Relationship Dream Transcends to Real Life...Please Help

[Fonskers]

Background: I've been dating a "flyboy" and in the past two months I keep getting horrible mixed signals. He tells me he really likes me but I can tell that he's hesitant to enter a relationship because he is away for training a lot and has a 6 month deployment upcoming at the end of May. I am interested in a relationship and continue to develop feelings for him even though he's currently training and has been gone for almost a month now (he comes home Friday yay!)

The Dream: We were on a date and ended up talking to other people for most of the date (think a bar setting almost, but not quite). All of a sudden I realize I lost track of him and go to find him. He's with an Asian girl (no prejudice, just didn't know if that would have any significance or not!) and turns to tell me that he's switched his interest to this other girl and he's leaving with her. I become really upset and say as I turn around to leave, "Make me fall in love with you and leave me then!" It obviously caught his attention because he came after me, grabbed me by the arm, turned me around and asked, "What do you mean you love me? How do you mean you love me?"

I am suddenly sitting on his lap, facing him, and letting my hair fall around both of our faces, I lean down and kiss him very passionately. Between each kiss I give a major reason why I love him (personality, values, family, etc.). I am watching his face and his beautiful blue eyes as they react to everything I say, and I can feel his kisses becoming more and more passionate. It was getting really hot and he took off his white shirt so he was bare chested but wearing his dog tags. He never said anything, but communicated everything through his eyes...it was definitely the strongest feeling of love I've ever felt in my life and I felt it in my heart and saw it in his eyes/felt it in his kisses in the dream. Finally the dream seemed to fade out with us kissing passionately, in a very strong embrace...nothing more sexual than kissing...definitely rated PG haha.

Wow that was long...any ideas????

[Leidee]

I think there is a whole pile of wish fulfillment in that dream!

You feel insecure about your relationship with him.

You go to a bar on a date, but spend most of your time talking with other people. Kind of like your real life, where you are "together" but spend a lot of your time apart.

His being interested in another girl, and then not being interested in her once he realises you love him, is more wish fulfillment being played out in your dream. Also, notice in your dream, you are doing all the talking. You are telling him why you love him, but he gives no reply - other than what you assume you are seeing communicated by his face and his physical affection.

He goes out with you to the bar, dumps you for an Asian girl, then gets back together with you when you say you love him, I think these events reference the mixed signals you realise you are getting from him in this relationship.

Regards
L

[sdcross778]

I also think this is not the best time to lunge forward in a relationship with him as he has other obligations that cannot include you right now. You cant make him see how you feel, even passion wears down eventually and then what is left? all the obstacles you pushed aside in order to get this guy. From what I have read, it isnt he who is stirring all these emotions up in you, it is you, you want to be inlove, but you need to be careful about who you choose and the situation or else you might end up getting hurt or feel rejected....I already think you feel rejected on some level, that is where the asian girl comes in and him giving you mixed signals.

[unclesirbobbyrobson]

Dreams can oftewn link directly to things you have been thinking about. Quotes are often important

"Make me fall in love with you and leave me then!"

Try thinking about this quote. What comes to mind. Think laterally... allow any thoughts . Just think about yesterday esepcially. Dreams often link to the day before the dream

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"That printer. It cost a fortune and is always breaking down. I will never buy another Epson printer again. They are designed to break down". These were the exact feelings that one dream captured. Yet its only with experience that you can understand the symbolism. The topic was not linked to precisely.

We tend to link dreams to faraway places and other planes of existence. But once you understand dreams you will find out that they tend to link to feelings that are all too familiar. They capture immediate feelings about relationships or the general frustrations of life. The symbolism maybe diufficult to understand. But tahts simply because dreams talk in a language that we do not fully understand. That is made worse because dreams often make no attempts to help us understand their meaning.

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