I am desparate to have this dream interpreted

[Idreamt]

Just over one month ago, completely out of the blue, I had a dream about my ex-husband that really hit me in the heart. It was a dream I had just before waking up.

I dreamt we (my ex-husband and I) were riding in the car together (he was driving) and he wanted me to go with him to this really luxurious building. I remembered seeing two columns near the entryway. I felt like he wanted me to share in his recent achievements. His hair was silvery indicating he was older. He was crying. I really felt that part - that he was crying. I told him "no," that "I couldn't go with him as I was with somebody now."
(end of dream)

I have not seen my ex-husband since 1995. I left the area and really had not given him a second thought... of course it was always in the back of my mind that I was glad it was over. And I am in a relationship now, with three young children. And I always felt like this relationship that I am in now had healed me from my ex-husband because I finally felt acceptance and security.

So what does the dream mean? Please interpret.

Perhaps I shouldn't say this part but after the dream I tried to research his name on the internet which I had never done before in all these many years - 13 years or so -- and I was shocked when I saw his name and his recent accomplishment -- He WAS very successful now and I actually was able to find a picture of his current residence and it actually was described as luxurious living. For a few weeks after finding out what he was doing , I actually experienced the heartbreak of our break-up all over again. Now, I am getting back to normal now, but I am left stunned as to why I had to totally re-experience the past all over again. I am also amazed that I was able to totally forget him all these 13 years when it was so easy for everything to come flooding back to me so quickly.

If there is anybody out there who can interpret this dream I would really appreciate it.

[Varzandeh]

Hi,
In dream language driver gives some indirect support to the passenger seat.
A building may mean some money, two columns mean two people.
He was older means he will be wise.He was crying if in tears means he will get happy.This may take a month or two to happen.

[unclesirbobbyrobson]

Well dreams can be aassociated with some weird stuff. Maybe you picked up on his new found wealth. Telepathy dreams can be quite strange

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There is absolutely no way of truely knowing what a dream means. The dream language is not one that is easy to understand. There is no way to check if your interpretation is the correct one. There is no answer at the back of the book that is correct. Dreams do seem to link to recent events and in particular the day before. But they can also refer to premonitions and telepathy. Dreams then can work on many levels. Many people say that there are exxagerated claims about premonitions. It maybe true that a premonition can never be truely linked to some actual real life event. Yet it is also true that a conventional dream analyser can never truely say that a dream is linked to the dreamers own pyschology and recent thinking. All we can do is guess and hope that we have true understanding. Many dreams remain a mystery. We know that they may link to some event but their precise meaning seems often truely mysterious.

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[sdcross778]

I do think this is a telepathic dream...lots of similarities and I have had these myself. maybe there is some unfinished business there, not that you are inlove with him or made a mistake by leaving him, but that you need to talk and put some things to rest.

[Idreamt]

Oh Gosh! Thank you so much!! That is very helpful!

[Idreamt]

... but wait - why did I have to completely re-experience the heartbreak totally all over again?

[unclesirbobbyrobson]

Well if you revisit some old relatiuonship in a new way then you are experiencing the break up again... your taken right back to the emotions that you felt. also if it was telepathy then it will simply show link to this issue and him becomeing relevant in your life again... you feel slightly more drawn to him and look at his po0sitive side.

But hey thats assumning the dream, was telepathy. Maybe it was just that after a periood of time you start toi compare your present relationship to past ones... and as time heals any probelms you had with this ex become healeed and you see him in a whole new light... you examine ways in which this was positive. If its just sixth months on from a split then ytou are still bitter ... but many years later its a matter of healing... looking honestly at how you behaved ... you are much more unbiased and willing to view something in a positive light

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[blueberrysummer]

Consciously we are not always able to resolve the emotional pain that goes hand in hand with separation, response to emotional hurts of sorts are usually dealt with by placing walls around our hearts which serve to protect us from our own vulnerability.

It sounds like from what you state that there was a lack of acceptance and security in your previous relationship, it may be that this hurt of not feeling accepted has been stored in your heart for all this time, and usually when we reach deeper into the past we find again that this was something we may have encountered when younger in relationship to our parents or peers its as if experiences accumulate and are not always dealt with as we believed they had been.

Your dream however may reflect something deeper about what is happening within you at present, as dreams firstly reflect our own inner being, they become a mirror for our repressed emotions and unconscious behavior, by mirror I mean the dream mirrors or reflects our state of consciousness.

We give the actors in our dreams the voices and their behavior, and we adorn them with garments and emotions, that is to say everything arises from within us. Men in dreams represent our own aspects and forms of behavior, where as females will represent our emotional and intuitional self.

The car in your dream likley represents a statement of what is driving your life at the moment unconsciously which seems to be some form of 'drive' which will take you forward in your life or some impulse that will allow you to embody or share in your own achievements, this impulse btw arises from within you and your ex husband is only serving as a template in your dream to reflect this.

Your reluctance here is to indicate that you are staying with the form of behavior or attitude that is more familiar within you its like an inner loyality, "no I cant do that this is the way i do things" which is a mind set that you likley share with your husband and so indulging in certain forms of behavior that your husband does not share with you would be disloyal.

This is where your grief truly exists is this separation you have within your own psyche which has to do with achieving possibly, are there forgotton dreams that were given up on, was there a vision of the future you had that when you separated from your ex you also walked away from personal ambitions you had as well, it may be that part and parcel of the emotional outpouring you have had recently is due to also recognising that in your heart you had a direction and this you separated from when your heart closed down a little from the emotional experience of breaking up!

This is only a very limited perspective of your dreams meaning and i hope it gives you a few avenues to explore good luck

Blueberry

[Idreamt]

Very true....

My heart did close down from the emotional experience of breaking up ... I did put a lot of walls up and this really affected my career because I left everything that reminded me of the pain of being abandoned.. and believe it or not, after that, I could not stand to do the same type of work (which was sitting in an office 8 hours a day) after that ... I completely left the type of job I had been doing because the pain of that heartbrake. It really affected how I looked at my work because I felt so depressed I guess.

"in your heart you had a direction and this you separated from when your heart closed down a little from the emotional experience of breaking up!"

Yet, just recently I have had some really good luck with my new career path and some new money coming in... maybe the dream does reflect me!