Ex-boyfriend stalking me
Hi!
I'm new to this board and new to message boards in general so please let me know if I'm not doing this right!
I have searched all over the internet for similar dreams but can't find anything. I had this dream last night and it was very disturbing to me.
I went to my cousin's wedding out of town. I was staying at her parents' (my aunt and uncle's) house. The house was full of people. Most people were other family members but I only identified 2 cousins by name (bride's brother and sister) but “knew” the others were family too. I walked through every room of the very large house. I was looking for something but I don't remember what. I went outside and was sitting in the grass speaking with someone (don’t remember who) about how I was still scared of my ex-boyfriend who had stalked me after we broke up (this happened in real life too). While we were talking, out of nowhere, that ex came up and sat between us. He was wearing a yellow flannel shirt. I greeted him but was becoming very nervous in the dream. I got up to leave to get ready for the wedding. I brought several dresses in my suitcase (maybe about 7, including one that seemed like a wedding dress) and I began trying many of them on. I was having a lot of difficulty zipping them up or buttoning them up in back. I finally selected a brown dress and black tights. I was wearing underwear, then tights, then put another pair of underwear on under the dress but over the tights. During the time of trying on dresses, I was moving between many rooms of the house. I think I was looking for cousin (bride's sister) to help me button the dresses and tell me if she liked them. I ran into the ex several times in different areas of the house. He seemed to be following me. I was scared and was trying to avoid him by hiding and moving around. After I had selected the dress, I decided the shoes I brought did not match so I went through the house looking for shoes to borrow. I tried on many pairs but could not find the right pair. I then went to a shoe store (which seemed to be somehow connected to the house ?) and was running around looking for shoes and trying them on because I was going to be late for the wedding. The ex appeared at the shoe store as well. I finally decided to go back to the house and wear the shoes I had brought (black patent leather pumps). Then my current boyfriend (who did not appear in dream until now) and I walked to the church about 1 block away. We arrived late and I saw my ex already there sitting in the very back left hand row closest to the aisle. We didn’t want to sit near him but also didn’t want to disturb the wedding in progress so we sat 2 rows in front of the ex. Then I woke up and I felt sweaty, nervous, scared and paranoid. I still feel really uneasy and it's been a few hours since I woke up.
I guess what I am wondering most is if this dream means I have unresolved feelings for the ex and if this dream is trying to tell me something about my current relationship. Please help!
Real life background: Ex and I dated for 1 year then I broke up with him 3 years ago. He stalked me for several months and I feared for my life. I ended up moving away to get away from him (and for better job opps). He continued to harass me through email for a few months after I moved. I believe he was probably manic-depressive and an alcoholic. None of my friends or family liked him. My current boyfriend of 2.5 years is great with my family and we have a great relationship - no problems. He left this morning for a 1 week business trip. I woke up several times during the dream including getting out of bed once and the dream resumed each time after I fell asleep again.
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01-06-2008, 12:57 PM
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