Lover falling into water

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I had a dream last night that I was walking to the end of a pier with my lover (we are both married), so we are having an affair, and I am not certain whether he fell into the water or whether I pushed him. There was rope that also fell in with him. I remember not feeling terribly disturbed about this, feeling that he is very capable of taking care of himself and doesn't need me, and I just walked away. I went along with my day and was waiting for his call and then after numerous hours I started to get concerned and thought that I should go back to see if I could find him, or rescue him. Then I woke up.

Anyone have any thoughts?

[blueberrysummer]

Not only do dreams speak to us in smybollic terms but often life does as well so it is apt that your psyche chose your lover to represent a certain aspect of being which reflects in yourself another way of thinking, ideas, attitudes and behaviour, in which you are becoming intimate with.

There is a belief that this way of thinking or attitude embody's the ability of being able to take care of oneself, that is it may be through having an affair a new sense of independence is found which is independent of your marriage partner leading to the detached belief that one is able to take care of oneself.

This way of thinking whilst it gives one a sense of independence does however raise a cause of concern when coming into contact with the greater feeling self, incidently the sea and water is symbollic of ones greater feeling self or emotional world, which when 'falling' into say to say or coming in contact with renders or makes you question your independence or ability to take care of yourself.

Just some avenues to explore

Good luck Blueberry

[Shirah]

Your dream seems that of an inner struggle between moving forward or staying where you are. There is a lot of confusion in your dream; stating that you do not know if you pushed him or he fell in, not being concerned to being concerned. It may indicate that you want to take action to change something in your life but that you may use deception (be it on yourself or another) to get that result. You cannot hide your feelings from yourself and the worry at the end of the dream denotes that your true feelings will eventually surface. There seems to be longing, sadness and justification in your life right now but most of all a need to feel wanted and loved. I hope you find the sincere love and acceptance that you are searching for. Learn to love yourself and know yourself first instead of expecting others to fulfill that for you. Only then will you find what you are looking for.