Help me. PLEASE help me understand

[mysteriousdreammer2005]

The other night I had a very weird dream.

In the dream I was married to the guy that I like. We were in bed watching TV & I was cuddled up to him. He asked me, "What attracted you to me? Was it my parents?" I said, "I was atracted to you not by your mother but because of you. Grant it your parents did introduce us to each other but the more I saw you the more I fell for you. Once I got to know you I really liked you & your personality. Why?" He got mad & got out of bed. He headed downstairs where his mother happened to be walking in when we're going down. I kept calling him & asking him what his problem was. He turned around & backhanded me with his left hand. His ring cut my face & the force broke my cheek bone. I fell with the force behind him hitting me. His mother asked him what the hell he did that for as she came to my side. I looked at him with a glare like what was that for & I was hurt cuz he's never been violent & would never lay a hand on me or my kids to hurt us. I got up & said that I was taking the kids & going to my sisters' house. I went to my sisters' & I was holding my 4 month old daughter bundled up to me cuz it was cold out. I was covering the side where my husband had hit me. I went in & put my kids down to bed (it was like midnight in the dream). My sister came in to the room where I was & asked me what's going on. It was dark in the room except what little light there was coming in from the hallway light. I looked at her & told her that I just needed to get away for a few days. She was leaning up aganst the door pain & then came in. She said that she had just talked to Ros (my mother in law) & asked me what had really happened. She said, "Look we need to go to the hospital & we can talk. Darral will stay with the kids." As we're talking the doctors are doing whatever they had to do with my face. The doctors told me that they were done but they had called the police because I needed to file a DV report on my husband. My sister & I showed the docs our badges (PD) & that's when the PD came in. It just happened to be the people that we work with I told them that it was nothing & I left. I finally broke & told my sister what happened. My husband then came over & I really don't remember what happened after that.

Can any one please help me? The thing of it is, I really like this guy but he is harmless, I want kids but don't have any yet, and the chick that is my sister has been like a mother to me since I lost my mother. Everything in this dream doesn't even exist. It does and doesn't. Can some one please help me out?

[Wolfjk]

Hi,
Do you believe everything you see on TV? Your dreams are like watching a play or a film. You can't take dreams literally. Your subconscious will make a dream from anything to entertain you while you sleep, but don't expect it to be real. Think of your dreams as fairytales, enjoy them but keep dreams apart from real life.
Cheers Wolfjk

[mysteriousdreammer2005]

This one seemed apart from what I normaly dream. Not like TV.

[melvincats]

I too believe that dreams are like movies or stories. But I also believe that it is our way of trying to tell ourselves something, sometimes in a crazy, mixed up, imaginative way. In real life, doesn't the writer have a point of view or something to tell the viewer? In dreams, we are the writer.

So, you need to really look at your dream like you would analyze a novel for a term paper. A few things stick out to me.

The fact that you are cuddling, telling your husband wonderful things about why you love him, then he gets mad and smacks you? So do you feel you are giving love, affection out to someone, even yourself, but that person rejects you and just smacks you down? Are you hurting yourself, or is someone hurting you?

You leave to protect yourself, but mostly your children. Could the children represent your young self or your childhood? Did you witness or suffer some abuse as a child, and now, as an adult, wish you could go back and change that situation for yourself? Or are you worried that the tender "young" part of you is somehow in danger of getting hurt?

The sister in your dream you said is like a mother figure to you, and she is standing framed by a light from the hallway. I would think the light represents the future. So do you feel that although your mom has passed, she is there helping you into the future? Or do you feel like you need mothering, you need someone to help you and protect you like a mother does?

Just things to think about...

[mysteriousdreammer2005]

Thank you. I am happy that you mentioned that. You nailed it on the head about the novel.

I like this guy a lot. But I am afraid to aproach him because he has a girlfriend and I am afraid that if I tell him that I like him he will laugh at me and blow me off, not take me serriously. I have never been abused. Not by my family at least. I was abused by my ex-boyfriend emotionally. So that has also been tying into my relationships on other guys. I don't want to end up in a controlling or abusive relationship. Yes I feel like my mother is with me. But speaking through someone I really look up to. For example, the person that was my sister in my dream.

But it still feels like something is missing in the dream. I can't put it all together. Thanks for the help.