche. In general, the attic represents your intellect, the basement represents the unconscious, etc. If the house is empty, then it indicates feelings of insecurity. If the house is shifting, then it suggests that you are going through some personal changes and changing your belief system.

To see a new house in your dream, indicates that you are entering into a new phase or new area in your life.

hope that helps

[@my714]

hi well me and my boyfriend have been dating for 8months...and he still has the picture of his ex girlfriend on his wall...they dated for 5years and she left him it's been a year or two since that and just a few days ago he told me that he dreams alot of his ex girlfriend it realy kind of hurt my feelings for some strange reason he says he has been dreaming alot about her alot that they are in this restroom where he used to work at and that they are laughing and giggling like they used too..like if everything was okay and then she vanishes and then the next night he has that same dream...over and over and now everytime he giggles in his dream i think is because he dreams about her..he says he doesnt think about her but he dreams about her what does this mean if any one can please help me!!

[Varzandeh]

Dreaming about a young woman for men means a happiness and achieving a wish is on the way , this is the same for women about dreaming a man.
The happiness will be as much as the woman ( or man ) will be beautiful and thick.
An old woman means the material world. The best is that the woman or man ( for women) was not known and was of a nice figure, that will mean an opening in the life.
An ugly, thin woman means a short of money and famine , a happy woman ( or a man for ladies) with make up means achieving a wish and an ugly dirty old woman means a bad situation and not achieving a wish.

[@my714]

Originally Posted by Varzandeh

Dreaming about a young woman for men means a happiness and achieving a wish is on the way , this is the same for women about dreaming a man.
The happiness will be as much as the woman ( or man ) will be beautiful and thick.
An old woman means the material world. The best is that the woman or man ( for women) was not known and was of a nice figure, that will mean an opening in the life.
An ugly, thin woman means a short of money and famine , a happy woman ( or a man for ladies) with make up means achieving a wish and an ugly dirty old woman means a bad situation and not achieving a wish.

so my boyfriend dreaming of his ex means what pretty much? i'm sort of confused lol i'm sorry