Is it normal to dream about an old flame CONSTANTLY?

[candy2130]

I am a happily married woman. My husband is my best friend and I love him very much. My issue is that I dream about my first boyfriend just about every night. The dreams are present day not recounts of the past. We are always elated to be reunited and are always in embracing. We discuss my getting a divorce so soe can be together. Sometimes Im all for it and sometimes I balk. I awaken with mixed emotions. These dreams are ruining my life. After some of these dreams I find myself really wanting to be with this other man. If anyone has any thoughts advice or answers I would be SO appreciative.
Thanks in advance

[DreamGurl]

Yeah it is pretty normal until you find someone else that squashes their memory. And usually the guy who pops up in our dream constantly like that is the guy we rejected eventhough we know he was a good guy. Don't feel guilty just move on and make sure the next person is better than the last mental/emotional marker of this ex.

[travellight]

Originally Posted by candy2130

I am a happily married woman. My husband is my best friend and I love him very much. My issue is that I dream about my first boyfriend just about every night. The dreams are present day not recounts of the past. We are always elated to be reunited and are always in embracing. We discuss my getting a divorce so soe can be together. Sometimes Im all for it and sometimes I balk. I awaken with mixed emotions. These dreams are ruining my life. After some of these dreams I find myself really wanting to be with this other man. If anyone has any thoughts advice or answers I would be SO appreciative.
Thanks in advance

Relax.....the dream is not suggesting that you divorce your current husband. It may be that because your husband is such a good friend to you that maybe you have become a little too comfortable with each other and have lost that "spark" the wild heart pounding passion we have in the beginning of relationships. The first boyfriend is just representing THOSE FEELINGS associated with that time, not HIM. Try to bring some of the old romance back into the relationship and getting the juices flowing for hubby. I think that's all the dream is about. People in dreams usually represent a quality or emotion associated with that person, not the person.
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[candy2130]

The concept that dreams about a person have to do more with the qualities of that person rather than that person makes these dreams so much easier to understand