Dreamer in desperate need:

[subconsciousmind85]

Ok....first, I would like to ask if someone could be so kindly and help me interpret my dream?

Second...my dream (I really don't want to go into detail so if I do please let me know) but the basics and straight to the point of my dream was....

I walked in on my boyfriend having sexual interscourse with another man. No, I didn't know who the other guy was. Actually, there was four guys holding one man down while my boyfriend was doing him. The expresion on my boyfriends face while "doing it" was the same expresion that he has when him and I are intimate. That scared the hell out of me.

My boyfriend (to set the record straight is NOT gay)...so, I would like to know why did I dream something like that? I don't want him to be gay, he doesn't send any signals telling me that he might even be gay. (I don't think anyways)

I love him to death and when I woke up last night from having that dream; I was scared and confused and even crying from the shock of what I saw.

So, my question is what is that telling me or what is that supposed to mean?

If you need more detail I have a lot of it please feel free to ask.

Please help? Subconsciousmind85

Thank you!

[Varzandeh]

Hi,
Don't worry at all, this is a usual dream symbol that means he will do someone a big favor whom you will know later.
Once a few years ago Two politicians entered my room in the office ( guards stayed out) they locked the door .They asked me what have we done to see such a dreams? Both of them had dreams having sex with the other ( both male).I answered both of you will do a big favor to the other in a month or two.They left.After a month one of them called me to thank. one who was a housing general manager too had granted the other a 100 sm flat with a low price and the other had help him to publish his three books.Dream language sometimes id disgusting...


Dream language interpretation is an ancient science of allusions and pointing of the surrounded environment, as Mr. Einstein has said the events are like train stations which exist and we are moving towards them, these are prewritten destiny with some authority ( in decision making seconds) in very full details. This dream language should be translated, and interesting to know it is international and common for all human beings. But ignorance causes some misunderstanings.People were not aware of this language and always thought in a bad way , for example Mr. Freud said about sexual dreams it is because you have suppressed your sexual desires so misled everybody and some women dreamt about having sex with co-workers or another and thought they should do that, while it only meant he will do something for her, or some others dreamt had sex with the same sex and invented homosexual, while it meant the same ,Also some men dreamt his wife had sex with a man and didn't understand or a woman dreamt her partner had sex with a woman and didn't' understand ...etc.Do you see what catastrophes are caused by misunderstanding a language. About the approximate interpretation time table: Dreams at noon or exactly at midnight( In the summer time 13 at noon and 1 midnight else at 12)in the same day if past a few minutes, a few days later. Dreams at 10-11 in the morning in 15-30 days later. Also dreams at 3-4 in the evening in 1-2 months .Dreams in the sunset mostly are not truthful and are messed, they have no interpretations, Dreams at 4-5 in the morning in a few days to 2 months some dreams in the holy books( Josef dream of kneeling the sun and the moon and 11 stars)was interpreted after 20 years and other dreams of the Pharaoh's prisoners interpreted in the same day and after 7 years. Dream of Pharaoh about the 7 thin cows and 7 fat cows interpreted from the next year to 14 years. Also dreams in 6th of the month will interpret after 1-2 days, in 9th at the same day, in 10th after 20 days, in 13th after 9 days in 14th after 26 days and in 15th after 3 days, in 16th after 2 days and in 28th ,29th ,30th in the same day, but these are solar (Persian months and you should refer to a calendar or convert them) . Of course there are different kinds of dreams , like messy dreams which have no interpretations or deja vu dreams, or psychological dreams or dreams which are caused by bad food or drinks.

Bibliography:
1- Principles of the dreams, by Daniel the prophet (562-604 B.C) Peace be on him.
2-Divisions of the dreams, by Imam Sadeq peace be on him ( 663-798 A.C).
3- Generals of the dreams, by Mohammad ibn Syrin ( 690 A.C).
4- Guides in the dreams , by Jaber ibn Hay'an( Father of the new chemistry)
5- Interpretations, by Ibn Ash'as ( 840 A.C).



I want to tell you a reason to know that 5 senses can't understand anything except by the soul.
Have you dreamt you were eating and drinking and had pleasure of that. He said yes. I said: have you dreamt laughing and crying, and strolling in the cities that haven't seen yet but you know the specialties. He said: yes dreamt very much. I said: Have you ever dreamt about your dead brother or father and know them like they are alive.
He said: yes too many times. I said: tell me which sense has received such things to see the dead and talking to them or crying and laughing. He said: I can’t say which one. Because the body is slept like a dead. I said: tell me when you wake up don’t you remember and report to the friends exactly, He said; yes and sometimes I see that before night in real life. I said; which sense keeps it to remember the dream after waking. He said; there is no way for sense. I said then you should know because senses are vein here that is the soul that God has put wisdom in it and it is a reason. He said; what I dream is like mirage one thinks it is water but when arrive at there is nothing. I said; how do you say it is like mirage and you ate sweets and pickles and were happy and sad he said; because what I dream when I arrive at it is nothing. I said: have you ever had sex in the dream and your hearts beat, have you ever had wet dream about a woman or man. You know him or don’t know He said many times said had you orgasm and when you woke up you were wet then this is not mirage.
He said: dreaming orgasm is just like the real life .I said this is my reason that soul Knows everything although senses are dead and can’t see or hear of course you shouldn’t deny that soul in addition of the senses knowledge recognition in the waking life after vanishing the senses has sex with them then it recognizes the things after going senses and now you understand that the soul itself is guiding the senses and is their governor and none of the senses can’t do anything without soul; if the soul goes ahead body wasn’t get back and if soul gets back the body won’t go ahead with the soul the happiness comes and with it the ache is received if a sense is damaged the soul is remained but if the soul is damaged senses can work properly.

[Jennings]

Some men are dominant and especially so sexually and obviously there is the possibilty that he could be bisexual but not effeminate. Part of the nature of men is to brag about conquests (probably similar to women) in an effort to bolster their own sense of maleness and if you have witnessed this behaviour then it could shock you which would cause the dreaming. Equally, many young men in particular, who have high libidos seek to experiment and this could create similar fears. It sounds as if something between you has arisen to cause you to fear in this way. Hopefully, all will transpire in accordance with your wishes (oops; nearly slipped-up by saying, "...in accordance with your dreams")!

[Wolfjk]

Hi,

I walked in on my boyfriend having sexual interscourse with another man. No, I didn't know who the other guy was. Actually, there was four guys holding one man down while my boyfriend was doing him. The expresion on my boyfriends face while "doing it" was the same expresion that he has when him and I are intimate. That scared the hell out of me.

Dreams are always about what is happening in your own sleep! You say the dream scarred you! You should ask yourself: "why was there a need to be frightened in my sleep?" I can' but think that you fear the possibility of your boyfriend being gay. However that still leaves the question of why was it necessary for you to be woken up from your sleep with this rude and gross dream?
Cheers Wolfjk

[subconsciousmind85]

I kind of understand what you are saying. Maybe I am afraid of him being gay, but one thing I have noticed with him is that he is sensitive, but isn't sensitive enough to be like that. What I mean is that he is very clean, neat, and he loves shoes and clothes, but not womens clothes he just likes having a lot of clothes and shoes. Oh and does he love sex...if a day goes by that we aren't intimate he goes nuts. Is that normal for a guy to be like that? I mean do I have anything to worry about because of this dream. Even though I said that I may be afraid of him being gay, I truely, honestly, do not think he could be. I have never had a dream like this before....and there is one thing that I think might help you to know about me....I was involved in a car accident about 2 years ago and I have been on pain medication for just that long. They are heavy duty meds that sometimes mess with my mind...do you think that could have been the reason for me having this dream too? or that maybe I was a little stressed out that day and the pills (I take 2 when needed) could have just taken effect and played a role in this dream?

Thank you again for your reply. You reply was actually a little more understanding then the others.

[Wolfjk]

Originally Posted by subconsciousmind85

I kind of understand what you are saying. Maybe I am afraid of him being gay, but one thing I have noticed with him is that he is sensitive, but isn't sensitive enough to be like that. What I mean is that he is very clean, neat, and he loves shoes and clothes, but not womens clothes he just likes having a lot of clothes and shoes. Oh and does he love sex...if a day goes by that we aren't intimate he goes nuts. Is that normal for a guy to be like that? I mean do I have anything to worry about because of this dream. Even though I said that I may be afraid of him being gay, I truely, honestly, do not think he could be. I have never had a dream like this before....and there is one thing that I think might help you to know about me....I was involved in a car accident about 2 years ago and I have been on pain medication for just that long. They are heavy duty meds that sometimes mess with my mind...do you think that could have been the reason for me having this dream too? or that maybe I was a little stressed out that day and the pills (I take 2 when needed) could have just taken effect and played a role in this dream?

Thank you again for your reply. You reply was actually a little more understanding then the others.

Hi,

Oh and does he love sex...if a day goes by that we aren't intimate he goes nuts. Is that normal for a guy to be like that? I mean do I have anything to worry about because of this dream. Even though I said that I may be afraid of him being gay, I truely, honestly, do not think he could be.

Sexuality is always a question of degrees! Some want it very often others are more reticent. However, he should take your needs into consideration.Does he?
Your medication may effect your dreaming - it probably makes dreams more vivid and more violent. If you have bad dreams all the time it could be your medication.
The frequent need for sex in your boyfriends case could be natural. However it could be hiding some inadequacy or doubt about his sexuality.
Cheers Wolfjk

[Jennings]

If he enjoys hetro-sexual intimacy on a regualr basis it is highly unlikely that he would be gay. His liking for smart or nice clothing shows that he probably does not follow the crowd in behaviour or thought processes and is probably quite self-confident, His sensitivity would indicate the posssibility of high intelligence and the ability to undertake a responsible job. He sounds more like a leader than a follower. It appears that you may have a very nice, sensitive, loving guy. Your fears about him may be more of a reflection of your own past experiences.

[skelso]

Bi-sexuality out of the picture for a moment...

A group of men controlling a man. And your man in position of dominance in that situation. Pretty straight forward non-sexual interpretation is this has everything to do with power. That's right, power and control.

As for the sexual context, other's comments make all good points. Also could just be your uncouncious mind playing out an extreme situation.

Just my two sense. Take it with a grain of salt.

[unclesirbobbyrobson]

well dreams use symbols. The expression on his face is the same as when he is with you. Perhaps that shows you feeling that sex is unimportant to him in an emotional sense.. that there is nothing special. However, dreams suggest how you feel. If you do sometimes feel that then thats possibly the answer. The dream pinpoints that exact feeling in you. If you do not feel that then maybe the dream has some other meaning.

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Nightmares have the ability to really frighten us. Thats because they contain weird and supernatural dream symbols such as demons and monsters. The forces that we fight against seem all too powerful. But really many nightmares are sourced right in the here and now. They symbolize our day to day traumas and difficulties. Many simply reflect on the previous day. Perhaps you simply took one risk too many? Perhaps you acted in a nasty and malicious way and your dream is alerting you to this.

Many nightmares will not mention anything that can remotely link to real life in any meaningful way. But the link to reality is there. Really the best way to see nightmares is simply ask your self what real life situations are drifting into some nightmare scenario? What relationship is becoming a real problem? If you look up nightmare in the dictionary its definition is probably more down to earth than dreams would have us believe. A nightmare is really just a very big problem. In real life we get problems all the time and sometimes they get out of hand.

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