Dreaming of rejection from an ex bf

[roshnimul]

I was in a relationship last year which ended without any real closure. Although I did find out that he was cheating on his gf with me. My dream is going to his house and seeing his current gf there, whom I have never seen. He comes out of the shower, sees me and drags me out of his house. He then shouts and screams at me telling me that we agreed that we would have no contact now. All I see is myself in tears in the end... not sure what it means... any interpretation would be interesting.

[sailrmc]

There can be no question when one sees oneself in tears. You are very sad about this unresolved issue. The truth is that rejection can be one of the most difficult situations to face and you are clearly being rejected. This dream allows this sadness to come to the awareness of your conscious mind (waking mind) as it is surely affecting your emotions and how you deal with day to day issues.
So what should you do?
If you wish to rid yourself of the pain that this real life situation has caused then you must find a way to forgive. Sometimes forgiveness must come on ones own terms (if the other party is unwilling to hear you out). Set a time that you will be completely alone. Meditate on what has happened to you and allow yourself to act out or live out those feelings that are present to you...do not hold anything back. Then after you have spent your emotions, let him know (as if he were there) that you are willing to forgive him...if you truly cannot bring yourself to unconditionally forgive then forgive on your own terms. Your terms are that you need to let go of these negative emotions that hold you captive. In that case let him know that you forgive him if nothing more than for the fact that you need to rid yourself of these negative feelings that are holding you hostage. Then as time goes on you will be able to find forgiveness to replace the forgiveness (on your terms) that you have allowed.
Be sure to let yourself know that you are much better than he is in that you were not deceptive and you honestly gave of your feelings and emotions to him.
Sometimes it does not become effective immediately or even on the first try...but do not become discouraged and simply go through the forgiveness exercise again.
sailrmc

[sdcross778]

Also, count your blessings..you dont want somebody like that. Cheaters are also liars...he probably has alot of other issues that you havent been around long enough to see. If he has hurt you this much already, just think about what a long term relationship would do to your mental and emotional well being as well as physical. My best friend dated dated a relative of mine who cheated on her behind her back(none of us knew about it because he was an awesome liar) and gave her gonorrhea and chlamydia....even after she found out she had the std's he still lied about it and he was the only one she was with. We would have never guessed this guy would do such a selfish and irrisponsible thing. Later on after the relationship ended and she could barely function on her own from all the trauma, she found out she had herpes as well...have a cry if you will, but they are tears of joy that he is not around anymore, you just dont know it yet. You know I have seen this many many times and often, they dont use protection because he is in a relationship and probably thinks he is safe..but you dont know if he is the only one she is sleeping with either or who else he has cheated on her with. I hope you protected yourself and move on, you dont want him or his issues. Take care of yourself and I hope you find somebody that values your sensitivity and feelings. God Bless