Sexual Dream with Ex

[ernie2jess]

Ok, let me give some background before I explain. I've been taking some antidepressants for a year now and ever since then, I've been having vivid dreams once in awhile. The ones that I remember of my husband and the other sexual ones. To begin with, my libido is very weak and it takes a lot to get me going. I blame it on the antidepressants. So, my husband gets a little frustrated. Like I said, I'll tell you about the one's that I remember. One dream was about my husband cheating on me. He was smiling and telling me to go away and I asked him why. He was in bed, I took the covers away and a girl was . I wanted to cry and he just kept looking at me like he didn't care. I've had several dreams like that, where he is with another girl and he just doesn't seem to care. I mean I know he's not cheating on me, is it because I fear that he will from me not being able to give him what he wants? Now, the past two nights have really bugged me. They are pretty similar. Two nights ago, I had a dream that my ex boyfriend and I were together very passionately, but I cannot remember too much on that one. We were at some gathering and my husband was there too. It was as if me and my ex went to hide somewhere and it was passionate. But like I said, I've forgotten a lot about the dream. Last night, I dreamt that I had gone to my ex boyfriend's place of work and I asked for him. We talked, and I told him that I wanted to keep in contact somehow. He gave me a case with a cell phone in it. I came back home and really tried to hide the fact that my ex had given me a cell phone (from my husband). Now, I have no idea why I would be dreaming things like this about my ex. One because he was a jerk, and two because we never had been passionate. I wouldn't want anything to do with him. Now, my interpretation of this dream is maybe, I'm needing more...just like my husband but in a different way. I'm always telling him that maybe I just don't get in the mood because he is not passionate enough. I tell him that when we make love, he wants "it" and not "me." If you understand at all what I'm saying. He gets on and gets off just as fast. I sometimes tell him that he's selfish. I don't think he means to be...i think he's sexually frustrated. Can anybody give me some insight?

[unclesirbobbyrobson]

well I would not worry too much. Top me dreams represent the inner voice.. the conversation that we have with ourselves.. and therfpre each dream represents one voice or point of view... somewtimesyou swing one way and then the other... sometimes you worry that your husband is getting frustrated and other times you feel he is selfish. The dreams we have work through these various complex and difficlt conflicting emotions... which is the most mportant.. does my husband still love me? we constantly ask these questions

do not look to dreams as answers to these major questions.. they actually represent constantly changing emotions... tomorrow you may feel something else...

I try to translate particular dreams into understandable emotions ... look to the things that you have quoted... such as

"my husband gets a little frustrated"

People in dreams represnt the way that they act... well thats maybe why you have your ex boyfriend dreams... there is something about him that you wish your husband would be more like... the thing that you mention is that he was less passionate.. maybe thats it.. you wish that your husband was less passionate and full on
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[Varzandeh]

Hi,
If you had sex with someone except your bf or husband means you will do him a favor or a help, nothing else .

[Wolfjk]

Hi Jessica,

I've been taking some antidepressants for a year now and ever since then, I've been having vivid dreams once in awhile.

Many drugs or medicines cause vivid dreams because they disturb the electro-magnetic balance of the brain. The effect is like walking into a crowded and noisy pub and trying to talk to someone on the other side. You need to shout very laudly. It is same with the dream; when the brain is clouded with the effect of the drug the dream has to be more vivid to get across its commands.
Regarding your dreams, it is not your libido that is low but your satisfaction. With a low libido your subconscious would use a different subject for the dreams.
I would not like intruding on your personal life, however it is between you and your husband to work out the problems. You have to remember that passion cools, but not necessarily at the same rate.
Cheers Wolfjk