Dreaming about my mom - deceased 14 months ago

[CancunLaura]

I really appreciate your feedback. Yes, both are always in my thoughts so it would make sense that they would pop up in my dreams. It was the frequency that startled me. The dreams have lessened since I first posted.

Michelle - I'm not closing the door and I will indeed open it if there is a knock.

[Jennings]

A couple of other points that are not mentioned in the literature on grief is that the love that you had and still have for your husband does not die with him; it still remains with you; it is internal and comes from within but what it needs (and this is not being disloyal although you might harbour some guilt) is another focus. This other focus can be anything or any one but to surmount your grief you do need another focus for this love of yours; you know that love has to be shared. Remember the traditional words of the marriage vows which go something like this, "I will take this man to be my lawfully wedded husband until death do us part" and so this has occurred so how do you intend to share this wonderful feeling of yours? If you do per chance find another partner then you have to go through all the sorting out of your differences as would have happened in your first marriage but you will most likely pass through those stages quicker but to have someone to love and particularly to care about; well, that is what life is all about, is it not? Obviously you must never make comparisons, that's taboo! My present wife is very mercurial in nature but she brings to me considerable joy and an abundance of companionship. The only unexpected thing was that my family doubled in size almost overnight; instead of having 2 grandchildren I now have around 13 who call me grandfather so life is never dull; instead of having 3 daughters I now have 6 who look upon me as a fatherly figure but, I like it!

[CancunLaura]

It sounds as though you have a beautiful family Jennings!

My husband has been gone nearly 7 years now. I've since had someone in my life, though it didn't work out. Right now, I am enjoying being on my own. Partly because where I live, finding 'Mr. Right' is a lot less likely than stumbling over 'Mr. Right Now'. I'm not lonely, and like I mentioned in an earlier post, if I meet that certain someone I wont leave skid marks running away.

As always, thank you for your eloquent words Jennings.

Have a wonderful day!

-Laura