Very worried please help

[ttreaders]

Hi I hope you can help me,

I lost my mum back in Nov 2007 due to cancer that had spread around her body, she died in her bed and I was over at the house within a few minutes (I live just across the road). We were very close and I have been grieving badly, sometimes my throat hurts I get so upset. Since her passing I have regular dreams of her, the first was me talking to her in my kitchen I said, "mum, what you doing here", and I started crying and she hugged me and said, "it's alright love, im ok" and some more stuff happened after that but I can't remember.

I then had another dream that felt 'real' and I asked her if she could watch over us and she replied, "well not really.. but don't tell Nicola", Nicola is my younger sister, the youngest out of us at only 14 and so obviously that it who my mum was most worried about. I know from the way she said, "well not really" that she can come and see us now and again just not all the time, why do you think she doesn't want Nicola to know that?

A few other dreams I have had since then don't seem to have any significance as they don't make any sense. I had a very disturbing dream last night though, I was sat at a bench with my older brother and a close friend and I saw my mum just over the road from us, I called her over to speak to us as she was hesistant about coming over for some reason. She started heading over to us and I told the people I was with to be quiet as I needed to talk to her and she sat with us. I said, "mum why is it you don't come to visit us?" and she struggled to answer and I said, "is it because you can't or you are too busy?" and she said, "well yes", I then said to her, "are you in heaven?" and she got upset and replied, "no i'm in hell"... this obviously was extremely traumatic to me.. I said "why?" and she replied, "I don't know, theres screaming and shouting and at quarter past people say hes coming, oh no hes coming".

I asked her, "how did you get here?" and she said she travelled with the people that had been chosen to go to heaven.

I then woke up and as you can imagine was very shaken by this. It's very confusing, my mum came to me and told me she was alright and not to get upset and then I have a dream like this a few weeks later?

Do you think that was just a nightmare and the other were true visitings?

Please find the time to answer my questions and help me to make sense of this.

Thanks

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[Jennings]

You are clearly in the depth of grief and so too will be your siblings and your father if he is with you. Grief, regretfully, is a lonely experience which cannot be shared and needs to be surmounted but it takes time, quite some time. During this period you will, as you have been experiencing, have frequent dreams of your mother in different situations; there will also be frequent memory flash-backs and, of course, you will weep frequently and unexpectedly. All those symptoms are part of the healing processes. It sometimes helps to either write down your feelings or write as if you were writing to your mother and express all that you want or would like to say. I cannot prove this too you but I can confirm that your mother is close to you and you will be finding that you are able to speak to her. While you need her she will be with you but there is another plane to which she has to move and when it is felt that the time is right she will move to that other plane; it is all part of her spiritual progression. You may, indeed, sense at times that she is close to you and this will be so. There is no such place as 'hell' so you can relax. Your mother will be on an intermediate plane and will be partly earthbound but she will be preparing to move on. She may need your support and those of your sibling(s) to enable her to progress and there will arise a time when you will wish her 'bon voyage' on her spiritual progression. Realising that life continues without her can be, initially, difficult to accept but eventually you will all pull through and will remember only the pleasant moments you had together and the fun that she was.

[ttreaders]

Thankyou so much Jennings for taking the time to tell me that, are you some sort of spiritulalist? I have always been very skeptical of all such things but last night I spoke to one over the phone - at least I think that is what she was. I only told her it was my mum I was phoning about and my first name and she asked me who Kevin was - her husband, who Paul was - her eldest son, who Daniel was - my girlfriends son that she called a grandson, who Jill was - my mums long term best friend and the list goes on it was amazing. She was 99% accurate about everything and told me some things my mum wanted me to know.

One of them was that she wants me took after her pearl necklace in particular... I went round and told my dad today and he said, "woah, I came across that the other day - I didn't even know she had one". Also that there was an anniversay in June.. I also spoke to my dad about this and he said that it wasn't their official anniversary but they always called it that as it's when they first got together.

My eyes have definately been opened now and I feel much better knowing my mum is ok