Family problem and being arrested

[ElRudoGrande]

I dreamed that I was eating a meal with my family. When we all finished the
main course, everyone gets desert. Each of my family members asked my grandma if she would get them their desert. She got everyone their desert and everyone was happy. I then asked her if I could have desert and she snapped at me and told me to get it myself. Strangely, in real life I would have had to fight my grandma in order to get her to relax (I'm young, I can get it myself and I'm ashamed to ask her). Anyways, after this The rest of my family looked at me disapprovingly. So I left the house.

Then I was in a large parking lot. I had a special car that was like a pop
tent. You throw a box on the ground and a big car comes out of the box. There were two cars that were overlapping a parking space (the rest of the parking lot was practically empty). Well, being a genius, I threw the box down in the small space and when the car came out it damaged both of the cars. Well, two fat ladies in another car saw everything and went to tell the police. I got in the car and tried to drive off but I was pulled over by a policeman.

I told the officer that I was sorry. He said in a calm and apologetic tone that
"Hey now, Its ok. But, what you did is a misdemeanor, so I have to take you
in." He handcuffed me in front (which is not proper police protocol) and placed me in his police car. As he was driving me to jail, all I could think about was why I didn't throw the box down where I knew there was plenty of space and how I wish I didn't screw up. I wished that I could go back and do it all again differently.

Then I woke up. Does anyone have any ides about the dream?

[unclesirbobbyrobson]

Many dreams can replay actual events and emotions within our lives. Yet they are hidden in code and symbols. In real life did you break any unwritten rules about HOW TO BEHAVE. Then did you perhaps get taken in by soime self appointed policeman or woman who decided to punish you with a look of disaproval. Perhaps you felt that how they treated you was not the correct procedure. The desert could simply link to some leisure or treat that makes you feel good.

But only you can see how these symbols relate to real life. The dream can symbolise some battle within your mind about how you behaved and how others responded.

Dreams can be premonitions. But many dreams that seem like premonitions may simply be about situations and feelings from yesterday (as we think over the previous days events). So it’s best to assume that a dream is about the day before and is personal and psychological in its origin. It’s easy to jump to conclusions about premonitions. Generally it’s best to wait and see.

In truth it’s not easy to interpret a dream especially if its not your own. A dream symbol may often link to various meanings that we can obtain from an ordinary dictionary. Dream symbols then are used as words.

A famous person may symbolize a situation where you are made to feel special. So see how you felt special or wished to feel special. But the trouble is that the words (symbols) that dreams use are difficult to understand both on their own and together (as a set of dream symbols).

Think of the word famous. Does a dream with a famous person make it easy to understand the meaning of the dream? The answer has to be no. Firstly, a famous person may link too many meaning commonly used in ordinary dictionaries. Think of the many different contexts that the word appears: "Those were his famous last words"; "He made me feel special and important - I felt like a film star"; "I really wish to become famous". So making sweeping judgments about dream symbols is pointless. A dream symbol is used in so many contexts and in such a sophisticated way that you really have to interpret it with caution.

But the study of dreams is not so pointless. We can by experience understand that dreams are very much of the moment. Dreams are linked to the way the mind studies situations. They are linked to our intuitions. The dream mind is also conceptual in its thinking so expect whatever comes out of it to be an idea or well thought out feeling. Actually the best way to interpret a dream is to write down several sentences which sum up your current feelings about yesterdays events. Add some more sentences which capture your feelings about the day to come and the future in general. You will probably end up with three or four sentences such as "I really hate the way that my sister gets me to take the blame" or "I feel really worried about my exam tomorrow" or "I wonder if my friend is unhappy as she is very quiet and acting oddly right now". It’s likely that one of these conceptual thoughts is the dreams actual meaning. Try to spot links with the dream symbols various meanings and real life. If two or three symbols match up then you have a possible interpretation.

It’s still not easy. A dream may not contain any direct connection to the situation it is about.

These pages are especially helpful in showing you how to interpret dreams

Dream symbolism and dream dictionary interpretation - How to interpret dreams Interpreting dreams
Dream symbolism - How to use dream symbols Triggers for dreams
Dream dictionary - A modern and well researched dream dictionary Dream dictionary

[ElRudoGrande]

Thanks unclesirbobbyrobson, that actually makes alot of sense. There are certain members of my family that give me a hard time because I don't live the life "that I should." One big issue is the fact that I don't go to church anymore. My whole family is Church of Christ, but I am not. Another is the fact that I'm 24 and I am not married (my attitude is, I'm 24 I SHOULDN'T be married!). And, of course, if I "fixed" those "issues" they would just find something else they didn't like about me.

I discovered that I worked so hard to gain their approval but it will never come. I am trying not to care what they think, but they are my family and it's hard. My mom told me they were coming in for Thanksgiving the other day and I guess that was on my mind. It could explain how we were all eating, they were geting along, and I was seen as an outsider and punished.

Thanks for your insight, man. And thank you for the links.