I dunno. This is really bothering me... Please help!!

[mitsu_ryu]

So... I was on the beach with my best friend (Sam) and my crush (Jp) who moved away 3 months ago. In my dream, Jp completely ignored me and started flirting with Sam. Jp then asked Sam out (right in front of me) and they became boyfriend/girlfriend. Sam, knowing that I liked Jp, told me that we couldn't be friends anymore because it might make their relationship awkward. In grief, I joined a "gang". The gang wasn't really a real gang though. I mean, we wore black denim jackets, and there was a whole initiation process (of which I can't remember) but we didn't carry around guns or pick on people. We just kinda stood around ar sat in alleys, talking. I know this dream sounds petty, but it's really bothering me. Please help!

[blueberrysummer]

No dream is petty, dreams serve to depict what is happening to us at an emotional, mental and spiritual level it achieves this by using both familiar and unfamiliar symbolism to convey the psychic 'contents' of ones self. You could say that a dream is a little like writing a stage play where we the dreamer attribute the voices and actions to each of the elements and characters. Ultimately those voices come from within us and thus are voices and deeds of our own mental and emotional self.

The marvelous thing about dreams is that they put us in touch with our emotions and ways we think that we do not recognise at a conscious level. Men and male characters in dreams reveal something about our OWN thinking nature, our OWN attitudes, beliefs and forms of behaviour OUR masculine energy, and females inform us of feelings and emotions and our feminine energy.

Taking all this in to account your dream suggests that Your female friend reflects a part of yourself, and describing her would give you some indication as to what it is about her that you like in yourself. When using the term 'like in your self' this way of thinking is a reflection of your masculine energy or way of thinking which JP represents symbolically 'speaking', that is the role he plays in your dream is actually a reflection of how you think about yourself, you like and are attracted to your self those qualities that your female friend represents for you, but you are not like this all the time and thus reject others ways you 'feel', which leads to in your dream the portrayal of how you feel rejected by your own way of thinking 'JP'.

The next part of the dream intimates the feelings and attitudes that accompany this 'notion' in life of feeling rejected, your female friends response to not wanting to stay friends with you symbolises the fact that that a part of you is to now relegate your darker feelings 'black' to that of the unconsciousness. there is no room for feeling like this in your life so you reject it otr push it down. Black is also a colour in dreams that suggest that some fear is present and the whole gang culture indicates that it a rebellious attitude that you adopt as a consequence.

Through recognising your dream as really a portrait of what is ultimately about you and about the elements that make up your own psyche, will help you you to identify feelings in your life which need to be embraced, look at all the good things about you, and focus on your good qualities and then look at honestly those things about yorself that you feel uncomfortable with, by learning to view yourself in a different light you will recognise that there is no bad quality, only those things that we reject in ourselves because we believe others would not like them, or there is no room for feeling a certain way in society. Lerning to love your self the good and the bad is a very healing process and very life affirming.

Good luck with everything
Blueberry

[mitsu_ryu]

Thanks Blueberry. It took me a while to understand what you wrote though... o.o;; I'm 14 years old, a freshman in high school, so my sleep-deprived brain doesn't comprehend things as well as most other people on this site do... If you could give it to me in simple terms I would be immensly grateful. I think I got the jist of what you were saying Blueberry, but I'm not sure...